My Abusive Ex Never Hit Me; But He Did Other Things

My Abusive Ex Never Hit Me, But He Did Other Things

In this listicle, which may be hard for you to read, I explain ways my ex abused me without hitting me.


I only hit him on the head once or twice while fending him off of me.

1. The first time my ex physically abused me, he bit my shoulder. 

Who does that?

2. He pushed me into walls.

3. He pulled my hair.

4. He scratched my legs with his fingernails. 

5. He would take pillows and put them over my face so I couldn't breathe. 

I think this is where most of my PTSD comes from.

6. He took a piece of paper, crumpled it up, and tried to stuff it down my throat as far as he could. 

7. If I was sitting on a couch or chair and he would get mad, and he would shake it violently while I was in it.

8. He would hold my face so hard sometimes it hurt so bad and left bruises.

9. He would pin me down.

10. He would scream in my face. Shrieking. 

I'm sorry if that was a lot to read. He is currently a fugitive right now, and I think he is egging my house. Over two years later, and I still cannot seem to get away from him. Please look at my other article about the warning signs of an abusive relationship.

Here's a number you can call if you or someone you know is being abused: 1-800-799-7233.

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If you've ever experienced cyber-bullying, or if you ever feel caught up in our over-critical society, Tay Swift's new song "You Need To Come Down" is the song for you. While we live in a world with free speech, and especially as a journalist I am all for that, sometimes its best to think before you speak - or tweet. We should all try to be understanding and kind no matter what the circumstance, even if it means not clicking send on some Twitter rants. These lyrics are a friendly reminder to stay calm and focus on what's important.

1. "Say it in the street, that's a knock-out. But you say it in a tweet, that's a cop out."

If this isn't the call-out message of the year on cyber-bullying (in song, at least), I don't know what is.

2. "But I've learned a lesson that stressin' and obsessin' about somebody else is no fun."

We all need to remember at times that getting mixed up in drama isn't fruitful for our lives or growth.

3. "Like can you not step on my gown? You need to calm down."

Don't let the haters control you or stop you from living, just tell those voices to calm down.

4. "Why are you mad when you could be glad?"

Focusing on hate or being critical can be exhausting, and it's better to focus on the good things.

5. "Sunshine on the street at the parade, but you would rather be in the dark ages."

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Instead of trying to have the last word in every fight, try to be the peace-maker instead.

7. "Control your urges to scream about all the people that you hate."

Hate never made the world go 'round. Hate was never what Jesus spoke about. And some things just aren't worth using energy to yell at.

8. "But we all know now we all got crowns."

Don't be afraid to show that you are a princess and no one can take your crown.

This song is not just a collection of Insta-quotes, but also a call-out for all of us to live better lives, to remain a positive and uplifting human in this cancel culture world. By no means should we remain silent on important issues or let people get away with bad things, but we can choose to not get mixed up in petty drama that won't matter in a week. Let's agree to be kind to one another.

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It’s Okay To Let Go

If It’s Meant To Be It Will Be, If Not It Never Was


It's okay to let go of things that you are not meant to have right now or ever. It's okay to stop and start over. It's okay to have a fresh start. It's okay to let go of anything you feel is holding you back or negatively affecting you. It's okay to be selfish in this situation and let go. Whether it's a relationship, a friendship, a bad habit, a lifestyle, or anything that is not bettering you as a person, it's okay to let it go.

There are moments in life when you can and are totally allowed to be selfish. There are moments when you can and are totally allowed to put yourself first and think about yourself before anyone else. If something is holding you back, preventing you from being who you wanna be, or damaging you in any way, shape, or form, let it go. Regardless of if it's all you know, if someone's feelings get hurt, or if you're scared because you have no idea what's going to happen, be selfish and do it for you. If it's going to be better for you to do it. If it's going to take a weight and burden off of you, do it.

If you let it go and it eventually returns, it was meant to be; if it does not return, it was not meant to be. Letting go is hard and can be very scary, but it's worth it in the long run. Whatever is holding you back from letting go, you've got a better reason against it for why you need to let go. The moment you start questioning whether or not you need to let go, you should start letting go. You can do it, and once you actually do it, you will thank yourself and start to see the positive changes.


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