To the girl who only dates assholes,
It’s the same old thing. Every guy you date is similar. They don’t text you back, they are hard to plan anything with. They even all talk the same. Every guy reminds you of the one before and so on. It’s almost like you have fallen into a trap. The same story, your friends hate him, but you insist that he might actually not be that bad of a guy. Then he hurts you and the cycle starts all over again.
It wasn’t always like this; you used to believe in Prince Charming, but now you're convinced that he's just less an ass than other guys. It just took one guy to change how you viewed boys. It took one guy to cause you to settle. He was the first boy you ever loved, the first boy to ever make you physically be in so much pain from a broken heart. He was the guy who also made you smile until your cheeks went numb, the guy who gave you butterflies all night. He was also the guy who made you feel over and over again, that you deserved nothing more. He was what you deserved and the truth was he treated you like sh*t. Not all the guys you dated were bad, some could be really nice, but what was really interesting to you is when they were jerks to you. The semi-nice guy didn’t really become interesting to you until he stopped chasing you, when you had to work for it and when he started being an ass to you. He became the most interesting guy in the world to you.
The thing is though, nice guys kind of weird you out. They feel too clingy for you. There is something about it that makes you feel like it is very, very wrong. You want to run or you convince yourself that they are the same as all the other guys. And you don’t deserve better.
The truth is you do. One day, some asshole will come along and he will make you realize that it’s too much work to date a guy who is a total ass. It’s too much work to play games and you will start to realize maybe you do deserve better. Keep telling yourself that. No really, tell yourself every day that YOU DON’T NEED THEM. You will believe it...eventually. You will really feel like you don’t need to date a guy who is a jerk. Maybe people do change, but why would you want to wait around for someone to change? Why would you wait around for someone who doesn’t even care about you? You don’t.
Here is the thing, you probably date assholes because its familiar. You are getting really good at figuring out their games, because face it, they all play the same one. They all slightly remind you of your ex who you loved. But here is the thing, STOP! It’s an actual choice to keep texting the guy who have listed in your contacts as “F*ckboy”. So stop, text back the nice guy who just wants to buy you dinner. Maybe you're too busy dating jerks to realize the nice guy is actually a nice guy. You will never know because F*ckboy just keeps taking all of your free nights.
You really do deserve better. You really can have that relationship that you think about. The one were the guy brings you coffee when you are in the library, posts cute photos of you on his Instagram, wants to spend all day in bed with you. The guy who would do anything for you. But until he walks into your life, you have way more important things to do than sit around and wait for a guy to text you. You deserve to be praised and loved, not just because you don’t have a shirt on. Being in a relationship doesn’t define anyone. It doesn’t make you a cooler or better person. And it sure as hell doesn’t make you any less lovable or desirable. You don’t deserve to have your time wasted, so stop wasting it. I promise that a good guy will come for you, but how would you know when all you do is "Netflix and Chill"?
You are an amazing girl, you are beautiful, and any guy would be lucky to have you. The reason why people tell you how much better you deserve is because you actually do. Believe them. Any guy but assholes, they don’t deserve you because you are a diamond. Start acting like it.
Love,
The girl who understands