An Open Letter To My Small Gang Of Friends

An Open Letter To My Small Gang Of Friends

A thousand "thank you"s wouldn't be enough.
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Dear small gang of friends,

Some of you have been around longer than I've known the alphabet and then some of you only more recently entered my life. I am thankful for every single one of you, though.

Whether it be a late night phone call following my break down during finals, study sessions for anatomy with an appropriately labeled picture of Channing Tatum as a study guide, shenanigans of any kind, messy Twister, or drives with Taylor Swift up so loud it drowned out our worries, it was you who kept me sane. Through high school and even when college separated us, it was you that motivated me to keep moving forward.

When life was complicated, I could say, "At least I have my small gang of friends." We made memories I will never forget, like the movie nights we spent laughing at each others' dumb commentary or the abandoned buildings we explored. Those times meant more to me than a simple get together. They were moments when I realized how I am surrounded by amazing people.

Each of you has a lot of love in your heart. I know because it takes a lot of love to handle someone like me. Each of you has been so loyal. I know because I never doubted our friendship for a moment. Each of you is so unique and getting to watch your lives unfold is such a blessing. I love seeing God work through each of your strengths and weaknesses to transform you into something breathtakingly beautiful. Getting to see how your life unfolds brings me great joy.

I want you to know I consider it a great privilege to be a small part of your life.

With all my heart,

your favorite 5'5" strawberry blonde

P.S.- Jessica, Charis, Thomas, Sam, Blake, Sarah Catherine, Katy, and Dustin if you're reading this, thank you.

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I'm The Girl Without A 'Friend Group'

And here's why I'm OK with it

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Little things remind me all the time.

For example, I'll be sitting in the lounge with the people on my floor, just talking about how everyone's days went. Someone will turn to someone else and ask something along the lines of, "When are we going to so-and-so's place tonight?" Sometimes it'll even be, "Are you ready to go to so-and-so's place now? Okay, we'll see you later, Taylor!"

It's little things like that, little things that remind me I don't have a "friend group." And it's been like that forever. I don't have the same people to keep me company 24 hours of the day, the same people to do absolutely everything with, and the same people to cling to like glue. I don't have a whole cast of characters to entertain me and care for me and support me. Sometimes, especially when it feels obvious to me, not having a "friend group" makes me feel like a waste of space. If I don't have more friends than I can count, what's the point in trying to make friends at all?

I can tell you that there is a point. As a matter of fact, just because I don't have a close-knit clique doesn't mean I don't have any friends. The friends I have come from all different walks of life, some are from my town back home and some are from across the country. I've known some of my friends for years, and others I've only known for a few months. It doesn't really matter where they come from, though. What matters is that the friends I have all entertain me, care for me, and support me. Just because I'm not in that "friend group" with all of them together doesn't mean that we can't be friends to each other.

Still, I hate avoiding sticking myself in a box, and I'm not afraid to seek out friendships. I've noticed that a lot of the people I see who consider themselves to be in a "friend group" don't really venture outside the pack very often. I've never had a pack to venture outside of, so I don't mind reaching out to new people whenever.

I'm not going to lie, when I hear people talking about all the fun they're going to have with their "friend group" over the weekend, part of me wishes I could be included in something like that. I do sometimes want to have the personality type that allows me to mesh perfectly into a clique. I couldn't tell you what it is about me, but there is some part of me that just happens to function better one-on-one with people.

I hated it all my life up until very recently, and that's because I've finally learned that not having a "friend group" is never going to be the same as not having friends.

SEE ALSO: To The Girls Who Float Between Friend Groups

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Being The Last Friend To Turn 21 Isn't ALL Bad

All your friends have turned 21, but that is okay

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You may think being the last one out of your friend group to turn twenty-one is the worst thing in the world, but in all honesty, it doesn't have to be. One of the biggest perks is that everyone of your friends can go out to the bars with you on your birthday. All the people who turn twenty-one first have to wait for people to be able to go out with them, but you get to celebrate your birthday with all of your friends.

Another huge reason you should feel okay with being last to turn twenty-one is thinking about all the money you are saving. The bars are expensive. When you don't go to the bars you are saving so much money because an average bar drink is about seven dollars. This being said seven dollars multiple times a night, multiple nights a week really adds up, so you are going to have to budget your money better.

You don't have to be the one to buy alcohol for everyone else. Having a ton of people ask you to buy them alcohol must get annoying at a point, and if you're the youngest out of your friends, no one will be asking you to do liquor store runs for them because they can all go already for themselves.

The biggest reason is that you can enjoy being young. You should still continue to enjoy going to house parties and just being able to hang out with friends without having to go to the bars. Spend these months before you turn twenty-one just being able to enjoy life without feeling obligated to go out to the bars all the time. You have a great excuse when you don't want to drink on a weekday to just stay in. This being said it will be your turn to turn twenty-one soon.

Cassidy
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