Advice From An Uber Driver

Advice From An Uber Driver

Sometimes, advice can come from the strangest places.

“Honestly, can I tell you, ladies, something?”

You know that feeling when you’re in an Uber and the driver starts speaking and you, being cautious of everyone and everything, have no idea what the heck is about to happen. Well, that was me.

It was a typical college Friday night, my friends and I were in an Uber on our way to a party. If you’ve ever been in an Uber, you know they’re not stupid; they know you’re going to a party, and yes, they know that your friend in the backseat is on the verge of puking.


My friends and I were sitting in the Uber talking about random things, when my one friend, Rachel, says something about liking a guy. Cue the Uber driver.

“Honestly, can I tell you, ladies, something? I’m speaking as the guy who knows college boys because I WAS a college boy not too long ago. If a boy isn’t giving you attention that you deserve, don’t worry about him because he isn’t worth it.”

We all looked at each other with shocked expressions on our faces. Our Uber driver??? Giving us boy advice??? What???

“And I don’t know if you guys know this or not but women are f***ing powerful. You have the power, ALL of the power. Men have no power over you. You have NO idea how much power you have.”

“College guys can suck, a lot. STD’s are a thing. Have fun but be very careful and don’t do anything that you don’t want to do. Always remember how much power you have!”

Then, we were at our destination. Typically, people can’t wait to get out of a car, but all 5 of us were so upset that our car ride was over.

He told us about his wife and his kids and how proud he is of them. You could feel all of the love in his heart with every word he said. All of us sat in the back seat in awe with this man and how genuinely good he was. His smile was so genuine.

He was right about everything, though.

I am not a feminist, at all. Nor am I one to preach about anything. I do believe in powerful women doing whatever the heck they want, however. Feminists have a bad reputation to some, but women that believe in women are a blessing.

Someone needs to believe in us because women are looked at as inferior and therefore mistreated. Women are powerful. Women are strong. Women are worth so much more than what you would believe.

So if my Uber driver ever reads this, thank you for your words and your beliefs. You are appreciated.

(Not direct quotes, just summarizations of conversation)

Cover Image Credit: Rachel Silverman

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Why You Should Stop Chasing Him

You deserve better.

They say “the thrill of the chase" makes someone more enticing. There's just something about wanting something you can't have that drives you crazy (in a good way). There is never a dull moment. Pursuing him is a challenge. Nothing comes easily. What's the fun in that anyway?

I'm going to tell you this: stop chasing him. Stop forgiving him when he forgets to answer your text messages and phone calls. Stop being the one to always make plans. Stop letting him bail on you. Stop waiting around for him. Stop being lied to. Stop making excuses when he doesn't make time for you. There is a difference between someone who is “hard to get" and a flat out jerk who doesn't give you the time of day. Stop letting him use you.

You deserve to be with someone who makes you fall asleep every night in the middle of texting him because neither of you want the conversation to end. You deserve someone who plans dates for the two of you. You deserve someone who asks you to hang out before midnight. You deserve someone who wants to spend time with you just as much as you do with them. You deserve someone who insists on paying for your ice cream. You deserve someone who won't deceive you. You deserve someone who is straightforward. You deserve attention. You deserve affection. You deserve a partnership that is mutual, not one-sided. You deserve to be chased.

You are better than 3 a.m. “Hey" texts. You are better than a night spent watching a movie just to fool around. You are better than trying to decode his vague messages. You are better than his shadiness. You are better than mind games. You are better than being ignored.

If you have to chase him, he's not worth it. Don't settle for someone who makes you beg for his attention. If he is genuinely interested in getting to know you, he will put in the effort. A relationship where your feelings are reciprocated is far more rewarding than one where you constantly feel like you have to drag him along.

Change your mentality. Become more independent. Be confident, be bold. Find happiness in being alone. Don't waste your time pathetically chasing after someone who doesn't feel the same, but doesn't have the heart or the courage to tell you so. Your self-confidence and positivity will make you radiant, and eventually, you will attract the kind of guy who is mature enough to not mess with your head.

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