Throughout the course of a lifetime, you will have friends that come and go. You have some friends that are a part of your life for only a short period, and you have other friends that that are part of your life for an extended period.

Within the last almost 20 years, I have seen my fair share of individuals come and go out of my life. I have come to learn that some people only pay any mind to me when it is convenient for them. I have let people take too much advantage of me. I have driven people around all over the place.

I have a small group of friends that I have had since back in my elementary school days. Recently, we have made attempts to get together and hang out. Almost a year ago, we had successfully arranged a small together at one of our houses. It started off fine. Your fiance was hanging out in your living room, along with another couple you knew. The rest of us soon noted that he was not making a single attempt to engage in any conversation with any of us. You never even officially introduced us to him.

His excuse for completely avoiding us was that he did not know any of us. I, for one, know what is like to deal with anxiety, especially in social situations. It is a constant daily battle for me. All he had to do was come and sit with us for a little while with you and listen in to our conversation.

You always did whatever you could to make sure he was comfortable. He does not let you live your own life and do what you want to do and you seem completely ok with that. I don't understand how our friendship could suddenly mean so little and this guy took precedence over us.

A few weeks later I reach out to you thinking things are fine but all because I did not know your grandma passed away I am a bad friend. Maybe if you reached out to us more often we could be aware of what is going on in your life. Just because I do not stalk your social media or talk to all of your family members on a daily basis does not mean that I do not care. Then you reach out a year later you reach out asking us for money for a condolence gift for a mutual friend.

Here's a new flash, I am not a piggy bank nor a person you can just reach out to when you decide I am good enough to meet your needs. I never did anything to deserve this type of treatment and I remember that we had some really fun times together. I am a person with feelings who wants to be your friend and is even willing to make amends but not until you understand some of these things.

Here's to a possible friendship in the future and the hope that you realize what a valuable person I am and how I deserve to be treated.

Sincerely,

your friend?