I Am The Girl Who Always Has More Guy Friends Than Girl Friends

I Am The Girl Who Always Has More Guy Friends Than Girl Friends

Its kind of awesome.

I think I've always been this way. Since about fifth grade on, it always seemed like I had a lot of guy friends and only one or two close girl friends. I used to think it was because I had many similar interests with the boys of my age--sports, computer games, and those tiny skateboards that you rolled over everything. The girls in my grade were more into Hollister, boyfriends, and Webkinz, and I just wasn't as crazy about it.

I distinctly remember playing flag football with the boys in elementary school, instead of sitting and watching with the girls. I played on an all-boys basketball team in middle school, instead of playing soccer like all my girl friends. I was usually sitting with boys at lunch, instead of the girls. The list goes on and on.

And although there were definitely times that I was in a friend group full of girls, the majority of the time that was not the case. It wasn't that I didn't get along with girls, or that I couldn't relate to them, it was just easier around guys. In ways, they are easier to talk to, to be around, to feel comfortable around. There's no gossip or judgment, there's no petty arguments, and there's a lot less drama.

And don't get me wrong, I still have a few close girlfriends here at school and back home, but more boys in both groups (Sorry Dad haha!) I just have always had more guy friends than girl friends. And its been awesome, I always have someone to text when I need help with my car, when I don't know what to get a guy for a gift, and when I want to play on my Xbox (yes, stereotypical I know). But more than that, they are great friends. They are honest, they don't care about clothes or makeup, and they don't get weirdly competitive (I think my middle and high school years scarred me a little bit when it comes to girls.)

I love having all my guy friends, but I also love having a few girlfriends. I need rom com nights, help curling my hair, and a girl's opinion on new outfits. These are what girlfriends are for. I need book suggestions, cute mugs, and shopping dates. I need sleepovers and GNO's and makeovers. As much as I love my boys, I need my girls. But I have high standards for those girls I have in my life (wink wink).

You can never underestimate having guy friends and you can never underestimate having girlfriends. Although I have more guy friends, I value my girlfriends just the same and my life wouldn't be complete without either of them.

Cover Image Credit: Maddi Burns

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To The Girl Struggling With Her Body Image

It's not about the size of your jeans, but the size of your heart, soul, and spirit.


To the girl struggling with her body image,

You are more than the number on the scale. You are more than the number on your jeans and dresses. You are way more than the number of pounds you've gained or lost in whatever amount of time.

Weight is defined as the quantity of matter contained by a body or object. Weight does not define your self-worth, ambition or potential.

So many girls strive for validation through the various numbers associated with body image and it's really so sad seeing such beautiful, incredible women become discouraged over a few numbers that don't measure anything of true significance.

Yes, it is important to live a healthy lifestyle. Yes, it is important to take care of yourself. However, taking care of yourself includes your mental health as well. Neglecting either your mental or physical health will inflict problems on the other. It's very easy to get caught up in the idea that you're too heavy or too thin, which results in you possibly mistreating your body in some way.

Your body is your special, beautiful temple. It harbors all of your thoughts, feelings, characteristics, and ideas. Without it, you wouldn't be you. If you so wish to change it in a healthy way, then, by all means, go ahead. With that being said, don't make changes to impress or please someone else. You are the only person who is in charge of your body. No one else has the right to tell you whether or not your body is good enough. If you don't satisfy their standards, then you don't need that sort of negative influence in your life. That sort of manipulation and control is extremely unhealthy in its own regard.

Do not hold back on things you love or want to do because of how you interpret your body. You are enough. You are more than enough. You are more than your exterior. You are your inner being, your spirit. A smile and confidence are the most beautiful things you can wear.

It's not about the size of your jeans. It's about the size of your mind and heart. Embrace your body, observe and adore every curve, bone and stretch mark. Wear what makes you feel happy and comfortable in your own skin. Do your hair and makeup (or don't do either) to your heart's desire. Wear the crop top you've been eyeing up in that store window. Want a bikini body? Put a bikini on your body, simple.

So, as hard as it may seem sometimes, understand that the number on the scale doesn't measure the amount or significance of your contributions to this world. Just because that dress doesn't fit you like you had hoped doesn't mean that you're any less of a person.

Love your body, and your body will love you right back.

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My First Year Of College Wasn’t Great And That’s Okay

I didn’t adjust as well as I thought I would, but I made it.


Everyone always raves about how much they loved their freshman year of college. The independence, the parties, meeting all these new people from different places. It's a big milestone in your life. But not everyone has an amazing first year. And I'm one of those people.

Don't get me wrong. I was so excited about college. Finally getting to be on my own, experiencing all these new things. I even met people in my class before we moved in. And the first month was a blast...but then it wasn't anymore.

Eventually, I slid into this “funk", you could say. I was depressed. I never wanted to leave my bed. Some nights, I didn't even wanna eat dinner. And soon, my friends noticed but soon just stopped inviting me out.

At first, they still would, even though the answer was always no. But I guess they got bored and tired of me always saying no.

Soon, I didn't feel like I even had any friends and at one point, I even found myself debating going home to avoid being alone in my room all weekend. I would force myself to make plans, but found myself not wanting to go out because I got ignored every time I did. It wasn't worth it.

I was homesick, isolated, and just wanted to fit in.

When the year finally came to an end, I couldn't be happier. But now that it is over and I'm home, I realize how much I miss the people that were there for me. The people that came into my life unexpectedly, but it was hard for me to really recognize they care about me.

I absolutely hated my freshman year of college. Yeah, it started out good and I found my sorority, but I never felt like I was wanted anywhere. I felt so alone. I became so incredibly isolated and distant and it took a drastic toll on me as a person.

But in spite of all that, I realize that maybe that's how it was supposed to happen. Because I'm a firm believer that everything happens for a reason and it will all play out.

This being said, my first year might not have been what I thought or hoped for. But I can truly say I am excited to see what my next year holds.

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