Freshman year of college is the most bittersweet experience a college student can have. From handling the freshman fifteen to truly understanding why finals week is accurately compared to hell.
Some things we reflect on and feel the greatest joy about, while others may be a bit more embarrassing. If I could go back, I probably wouldn't change a thing, but I would definitely love to give myself some well thought out advice.
1. It's OK to make mistakes. This is my number one piece of advice. For some reason I thought that every mistake I had made would lead to the end of the world (for me at least). Yes, most have repercussions, but they are amazing learning experiences that will help you gain so much wisdom, if you let them.
2. Be yourself. It is the first time you get an entire fresh start. Be genuine and you will find yourself around other genuine people. Now is your chance to chose who you surround yourself with, and in college, there is no such thing as "popularity." Out of thousands of people, i guarantee that not everyone is focused on you.
3. Be single. College is not a race to see who will have a boyfriend or girlfriend, and find their future spouse. These things happen when you are focusing on yourself, being the best you, and not seeking anyone. Stop expecting a guy or a girl who barely knows how to do their laundry, to be able to hold a committed relationship.
4. Balance is key. I cannot stress this enough! Don't overload yourself with six clubs, three sports, a job, greek life, and school work. You WILL suffer a nervous breakdown (I promise it's totally normal). Pick a few things you are passionate about, and put your all into each of them! Quality over quantity people.
5. Let go of the past. You aren't who you were a year ago, so move on. Let yourself grow and accept that what happened before this time does not matter. Whether it be holding on to the fact that you were a star football player in high school, or a total geek who didn't feel like they had a place to fit in, it's a new time to look forward and make something of your future self.
6. Your family is your biggest support system. Even if they are 500 miles away, they know you more than you know yourself. Keep in touch, and let your relationships grow. They are your biggest cheerleaders.
7. It's OK to be alone. No I'm not talking about being single, I'm talking about eating lunch alone, spending a day reading a book, or trying new things. Don't be afraid to go out of your comfort zone. You will learn things about yourself that you never knew existed.
8. Be healthy. Yes, you live off semi-cooked food from the dining halls. You go out drinking four out of the seven days of the week, and you neglect staying active because you are too tired to make it a priority. While the freshman fifteen is fairly normal, it is key to take care of your body. That party lifestyle catches up to you more quickly than you'd think, and you don't want to have to play catch up on gym time five years later.
While freshman year is in the past, you cannot learn unless you reflect. And since I can't go back and tell myself these things, I hope all of you future freshman take this advice in consideration. It will make a world of difference.