Here are some things I asked my 30-year-old self about the more experienced, patient, and wiser version of 19-year-old me. Because then I'd know everything, right?
1. Will I ever have it all together?
Define "all together." Because if having it "all together" means never being frazzled, always knowing what to do, and never feeling stressed, then probably not. But if it means knowing the purpose behind your actions, why you're doing what you're doing, who you want to be, and where you want to go, then for sure. But obviously, those things keep changing, so don't feel like there's only one set way of living your life.
2. What does it mean to be healthy?
Healthy looks different on everyone because again, there can't really ever be a set standard. Thinness doesn't necessarily correlate with health, always remember that. The most important thing is that you can eat the things you like, but obviously not all the time.
3. How hard do I really have to work?
Hard enough to reach your next goal, but never so hard that you don't feel like working anymore. Remember, breaks are life savers! No shortcuts to the good things in life.
4. What are the good habits that I should never give up?
Hard work, exercise, eating right, personal hygiene, reading, and love and respect for those around you. By doing these, you're essentially investing in yourself.
5. How do I know my career is right for me?
You've clearly put a lot of thought and research into it and gotten advice from others, so you did the best you could. Now all that's left is to try it out, really. One thing to always keep in mind, though, is to make sure that your career is something you wouldn't mind learning about for years to come.
6. I have this feeling that I need to be perfect at everything, is that okay?
Ah, the classic trap. I know it's hard, but try not to think too much about it. The important thing is to be your best at everything. And sometimes, yes, that means kicking back by yourself or with some friends. Perfection is fleeting. When we think we've found it, something changes and we suddenly need more to be "perfect." Perfection lies in contentment.
7. How can I be happy all the time?
Don't think that you can be happy all the time! I think that's where a lot of the issue starts because we have a hard time accepting that happiness isn't 24/7. You should always strive to be happy overall, and that will carry you through those rough patches. It's almost ironic, but by accepting the inevitability of discomfort, going through it becomes that much easier. Also, I don't even have all the answers. You'll get better as you keep living, so if you ever find yourself in a place where you don't know what to do next, keep on living, and something good will happen.