5 Things My 5th Grade Self Should Have Heard

5 Things My 5th Grade Self Should Have Heard

Stay a kid a little longer, it'll be worth it.

Have you ever looked at the innocence of a child and seen yourself in them? Maybe it’s the way you see the little girl next door skips everywhere she goes, or you when you look into the beaming eyes of the 8-year old girl you babysit when her face light up whenever she talks about the best new book she finished reading.

Recently, I have caught myself wondering what I would tell my 11-year-old self before I reached an era of my life full of the childlike innocence fading — learning people can’t always be trusted and mistakes are a part of life, but things will get better. Reflecting on growth past my childhood nostalgia, there are a few pieces of wisdom I would endow my 11-year-old self:

1. Not everyone is meant to be in your life forever

I remember thinking in 5th grade best friends and I (or the "Fab 5") as we called ourselves, would be my soul-mates, my bridesmaids and forever friends. Fast forward to middle school, when suddenly finding boyfriends to go to the movies with became more important than planning the next sleepover on the weekend, friendships started to turn into dust. Soon I learned girls can be mean and it's sometimes not worth it to hold onto a friendship. People come and go, but what you learned from them never changes.

2. Don't judge based on people's decisions

If there is one thing I discovered as I grew up it's that people's poor decisions don't always reflect their hearts. When I was younger (and probably way too deep into my teenage years) I had the mindset that people that did bad things, weren't good people. I have learned that some of the best people haven't made the best decisions. Just because people don't have the same choices in life as you don't make them any worse.

3. Don't be so hard on yourself

You will make mistakes. This is a part of life. This may be messing up on your math test in 7th grade, it could be saying something unkind to a friend at 16, or truly being sorry for how you acted during because you were hurt at 22. Despite your mistakes, know you are human and they are inevitable. Learn from them, accept growth and forgive yourself.

4. Not everyone can be trusted

Children tend to see the best in everyone. This trait can be carried into your 20s, to believe it or not. My best friend once said, "you biggest downfall is giving everyone the benefit of the doubt." It is good to see the best in people, but remember not to expect too much from everyone and don't take it to heart when they reflect less than what you thought.

5. It's not bad to not be in a hurry to grow up

Sometimes you're going to feel pressured to grow up. Maybe in 6th grade, your friends started talking more about boys and makeup. Perhaps in high school, everyone only cared about drinking and parties. If you're not interested in growing up fast — don't pretend to be. Staying a kid a little longer was one of the best things I could do. Growing up will happen eventually, but don't rush it. Stay a kid a little longer, it'll be worth it.

One reminder that I give myself when I decide whether or not to trust my judgment is to be some that would make my 11-year old self-proud. Children see the best in people, dream big and are hopeful for the future. No matter what grow up stuff gets in my way, I try to bring out my 11-year-old soul from time to time to remember to not take life too seriously.

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It's Time To Thank Your First Roommate

Not the horror story kind of roommate, but the one that was truly awesome.

Nostalgic feelings have recently caused me to reflect back on my freshman year of college. No other year of my life has been filled with more ups and downs, and highs and lows, than freshman year. Throughout all of the madness, one factor remained constant: my roommate. It is time to thank her for everything. These are only a few of the many reasons to do so, and this goes for roommates everywhere.

You have been through all the college "firsts" together.

If you think about it, your roommate was there through all of your first college experiences. The first day of orientation, wishing you luck on the first days of classes, the first night out, etc. That is something that can never be changed. You will always look back and think, "I remember my first day of college with ____."

You were even each other's first real college friend.

Months before move in day, you were already planning out what freshman year would be like. Whether you previously knew each other, met on Facebook, or arranged to meet in person before making any decisions, you made your first real college friend during that process.

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The transition from high school to college is not easy, but somehow you made it out on the other side.

It is no secret that transitioning from high school to college is difficult. No matter how excited you were to get away from home, reality hit at some point. Although some people are better at adjusting than others, at the times when you were not, your roommate was there to listen. You helped each other out, and made it through together.

Late night talks were never more real.

Remember the first week when we stayed up talking until 2:00 A.M. every night? Late night talks will never be more real than they were freshman year. There was so much to plan for, figure out, and hope for. Your roommate talked, listened, laughed, and cried right there with you until one of you stopped responding because sleep took over.

You saw each other at your absolute lowest,

It was difficult being away from home. It hurt watching relationships end and losing touch with your hometown friends. It was stressful trying to get in the swing of college level classes. Despite all of the above, your roommate saw, listened, and strengthened you.

...but you also saw each other during your highest highs.

After seeing each other during the lows, seeing each other during the highs was such a great feeling. Getting involved on campus, making new friends, and succeeding in classes are only a few of the many ways you have watched each other grow.

There was so much time to bond before the stresses of college would later take over.

Freshman year was not "easy," but looking back on it, it was more manageable than you thought at the time. College only gets busier the more the years go on, which means less free time. Freshman year you went to lunch, dinner, the gym, class, events, and everything else possible together. You had the chance to be each other's go-to before it got tough.

No matter what, you always bounced back to being inseparable.

Phases of not talking or seeing each other because of business and stress would come and go. Even though you physically grew apart, you did not grow apart as friends. When one of you was in a funk, as soon as it was over, you bounced right back. You and your freshman roommate were inseparable.

The "remember that one time, freshman year..." stories never end.

Looking back on freshman year together is one of my favorite times. There are so many stories you have made, which at the time seemed so small, that bring the biggest laughs today. You will always have those stories to share together.

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The unspoken rule that no matter how far apart you grow, you are always there for each other.

It is sad to look back and realize everything that has changed since your freshman year days. You started college with a clean slate, and all you really had was each other. Even though you went separate ways, there is an unspoken rule that you are still always there for each other.

Your old doom room is now filled with two freshman trying to make it through their first year. They will never know all the memories that you made in that room, and how it used to be your home. You can only hope that they will have the relationship you had together to reflect on in the years to come.

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11 Tips And Tricks To Help Get You Through The Hell Known As FInals Week

You've been preparing for this all semester, but somehow your professors expect you to remember what they talked about the first week of class?

Stressing over that one test? Or maybe those 3 tests? You've been preparing for this all semester, but somehow your professors expect you to remember what they talked about the first week of class?

They put new AND cumulative information on it and make it like 50 questions longer, but yet you're supposed to be a genius and get them all right? Well, you can do these 11 things to help you make it through finals week.

1. Listen to music.

Make yourself a bomb playlist and jam out while studying because honestly I cannot sit and study in complete silence or I might go insane.

2. Do yoga.

I have learned that this is a great way to relieve stress and to relax so that you are not all tense.

3. Eat meals at normal times.

I know it may be hard to eat on a normal schedule, but that will help you to remember the information if you can just eat at a normal time.

4. Take breaks.

Don't study for 12 hours and then wonder why you are exhausted, especially if you did not take a break. Taking a break is vital to your mental health during finals week, and you might want to be sane for that test.

5. Call home.

Call your mom or dad and just talk to them because I am sure that they are wondering about how you are doing and it is a great way to vent about how loud your roommate is being and how it is distracting you.

6. Talk to another human being in person.

Tell your friend that you want to get dinner with them or just take a break and go walk around with a friend because before you know it, you will be home for the summer, not seeing these people all the time.

7. Watch a movie after a test to take a break before you study again.

TAKE A BREAK! Just because you just finished taking a test, go do something that is not studying!

8. Workout.

Go do something productive. Working out can relieve a lot of stress for you.

9. Sleep.

GET ENOUGH SLEEP! If you do not sleep then you won't remember the material on your final and you could possibly not do as well as you would have liked just because you were too tired to remember what you studied.

10. Facetime with your dog.

This is honestly my favorite thing to do during finals week. I call my mom and tell her to get the dog ready because I just need a good stress reliever and trust me that is my dog.

11. Don't stress too much.

I know these exams are hard and mean a lot to your grade, but the more you stress the less you will remember, so just use some stress relieving techniques and you will be much better off. Don't end up like this guy!

Well here is a funny gif to start your finals week off right!

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