The Lessons That Stay With You After Your First Heartbreak
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The Lessons That Stay With You After Your First Heartbreak

Everyone remembers their first heartbreak and the lessons learned from that heartbreak.

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The Lessons That Stay With You After Your First Heartbreak
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Let's face it.

We have all experienced heartbreak, but everyone remembers their FIRST heartbreak.

When I was heartbroken for the first time, I was in middle school. That may sound a little early because who really knows what love is in middle school, but I can honestly say that I fell head over heals in love with this boy. I also felt the worst I have ever felt in my whole life when we broke up.

What I thought was my forever only turned out to be my just for now. With every heartbreak you learn more about yourself and what you want in your significant other.

Here are just some of the lessons I have learned from just that first heartbreak that have always stayed with me.

The first thing I learned was that communication is everything. Talking to your significant other can clear a lot of problems that tend to fester after months, weeks, or even days of holding it in. For anyone who has been to couples counseling or marriage counseling can attest that this is repeatedly said by the therapist. It makes a world of difference.

Another lesson i learned is that the green eyed monster is very real. Jealousy was probably one of the ultimate demons in my first relationship. Constantly worrying about other girls being around my significant other was very exhausting. He had this insecurity as well and we did not help each other in constantly asking where the other person had been, who they were with, and so on. Even if i knew where he was I was always worried he was lying to me and being with another girl.

Honesty is always the best policy. Being honest with your significant other and being comfortable and trusting enough to tell them everything you are afraid of can make a world of difference. I wish I could have been more open and honest about my feelings with him, but being young and naive definitely did not help matters at all.

Throughout the years I have dated a few men, and with every failed relationship I learn a little bit more about myself, and what I need and want in a relationship.

However, those few things I learned from my first heartbreak shaped how I look at love. My wants and needs for those few things have made dating a little easier.

Maybe they will help you.

Think about what you want in your future relationships, and if you are in one think about what you love about the person you are with.

Always cherish the time you have with one another. Be confident and beautiful in yourself and know that someone will see you for all that you are.

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