Advice From An Uber Driver

Advice From An Uber Driver

Sometimes, advice can come from the strangest places.
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“Honestly, can I tell you, ladies, something?”

You know that feeling when you’re in an Uber and the driver starts speaking and you, being cautious of everyone and everything, have no idea what the heck is about to happen. Well, that was me.

It was a typical college Friday night, my friends and I were in an Uber on our way to a party. If you’ve ever been in an Uber, you know they’re not stupid; they know you’re going to a party, and yes, they know that your friend in the backseat is on the verge of puking.

BUT...

My friends and I were sitting in the Uber talking about random things, when my one friend, Rachel, says something about liking a guy. Cue the Uber driver.

“Honestly, can I tell you, ladies, something? I’m speaking as the guy who knows college boys because I WAS a college boy not too long ago. If a boy isn’t giving you attention that you deserve, don’t worry about him because he isn’t worth it.”

We all looked at each other with shocked expressions on our faces. Our Uber driver??? Giving us boy advice??? What???

“And I don’t know if you guys know this or not but women are f***ing powerful. You have the power, ALL of the power. Men have no power over you. You have NO idea how much power you have.”

“College guys can suck, a lot. STD’s are a thing. Have fun but be very careful and don’t do anything that you don’t want to do. Always remember how much power you have!”

Then, we were at our destination. Typically, people can’t wait to get out of a car, but all 5 of us were so upset that our car ride was over.

He told us about his wife and his kids and how proud he is of them. You could feel all of the love in his heart with every word he said. All of us sat in the back seat in awe with this man and how genuinely good he was. His smile was so genuine.

He was right about everything, though.

I am not a feminist, at all. Nor am I one to preach about anything. I do believe in powerful women doing whatever the heck they want, however. Feminists have a bad reputation to some, but women that believe in women are a blessing.

Someone needs to believe in us because women are looked at as inferior and therefore mistreated. Women are powerful. Women are strong. Women are worth so much more than what you would believe.

So if my Uber driver ever reads this, thank you for your words and your beliefs. You are appreciated.

(Not direct quotes, just summarizations of conversation)

Cover Image Credit: Rachel Silverman

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"Aren't you afraid they'll cheat on you?"

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When you're in a long distance relationship, everyone will always have a million and one questions- usually a million more than if you were in a relationship that didn't have any distance at all. As I've been in a long distance relationship for almost 2 years now, I've learned that some questions will get asked more than once and some will be equally annoying every time you're asked said question(s). Here are x questions you shouldn't ask someone in a long distance relationship.

1. "Aren't you afraid they'll cheat on you?"

I mean, even if we lived right down the road from each other, he could very well cheat on me then. In my opinion, distance has nothing to do with it. Our relationship (and most long distance relationships) are heavily built on trust. So, no, I'm not afraid.

2. "Why don't you date someone who is close to you?"

Because it just didn't work out like that. I didn't exactly choose to date someone who lived in a different country, but that's how it turned out and although it isn't easy, we've made it work.

3. "You know a long distance relationship isn't a real relationship, right?"

How so? Are you saying it isn't a "real relationship" because we don't live right next door to each other? It's still a very real relationship whether we're living in the same house or we're 1,000 miles away.

4. "How are you able to be in a relationship who you only see from time to time?"

Exactly how you think we would. We talk every single day, mostly through text and have the occasional phone call or video chat. Is it easy? No. But is it worth it? Of course it is.

5. "How do you know he just isn't trying to move to the U.S?"

I don't think I have to worry about that.

6. "How does intimacy work?"

I'll let you think about that one.

7. "What do you do for sex? How do you deal with that?"

Well, that's a little invasive, don't you think?

8. "Oh... so a long distance relationship is like an open relationship?"

Nope. A long distance relationship is like a long distance relationship. Sure, some people have open relationships, but not us. Our relationship is just like yours and many others except we don't live close to each other.

9. "Why would you do that to yourself?"

Do what to myself, exactly? To be fair, I didn't choose to do anything to myself. The only thing I really "chose" was to be with someone who lives very far away, but we both knew what we were getting into from the beginning. So, I'm not "doing" anything to myself. We're just making the best out of a difficult situation.

Don't get me wrong, we don't mind that you ask us questions, but sometimes, you really have to think before you speak. Please stop with the invasive questions or trying to invalidate our relationship solely because we live far away from each other. Our relationship is just as valid as yours, I promise.

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My Boyfriend Is 'One Of My Biggest Blessings,' And You're Not Going To Make Me Feel Bad For Saying That

Maybe I have just seen that life isn't always filled with the very best people and to hold onto and appreciate the incredible ones you do find.

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As I was catching up with a good friend of mine today, a really mind blowing realization finally fully hit me.

I'm a lucky girl.

We were catching up on what was new and exciting in our lives as we sat on her patio furniture basking in the hot summer sun. I was mid-story, telling her a quick recap of some not-so-wonderful things I have gone through and why I appreciate the person I'm dating today so much. I told her about the endless support I have constantly and genuinely received throughout the duration of our relationship, and how this always made me feel as like he truly considered both myself and my work important.

Without even thinking twice, I out blurted "He'd support me even if I wanted to be a garbage woman for the rest of my life! If he saw that I really loved what it was that I was doing, he'd be all for it."

It took me a quick second to actually processes the complete accuracy of what it was that I just said. It was one of those moments where my mind hadn't quite caught up with the words that had just came out of my mouth.

This made me also think of a time, very recently, where I was at a crossroads in life. I wasn't completely sure what path it was that I wanted to take and whether or not I was just jumping to a quick conclusion based on my feelings in that exact moment. I was then asked, "well what do you think his advice would be?" I quickly replied, "he'd tell me to do it because it's what I love."

That very moment only stayed with me for a split second, until I found myself back in the present, sitting with her on her backyard patio chairs.

I think, sometimes, we grow so used to the the way that certain people in life treat us, that it almost becomes too normalized. We seem to forget that being made feel so special and so cared about is in fact a gift, and not just something we endlessly receive. It's a truly beautiful feeling knowing that you are loved to the point where as long as you are following your dreams, you are being fully supported. And not too many people can deem that as true.

So people can refer to me as the girl who is "so obsessed with her boyfriend." And that's fine. Maybe it's completely true. Maybe it's not. Maybe I have just seen that life isn't always filled with the very best people and to hold onto and appreciate the incredible ones you do find. It's good to sit back and realize how good of a thing we have while we still have it. And that's exactly what I'm doing to do; unapologetically.

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