Hi,
I'm your boyfriends ex-girlfriend.
I'm sure I've come up or eventually will and I doubt you like me. I'm probably the last person you want to speak to, but I wanted to say hi and write this letter to you. I want you to know that despite the stories you may hear, I am a good person. Yes, I have made mistakes, but I am not a bad person, and I don't think we need to hate each other.
First of all, I wish you guys the best; I really do. I hope he makes you smile and that you make him laugh. I hope you appreciate all the hard work I put into him to make him a better person, and I hope he wears all his nicest clothes on dates with you and takes you to the nicest places. I hope you give him the love and support I never could and that he gives you the love and support that I am sure you deserve.
I'm not upset or angry, and I certainly don't hate you. That's just not me. I've moved on, and I'm glad he has too. He is by no means perfect. None of us are. You are going to have to be more patient than I ever could be. He looks at life differently, and maybe you do too, but if you don't, you will have to try because I never could.
He is a bit set in his ways so you might have to take some time to finish the job I started, but you also need to realize he may never change and you have to decide if you can accept that because unfortunately, I never could. He's going to need someone who can support his goals and dreams, gently remind him of all the things he forgets and be there when things get tough. I could not be that person, but I have faith that you can.
Relationships are not easy, but if you put in the work, it can be so rewarding. I wish you guys all the love in the world, and I hope you two can find the happiness we never could. Enjoy the good and work together to fix the bad. Be the person who helps him achieve his goals, was patient when needed and who loved him through the craziness. Be the person that I never could be; do all the things I could not.