Who Are You Again?

Who Are You Again?

Sometimes you just forget who people are and that's OK.
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A person crossed my mind the other day that I haven’t thought about since high school—they weren’t a good friend of mine, just an acquaintance who was a friend of my friends. They were someone that I’d known since middle school, had been most of my classes and even sat at lunch with me for a whole year.

Then a similar thing happened a few days later when my dad brought up another person, because he likes to surprise me sometimes with his know-how about my life. This person was popular, someone I rooted for during basketball season while in the pep band, and a had been at the same school since elementary school. I hadn’t thought about this person in years.

So what makes a person memorable? Why is it that I can remember some people, but can’t remember others? I can pull some people out of my memory who I never interacted with, never had classes with and who didn’t really hold a place in my world, yet when it comes to the people I described before—among others—I draw a blank.

Then I think, what if they don’t remember me? What if no one remembers me? Because what if it’s like that thing parents tell their kids, “If you can’t see me, I can’t see you”?

The thing is, the parents are lying. If the kid is facing away, they can’t see the parent, but the parent can see the kid. If the kid’s vision is obscured, that doesn’t mean the parent can’t see them. Height, direction, vantage points, etc. are all ways that can make that scenario not work. Life isn’t so cut and dry and there’s no weird memory wipe taking our memories out of each other’s brains (but if there is a chance of that and it means putting out a call to Dean Winchester, let me know, OK?).

So what do you do about this? How do you ensure people remember you? You can’t. I wish I could imprint myself in people’s minds permanently, but I can’t. Sometimes you have to abandon names and memories of people so that you can remember new ones. It’s about choosing what you carry with you on a psychological level. The only thing you can do to stop it is try to be memorable—to stand out. Smile bigger, laugh harder, make more friends, be successful. If that all fails, bribe people with food.

Just don’t make yourself memorable because of the wrong reasons and don’t get yourself down for blanking out on someone’s name or who they were. Because I’m sure someone’s blanked out about you are, no matter who you were, are or will be.

The truth is, if we can forget an actor’s or a musician’s name or an author’s name—we can forget those who were in our lives, too.

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What Your Hogwarts House Says About You

Get yourself sorted and find out where you belong in the world of witchcraft and wizardry.
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Sorting at Hogwarts is a big deal. Being sorted into a house is essentially being placed into a family while you are away from home learning about witchcraft and wizardry. Your house is made up of the people you will live with, go to classes with, play Quidditch with and everything in between. You basically spend 24/7 with them. Your Hogwarts house is your home away from home.

When you get sorted into a house, it is based on your personality traits. The people in your house are typically like-minded people who display the same characteristics as you.

When you’re a first year at Hogwarts, the minute you set foot in the castle you are swept into the Great Hall to have the ancient Sorting Hat placed on your head. This Sorting Hat decides which “family” you’ll be spending your seven years with.

For some, it is very obvious which house they will be in, due to certain personality traits they possess. For others, they may exemplify traits that fit a multitude of houses and are uncertain where they may end up.

To find out where you belong, you can take the official "Harry Potter" Sorting Hat quiz at Pottermore.com. For all you muggles out there, these are the characteristics that the houses possess and what your house says about you:

Gryffindor: The house of the brave, loyal, courageous, adventurous, daring and chivalrous. Those who stand up for others are typically Gryffindors. Brave-hearted is the most well-known Gryffindor characteristic, and Gryffindors are also known for having a lot of nerve.

Gryffindors are people who hold a multitude of qualities alongside the ones listed, making them a very well-rounded house. People who are Gryffindors are often people who could fit nicely into another house but choose to tell the sorting hat they want Gryffindor (there's that bravery). "Do what is right" is the motto Gryffindors go by.

Being a Gryffindor means that you're probably the adventurous and courageous friend, and you are usually known for doing what is right.

Ravenclaw: The house is known for their wisdom, intelligence, creativity, cleverness and knowledge. Those who value brains over brawn can be found here. Ravenclaws often tend to be quite quirky as well. "Do what is wise" is the motto they strive to follow.

Though Ravenclaws can be know-it-alls sometimes, they most likely do know what the wisest decision is.

If you are known for being the quirky friend, the smartest in the group or just great at making wise decisions, you're definitely a Ravenclaw.

Hufflepuff: This house values hard work, dedication, fair play, patience, and loyalty. Hufflepuff’s are known for being just and true. "Do what is nice" is their motto.

Hufflepuff is known as the “nice house” and believes strongly in sparing peoples feelings and being kind. This is not to say that Hufflepuffs aren't smart or courageous. Hufflepuffs just enjoy making others happy and tend to be more patient towards people.

If you ever find that you are too nice for your own good and cannot bear to hurt someone’s feelings, congratulations, you are a Hufflepuff.

Slytherin: This is the house of the cunning, prideful, resourceful, ambitious, intelligent, and determined. Slytherin's love to be in charge and crave leadership. "Do what is necessary" is the motto of this house.

Slytherin is a fairly well-rounded house, similar to the other houses. They are loyal to those that are loyal to them just as Gryffindors are and are intelligent as Ravenclaws.

Slytherin house as a whole is not evil, despite how many dark wizards come out of this house. That is merely based on the choices of those wizards (so if your friend is a Slytherin, don’t judge, it doesn’t mean they are mean people). Slytherins do, however, have a tendency to be arrogant or prideful. This is most likely due to the fact that everyone in Slytherin is exceedingly proud to be there.

What Hogwarts house you’re in says a lot about the person you are, the traits you possess and how you may act in some situations. But in the end, your house is really just your home that is always there for you. Always.


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10 Mouth-Watering Halloween Candies To Receive

They're oh-so delicious.

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Halloween's coming and that can only mean one thing: trick-or-treating. More like: CANDY! Here is a list of my favorite Halloween candy to get your mouth watering.

Reese's Peanut Butter Cup (Halloween Style)

Wow, what a beautiful looking piece of candy.

Candy Sticks

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Wowza, I could eat these for days.

Smarties

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They may not make you smarter, but they sure are delicious.

Starbursts

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Especially the pink ones.

Candy Corn

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Although I can only eat a few at a time because they're waaaay too sweet, they make for an amazing treat.

Baby Ruth

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These may not be Halloween specific, but boy do I love them.

Skittles

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Ugh, looking into my pumpkin bag as a kid and seeing a bag of skittles made my heart happy.

M&M's

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Love, love, love, LOVE. Any shape, any kind, M&M's are amazing.

Bubblegum

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I will trade you any candy for one of these. Don't ask me why. I just will.

Almond Joy

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I've never seen a more beautiful looking candy bar...ever.

As you can tell, candy is something I am very passionate for. Are you?

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