It's crazy how sometimes a friendship can grow into a personal bond with someone and you two become extremely close. You tell them all your personal secrets and about the hard times you're going through. Both open up to each other about the difficult time, but also know how to lift one another up. These are the type of friendships you think will last a lifetime. The ones that can always be counted on for anything and everything.

You assume these friendships are going to be the close-knit group everyone talks about. Tons of memories made. Pictures depicting sporadic ideas. Long nights of chatting and texting. Sleepovers and late night munchies. Trips to the local Walmart to just goof around because you're bored. Calling each other on long-distance trips.

All these aspects are what make friendships amazing; however, there are also important characteristics one should always remember to value in a friendship. These characteristics include trust, loyalty, honesty, acceptance of who someone is, willingness to communicate, and enjoying their company (most of the time). For me, these characteristics are important to have in my friends because I don't trust people easily. I look for the good in people and often give more chances out than I should even when I've been wrong.

Lately, I've been questioning my decision of certain friends because I've been noticing a continuous pattern of faults. Now, I'm not going to say I'm the perfect friend and have no faults of my own, but these were patterns that were very unhealthy for any kind of friendship. One friend in particular slowly started to lose my trust and respect for them as a person. It began with small actions I did not think much of. However, just a few days ago I found out something they did behind my back that made me lose complete faith and trust in them.

This friend (now ex-friend) went behind my back and spoke to a second party about a very private matter I had to deal with. They also broke my trust by creating a rumor out of this matter, as well as, involving my significant other in this matter. I will not go into detail due to how personal this topic is for me, but I found out this rumor had been told months after the moment had occurred. I'm thankful to the second party for telling me, but I somehow wish I did not have to find out. Unfortunately, that is not how life works.

When I found out about what this ex-friend had said, I was floored in shock and anger. I could not formulate any thought as to why they would say something so vile. This ex-friend was someone who I went to for everything. They would always be there when I needed someone to talk to or wanted to go on a random adventure.

We had good moments when we simply hung out and talked while lounging around. We always kept up with each other even during the summer break. I grew to really trust this person as one of my lifelong friends and assumed we would always have each other's backs. Man, was I wrong?

This friend broke the very foundation I built all my friendships on by backstabbing me and spreading false rumors about me. I cannot think of a moment where I did something wrong to them nor them in turn. However, when I found out about the rumors and everything else they had done to me behind my back, I knew they had lied to my face for most of our friendship.

We were always open about our thoughts and ideas which made this friendship so great. Now, I can no longer look at them the same. So, I made the decision to choose myself and my well-being over continuing a toxic friendship. To my ex-friend, I am not sorry for cutting off our friendship and to all my readers, please choose your friends carefully. You never know who could turn on you.