Why ABC's The Bachelor Shouldn't Be Your #RelationshipGoals

Why ABC's The Bachelor Shouldn't Be Your #RelationshipGoals

Do they even eat the food at their dates?

If there's one thing the hit TV show, "The Bachelor" knows what to do, it generates an audience. People gather every week to root on their favorite contestants and cross their fingers for some petty girl fights and a shocking elimination. The show has fantasy football-inspired bracket leagues, countless wine nights, and tons of girls forcing their boyfriend to watch with them the 2-hour episodes each week.

Although the extravagant dates, handsome men, and over-the-top romantic gestures have people everywhere wanting a relationship as good as the current season, "The Bachelor" is the worst indication of anything close to #RelationshipGoals.

When the show started, it was fun and intriguing. The concept of actually being able to find your soul mate through a reality TV stunt didn't seem realistic until the contestants were people you could relate to.

Whether it's the single mother, the recent college graduate, or the woman that's devoted to her career, every member of the audience can find someone they see themselves in. With everyone participating in each season striving for the same goal (love) after striking out too many times, it's hard to believe anyone would ever be there for the wrong reasons, right?

I beg to differ.

Besides the extensive casting process to see who is compatible for the lucky Bachelorette or Bachelor, as the seasons of the shows go on, the contestants seem to get crazier and crazier. It's safe to say that every season is bound to include a money- and fame-hungry person who might just want the exposure of the show for benefit in their professional lives rather than personal.

The show features around 30 contestants and the show takes around two months to film. So, let's get this straight. The Bachelor is supposed to find his soulmate in a two-month span, spend equal time with each woman, and eventually commit himself to her for the rest of their lives at the end of it?

Uh, please tell me I'm not the only one who thinks it's a little crazy. In retrospect, spending an equal amount of time with each of the contestants is far from possible. In the end, each of the women doesn't stand a chance if they don't make a significant first impression.

Though the constant filming of the show can lead viewers to believe what they are seeing is raw and relatable, the show's producers definitely have a flair for the dramatic and can edit the show how they please to portray characters in some of the contestants.

Not everything is what meets the eye, especially in show business. Most of the staging is almost too obvious to the common viewer. I mean come on, you really want me to believe you casted this girl without knowing she had a boyfriend? Good TV material.

One of the highlights of the show is the women get to travel around the world and have dates that resemble the grandest of romantic gestures. From climbing buildings, cruises, and hiking, you're bound to be disappointed by any Netflix and chilling if there's a season going on. It seems like every date with every girl is a honeymoon, so what does this tell us about relationships? If they aren't this extravagant, they aren't that authentic?

While the show is entertaining, it ingrains a somewhat unrealistic and unhealthy image of what love is. You can't be expected to be flown on private jets to establish a meaningful connection with someone in such a brief period of time. In the rare instance of a couple staying together after being on the show, I can only give the show props for introducing them, not for establishing their relationship.

Don't model your relationship goals after something made to entertain. While the cheesiness and excessive romanticism make for an addictive binge, make sure you watch the show through a realistic lens. Also, pro tip: spare yourself from the lengthy episodes and just google the winner. It will save you a lot of time that you won't get back.

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14 Inspirational 'Winnie The Pooh' Quotes For College Kids Feeling Like Eeyore

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Winnie the Pooh and his friends were my best buds as a child. Now, as a college student, I've realized they knew more about life than I thought.

These 14 quotes from the 'Winnie the Pooh' movies, TV shows, and books, is getting me through this difficult semester, and maybe it will help you, too.

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"The nicest thing about rain is that it always stops. Eventually." -Eeyore

"The things that make me different are the things that make me." -Piglet

"It never hurts to keep looking for sunshine." -Eeyore

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"Spelling isn't everything. There are days when spelling Tuesday simply doesn't count." -Rabbit

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10 Queen Songs To Get You Off Your Seat And Onto Your Feet

They created so many songs it takes hours upon hours to listen to all of them.


Queen are a British rock band that formed in London in 1970. Their classic line-up was Freddie Mercury, Brian May, Roger Taylor, and John Deacon. They are a rock icon and are making a comeback in this and the next generation because of the hit movie Bohemian Rhapsody. They created so many songs it takes hours upon hours to listen to all of them. Here is a compiled list of the best and most unique Queen jams.

1. "Bohemian Rhapsody" 


This song is a classic. If you don't jam to it when it comes on the radio then you are an alien. The 5:55-long song has so many layers and WTF moments that you can't help but sing along.

2. "Radio Gaga"

This song has a message that skims the surface. The beat keeps the song light hearted, but if you actually listen to the lyrics your world just might change. "Don't become some background noise" indeed.

3. "Bicycle Race"

This song is so weird that you have to love it. Listen to it a couple of times and it will be stuck on your head for days, trust me. This is one of those songs that you just have to hear to believe.

4. "Somebody to Love"


If you are like me, the first time you heard this song was when Anne Hathaway graced our screens as Ella in "Ella Enchanted." And while she killed it, nothing compares to Freddie Mercury. Don't believe me? Go ahead and look it up on YouTube, I dare you.

5. "I Want It All"


This is a song to make you motivated. The first beat passes through your speakers and you are ready to go. You can't help but sing along.

6. "I Want to Break Free"


The song itself is good, so good. But you won't appreciate it as much as you can until you have seen the music video for it. Once you do you will,

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b) join the Rogerina bandwagon. It's a guarantee.

7. "We Will Rock You"/"We Are The Champions"


These songs are put together in this list much like they are when played on the radio. These songs will grace stadiums until the end of time. You can't help but clap along as you listen. It is a classic.

8. "Killer Queen"


This song is a masterpiece. There are no other words to describe it. The lyrics and beat are so catchy you can listen to it over and over again, I speak from experience.

9. "The Great Pretender"


This song is amazing because of the fact that it perfectly describes Freddie Mercury. While on stage he put on a facade to hide his insecurities in such a way that only a few people were able to know the real him.

10. "The Show Must Go On"


This is another song that can get you off your butt and moving to what needs to be done. It is such a beautiful song that speaks so much truth for the men in Queen, especially in the last few years of Freddie's life.

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