Thank You To My Abnormal Freshman Year

Thank You To My Abnormal Freshman Year

I took a year to myself instead of taking a year to put myself out there, and it's been a blessing.

This week, I have to pack up my dorm and say goodbye to my freshman year of college. I didn't exactly have the "traditional" freshman year. I didn't make tons of friends or join a bunch of clubs (including Greek life. This is not about Greek life.).

I didn't "find myself."

Instead, I took a year for myself.

My senior year of high school was a mix of some of the highest highs and lowest lows I've ever experienced. I was in a pretty rough place last August, and I was afraid to let people into my life again, even if they were strangers that had no preconceived notions about me. Because of this, I made the choice to step back from being the super-involved, social girl I had been for the past four years.

Sure, I missed out on a lot that I wish I had been a part of. I'm just now discovering that vast number of groups I could've joined and just how amazing my dorm community is. I'm really disappointed in myself that I'm not in the place I wanted to be at this point in my college career, but I'm so grateful I had the ability to take a year to myself.

I was able to work on my studies without much distraction, so I didn't reach the super high, self-inflicted stress levels I'd been living under for most of my teenage life. I was able to explore topics and attend events I normally wouldn't have in fear of judgment from my former classmates. I got the opportunity to relax and get myself settled.

For the first time in my life, my summer is all planned out and I'm excited to hit the goals I have in mind.

I already know much of what I'll be doing with my sophomore year of college which includes plans to branch out of my bubble I've lived in for the past school year. Unlike last year at this time, I'm confident. I know what I want and I'm in a place that I can get it. I'm set up for another completely fresh start in August, but this time I'll be able to make it what I want it to be.

As I zip my bags shut and reluctantly say goodbye to my roommate, I'll return home with a weight off my shoulders because I know I'll be coming back to a place that I'm ready to be, all thanks to the year I took to myself.

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To The Girl Who Isn't Graduating On Time, It Won't Feel Any Less Amazing When You Do

Graduating is something to be proud of no matter how long it takes you.


To the girl who isn't graduating college "on time,"

I promise, you will get there eventually, and you will walk across that graduation stage with the biggest smile on your face.

You may have a different journey than the people you grew up with, and that is OKAY. You may have some twists and turns along the way, a few too many major changes, a life change, you may have taken most of a semester off to try to figure your life out, and you're doing the best you can.

Your family and your friends don't think less of you or your accomplishments, they are proud of your determination to get your degree.

They are proud of the woman you are becoming. They don't think of you as a failure or as someone any less awesome than you are. You're getting your degree, you're making moves towards your dreams and the life that you have always wanted, so please stop beating yourself up while you see people graduating college on time and getting a job or buying a car.

Your time will come, you just keep doing what you need to do in order to get on that graduation stage.

Your path is set out for you, and you will get there with time but also with patience. The place you're at right now is where you are supposed to be. You are going to thrive and you are going to be the best version of you when you graduate and start looking for a company that you will be proud to work for. Don't look on social media and feel less than, because at least you're still working towards your degree that you are finally passionate about. You will be prepared. You will be ready once the time comes and you cross the stage, move away, and start your journey in whatever field you're going into.

Don't question yourself, and be confident in your abilities.

With love,

A girl who isn't graduating on time

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You have no right to hurt others because you don’t agree with them.


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