You Are Good Enough

You Are Good Enough

You are and always have been.
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Confidence. Self-esteem. Self-worth. Those are just a couple things that I lacked when I was growing up. I was shy, had trouble making friends, and felt like I was always on the outside looking in. As a kid, I couldn't understand why I was always by myself and why people didn't want to be my friend. Was something wrong with me? There had to be something wrong with me, right? I couldn't figure out what it was, so I came to the conclusion that I just wasn't good enough for people. That thought was engrained in my mind for most of my childhood and even teenage years. Not only did I apply this “not good enough” mindset to my friendships/relationships, I also applied it to my skills, my worth, and my ability to be a successful person.

We all have our own reasons as to why we lack confidence, self-esteem, and self-worth. That reason may be bullying, trauma, neglect, or a disorder. But no matter the origin, it's still a stinky feeling when you don't believe in yourself and when you are unable to see all the great things that you have to offer this world. It's hard to see those things sometimes when other people and the world seem to just keep telling you you're not good enough. You're too skinny. You're too fat. You're too dumb. You're too ugly. You’re not good enough to get that job, go to that school, and live a successful and happy life. The list of negative things that people say to themselves could go on and on.

Was I able to get out of the whole "not good enough" mindset? Yes. Yes I was. How? Well, it took some time and it wasn’t easy, but at one point, I just decided to stop telling myself I wasn’t good enough and tried to focus on the good things. I got fed up with the way I felt about myself and I decided to make a change in order to feel better. I stopped comparing myself to others and just focused on what made me feel good. It was hard to ignore the negative thoughts that kept creeping back into my mind. However, even though it was hard, I knew that if I wanted to have the confidence, self-esteem, and self-worth that I knew I deserved, I had to try my best to focus only on the good and not the bad. I exposed myself to people, books, quotes, and activities that helped me grow into the person that I wanted to be, despite what was “popular” and despite the fact that I may still be by myself.

Because I was still being me and doing things that made me happy, being lonely started to not bother me as much. I realized that just because I was lonely every now and then, it didn’t mean that I was alone because I have such a great family that loved me. In fact, it wasn’t until I was able to see that I was good enough that I started to become less lonely. It wasn’t until then that I was able to do things that I never thought that I’d be good enough to do. When I was able to build up my confidence, self-esteem, and self-worth, I actually started to make friends. Looking back, I don’t think the increase in friendships and my successes were because I suddenly became good enough for people. I think the reason was because I finally realized that I was and have always been good enough.

Ever since then, I don’t allow others to make me feel anything less. That thought was now engrained in my head and I’ve just been a happier and better person. Sometimes the negativity does creep back in and I find it difficult to remember my worth. But that’s okay. After all, I am only human. But the key is to constantly remind ourselves that we are good enough and we are worthy.

To the readers of this article, I would like to tell you that despite what the world and other people may be telling you, YOU ARE GOOD ENOUGH! Go for that job. Apply to that school. Talk to that person. Show this world what you’ve got and don’t let anyone tell you that you aren’t capable.

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100 Ways To Practice Self-Care In Your Everyday Life, In 20 Minutes Or Less

Simple ways to start taking care of yourself.

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Life is overwhelming and distracting so it's easy to forget about yourself sometimes, but practicing small self-care acts is easy. Making time for yourself every day isn't selfish and is really good for your mental health. I think it's important for everyone to spend time doing things that make them happy and more calm, even if you only dedicate 20 minutes each day. Putting yourself first can lead to growth so many other aspects of your life.

Obviously, each person is allowed to practice self-care in their own unique way, but here are some ideas to get you started!

1. Do something new. 

2. Make a list of things you need to get done that week. 

3. Drink some hot tea. 

4. Go for a walk on a scenic trail.

5. Paint your nails.

6. Have a good laugh.

7. Buy yourself flowers.

8. Light a candle.

9. Do some tidying up.

10. Don't feel bad for saying 'no.'

11. Listen to music.

12. Slow down.

13. Drink a smoothie.

14. Run mindless errands.

15. Write down your goals for the week.

16. Talk to someone about the future.

17. Wake up early and get coffee. 

18. Take care of a plant. 

19. Take a bubble bath. 

20. Give yourself a compliment.

21. Give a stranger a compliment.

22. Watch a movie.

23. Put your phone down.

24. Declutter your personal space.

25. Go to bed early. 

26. Pray or meditate. 

27. Go for a drive. 

28. Make it a habit to stargaze. 

29. Read a book. 

30. Read poems. 

31. Sing loudly. 

32. Make a list of things you're grateful for. 

33. Drink a lot of water. 

34. Put on make-up for no reason.

35. Watch funny videos. 

36. Take a deep breath. 

37. Distance yourself from negativity. 

38. Unfollow people you don't care to follow on social media. 

39. Have a pajama day. 

40. Read an inspirational book. 

41. Call your parents/ loved ones. 

42. Donate old clothing. 

43. Dedicate a day out of the week to not eating meat. 

44. Do a fun craft or DIY project. 

45. Put on a face mask and relax. 

46. Do a small workout. 

47. Take a power nap. 

48. Listen to a podcast. 

49. Open a window. 

50. Open your curtains in the morning to let in natural light. 

51. Make your bed. 

52. Cook dinner instead of eating out. 

53. Play/ cuddle with an animal. 

54. At the end of the day, think of all the positive things that happened.

55. Moisturize. 

56. Buy a comforting blanket. 

57. Give someone a hug. 

58. Create a vision board. 

59. Have some alone time.

60. Enjoy the sun on your skin. 

61. Dance like nobody is watching.

62. Walk in the rain every once in a while. 

63. Drive with the windows down. 

64. Give someone a gift for no reason. 

65. Get a massage. 

66. Do something that gets your adrenaline running. 

67. Spend the day at the library or a book store. 

68. Organize your work space/ binders. 

69. Spend a weekend in. 

70. Recognize hard work and reward yourself. 

71. Sign up for a work out class. 

72. Eat lunch with a friend. 

73. Spend the day helping others. 

74. Get your hair done. 

75. Have a good cry. 

76. Use sticky notes. 

77. Color code your planner. 

78. Print out pictures and hang them up. 

79. Hang motivational quotes on your mirror and read them when you get ready. 

80. Do random acts of kindness. 

81. Buy fuzzy socks. 

82. Redecorate or rearrange furniture. 

83. Be present. 

84. Set a new years resolution. 

85. Make a bucket list. 

86. Stretch in the morning. 

87. Watch an interesting documentary. 

88. Make a music playlist.

89. Watch the sunrise or sunset. 

90. Explore somewhere new.

91. Be slow to respond to negativity. 

92. Have a game night with friends. 

93. Buy concert tickets. 

94. Have a nightly routine before bed. 

95. Eat your favorite dessert. 

96. Do something you've been putting off. 

97. Invest in essential oils. 

98. Manage your finances. 

99. Buy a new outfit. 

100. Make your own gratitude list. 

Try at least one of these every week and see how you feel! I guarantee you will notice a difference in the way you are living your life.

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Am I Going To Survive This Long Winter Break?

The feeling you get when you spend too much time with your family and you're ready to be back with your friends from school

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Yay! I am all finished with my final exams and projects for my classes this semester. I made it through the first semester of tis year when I was becoming worried and stressed. Now the grades are put in and I get a nice long break to relax, celebrate the holidays and spend time with family. However, I did not think that I would be craving to go back so soon after spending a few weeks with my family. I love them dearly, but since I am used to being away from them while at school to now having a whole month and a half off from school away from my friends, I know that there are going to be times when I get frustrated with my siblings or my even parents.

Thank goodness that I have a job this seasonal time or else I do not know what I would do. This will give me some time a couple of days out of the week to have some alone time and even meet new people at my job. It is not a bad thing to need this time away from family because it's normal, so if you are feeling guilty DON'T! Now that I have a part time job I will be making money to go and spend for myself or for Christmas presents for my family and friends. This is exciting because now when my mom, sister and I go shopping I can use the money I earned instead of feeling bad when I ask if my mom can purchase it.

The sad part about being out of school for so long is that I won't be able to see my friends because they live far away. For a whole semester of seeing them whether it was in class, going on our daily scheduled breakfast, lunch or dinner date, spending countless hours in the library, or just spending time together over the weekend. Now having a whole month and a half break of not seeing them is going to be so hard. When I need to call them because I am in need of someone to talk to besides my family I know they will answer and plus I will want to know how their break is going.

The most important thing for me to remember when I do get frustrated is that my family loves me very much and this is the time of year that brings us all together. When we pray for patience in stressful situations, God gives us the spirit and opportunity to be patient. In scripture in the book of Ecclesiastes chapter seven verse eight it states, " The end of a matter is better than its beginning, and patience is better than pride". What God is telling us here in this scripture is that no matter how the frustration or argument may have started what matters is the end. God wants us to come together in love and forgive one another. Also He tells us that patience is better than pride because when we have patience for each other that is reflecting God's love.

This winter break may be long and I am thankful for it to use it as a time to relax and enjoy my family and I hop you do as well.

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