You can't change someone into being the person you imagine them to be.

You can only change yourself. And right now, as you're reading this, a light is going off as you begin to realize that you need to stop being the person who always puts in the effort.

Not clicking?

How about that friend's birthday you spent days organizing and planning so she had the most wonderful day. What she do for your birthday? Nothing. Oh thats funny! Something must have come up.

How about that day of girly activities you had planned with your sister? Halfway through, she asks you to take her somewhere better? Oh don't stress it, it must have been a crazy fun time.

Or the night before you leave for college, preparing to not seeing your boyfriend for six months. You show up with a picture of you two, a long letter pouring your heart out, and all dressed for a nice dinner. He cuts it short and rushes you out to go to see his friends instead. It must have been an emergency, right? Something crucial that made him skip out on your last night together.

Everything will be fine.

Well, everything is not fine.

Why are you always the do-er and never the one being happy from all that wasted effort? You have gathered the reputation of being the nice friend. Cut it out! You must have a sign on your forehead that says, "Please, walk all over me!"

I'm not saying you should turn into a cold, heartless witch... but you have to be a little stronger than this, kid. Take care of yourself over anyone else, because when the lights turn on and the show is over, you're going to be walking yourself home and putting yourself to bed.

No one is going to do it for you.

Pleasing everyone and expecting the same maximum effort is not smart, for starters, but it's also no healthy for your fragile little heart. There will never be another person with the same soul as you. There will never be someone who loves you the way you love yourself, so why waste it on others? Buy yourself that diamond necklace, take yourself to nice dinners, and plan yourself that birthday party. If you love open fields of flowers, go take yourself on a damn picnic there. If you love funny movies, pop that corn and watch it.

Do what you love and the right people will fall into place. Choose you.