Why ABC's The Bachelor Shouldn't Be Your #RelationshipGoals

Why ABC's The Bachelor Shouldn't Be Your #RelationshipGoals

Do they even eat the food at their dates?

If there's one thing the hit TV show, "The Bachelor" knows what to do, it generates an audience. People gather every week to root on their favorite contestants and cross their fingers for some petty girl fights and a shocking elimination. The show has fantasy football-inspired bracket leagues, countless wine nights, and tons of girls forcing their boyfriend to watch with them the 2-hour episodes each week.

Although the extravagant dates, handsome men, and over-the-top romantic gestures have people everywhere wanting a relationship as good as the current season, "The Bachelor" is the worst indication of anything close to #RelationshipGoals.

When the show started, it was fun and intriguing. The concept of actually being able to find your soul mate through a reality TV stunt didn't seem realistic until the contestants were people you could relate to.

Whether it's the single mother, the recent college graduate, or the woman that's devoted to her career, every member of the audience can find someone they see themselves in. With everyone participating in each season striving for the same goal (love) after striking out too many times, it's hard to believe anyone would ever be there for the wrong reasons, right?

I beg to differ.

Besides the extensive casting process to see who is compatible for the lucky Bachelorette or Bachelor, as the seasons of the shows go on, the contestants seem to get crazier and crazier. It's safe to say that every season is bound to include a money- and fame-hungry person who might just want the exposure of the show for benefit in their professional lives rather than personal.

The show features around 30 contestants and the show takes around two months to film. So, let's get this straight. The Bachelor is supposed to find his soulmate in a two-month span, spend equal time with each woman, and eventually commit himself to her for the rest of their lives at the end of it?

Uh, please tell me I'm not the only one who thinks it's a little crazy. In retrospect, spending an equal amount of time with each of the contestants is far from possible. In the end, each of the women doesn't stand a chance if they don't make a significant first impression.

Though the constant filming of the show can lead viewers to believe what they are seeing is raw and relatable, the show's producers definitely have a flair for the dramatic and can edit the show how they please to portray characters in some of the contestants.

Not everything is what meets the eye, especially in show business. Most of the staging is almost too obvious to the common viewer. I mean come on, you really want me to believe you casted this girl without knowing she had a boyfriend? Good TV material.

One of the highlights of the show is the women get to travel around the world and have dates that resemble the grandest of romantic gestures. From climbing buildings, cruises, and hiking, you're bound to be disappointed by any Netflix and chilling if there's a season going on. It seems like every date with every girl is a honeymoon, so what does this tell us about relationships? If they aren't this extravagant, they aren't that authentic?

While the show is entertaining, it ingrains a somewhat unrealistic and unhealthy image of what love is. You can't be expected to be flown on private jets to establish a meaningful connection with someone in such a brief period of time. In the rare instance of a couple staying together after being on the show, I can only give the show props for introducing them, not for establishing their relationship.

Don't model your relationship goals after something made to entertain. While the cheesiness and excessive romanticism make for an addictive binge, make sure you watch the show through a realistic lens. Also, pro tip: spare yourself from the lengthy episodes and just google the winner. It will save you a lot of time that you won't get back.

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50 Quotes from the Best Vines

If you're picturing the vines in your head, you're doing it right

In 2017 we had to say goodbye to one of the best websites to ever roam the internet: Vine. In case you have been living under a rock since 2013, Vine was -(sad face)- a website and app that took the internet and the app store by storm in Winter 2013. It contained 6-second videos that were mostly comedy- but there were other genres including music, sports, cool tricks and different trends. Vine stars would get together and plan out a vine and film it till they got it right.

It was owned by Twitter and it was shut down because of so many reasons; the viners were leaving and making money from Youtube, there was simply no money in it and Twitter wanted us to suffer.

There's been a ton of threads on Twitter of everyone's favorite vines so I thought I'd jump in and share some of my favorites. So without further ado, here are some quotes of vines that most vine fanatics would know.

1. "AHH...Stahhp. I coulda dropped mah croissant"

2. "Nate how are those chicken strips?" "F%#K YA CHICKEN STRIPS.....F%#K ya chicken strips!"

3. "Road work ahead? Uh Yea, I sure hope it does"

4. "Happy Crimus...." "It's crismun..." "Merry crisis" "Merry chrysler"

5. "...Hi Welcome to Chili's"

6. "HoW dO yOu kNoW wHaT's gOoD fOr mE?" "THAT'S MY OPINIONNN!!!.."

7."Welcome to Bible Study. We're all children of Jesus... Kumbaya my looordd"

8. Hi my name's Trey, I have a basketball game tomorrow. Well I'm a point guard, I got shoe game..."

9. "It's a avocadooo...thanks"

10. "Yo how much money do you have?" "69 cents" "AYE you know what that means?" "I don't have enough money for chicken nuggets"

11. "Hurricane Katrina? More like Hurricane Tortilla."

12. "Hey Tara you want some?" "This b*%th empty. YEET!"

13. "Get to Del Taco. They got a new thing called Freesha-- Free-- Freeshavaca do"

14. "Mothertrucker dude that hurt like a buttcheek on a stick"

15. "Two brooss chillin in a hot tub 5 feet apart cuz they're not gay"

16. "Jared can you read number 23 for the class?" "No I cannot.... What up I'm Jared, I'm 19 and I never f#@%in learned how to read."

17. "Not to be racist or anything but Asian people SSUUGHHH"

18. 18. "I wanna be a cowboy baby... I wanna be a cowboy baby"

19. "Hey, I'm lesbian" "I thought you were American"

20. "I spilled lipstick in your Valentino bag" "you spilled- whaghwhha- lipstick in my Valentino White bag?"

21. "What's better than this? Guys bein dudes"

22. "How'd you get these bumps? ya got eggzma?" "I got what?" "You got eggzma?"

23. "WHAT ARE THOSEEEEE?" "THEY are my crocs!"

24. "Can I get a waffle? Can I please get a waffle?"

25. "HAPPY BIRTHDAY RAVEN!" "I can't sweem"

26. "Say Coloradoo" "I'M A GIRAFFE!!"

27. "How much did you pay for that taco?" Aight yo you know this boys got his free tacoo"

28. *Birds chirping* "Tweekle Tweekle"

29. "Girl, you're thicker than a bowl of oatmeal"

30. "I brought you Frankincense" "Thank you" "I brought you Myrrh" "Thank you" "Mur-dur" "huh...Judas..no"

31. "Sleep? I don't know about sleep...it's summertime" "You ain't go to bed?" "Oh she caught me"

32. "All I wanna tell you is school's not important... Be whatever you wanna be. If you wanna be a dog...RUFF. You know?"33. "Oh I like ya accent where you from?" "I'm Liberian" "Oh, my bad *whispering* I like your accent..."

34. "Next Please" "Hello" "Sir, this is a mug shot" "A mug shot? I don't even drink coffee"

35. "Hey did you happen to go to class last week?" "I have never missed a class"

36. "Go ahead and introduce yourselves" "My name is Michael with a B and I've been afraid of insects my entire-" "Stop, stop, stop. Where?" "Hmm?" "Where's the B?" "There's a bee?"

37. "There's only one thing worse than a rapist...Boom" "A child" "No"

38. "Later mom. What's up me and my boys are going to see Uncle Kracker...GIVE ME MY HAT BACK JORDAN! DO YOU WANNA SEE UNCLE KRACKER OR NO?

39. "Dad look, it's the good kush." This is the dollar store, how good can it be?"

40. "Zach stop...Zach stop...You're gonna get in trouble. Zach"

41. "CHRIS! Is that a weed? "No this is a crayon-" I'm calling the police" *puts 911 into microwave* "911 what's your emergency"

42. "WHY? WHY? WHY? WHY? WHY? "

43. *Blowing vape on table* * cameraman blows it away* "ADAM"

44. "Would you like the spider in your hand?" "Yea" "Say please" "Please" *puts spider in hand* *screams*

45. "Oh hi, thanks for checking in I'm still a piece of garrbaagge"

46. *girl blows vape* "...WoW"

47. *running* "...Daddy?" "Do I look like-?"

48. *Pours water onto girl's face" "Hello?"

49. "Wait oh yes wait a minute Mr. Postman" "HaaaAHH"

50. "...And they were roommates" "Mah God they were roommates"

I could literally go on forever because I just reference vines on a daily basis. Rest in peace Vine

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28 *NSYNC Songs All '90s Girls Could Never Say 'Bye, Bye, Bye' To

Justin, Hi. Can you get this group back together?


I did a Backstreet Boys one, so now I have to switch to the other famous boy band.

Whether you liked them or not, you couldn't deny that these boys had talent. Justin, JC, Chris, Joey and Lance all sang their way into our hearts and we would never let them go. It was unfortunate that Justin wanted a solo career and that led the band to only have three albums. (Thank Timberlake...Though Chasez had a better voice!)

I honestly just bought a shirt from Target with them on it and I can't help but want them to reunite. Not for some VMA award, not for a Superbowl, I mean an actual tour...A girl can dream, right?

"Bye Bye Bye"

We obviously have to start this list off with a bang. Every single person knows this song and the words by heart...Hey maybe some of us know the dance as well

"Digital Get Down"

Now that I'm older, this song really confuses me. Computer's were not that developed to see one another. They are talking on the phone then saying they can see each other...Huh?

"Do Your Thing"

I swear I listened to this over and over during Thanksgiving when I was like six or seven. My family didn't go to my Grandma's and I was bumped until my sister let me listen to this CD

"Feel The Love"

I found this on Spotify. I was trying to find a different song of theirs and ended up stumbling upon this. If you know it, sing along but for now I don't know half the words

"Giddy Up"

One thing I've always enjoyed of their first album is Justin's voice. You can tell how young he was because his voice was a little bit higher compared to their second


Won't you be my girlfriend? Boy, you don't even have to ask me twice. You wouldn't even have to finish the song before I give you my answer

"Here We Go"

This song will not only pump you up but put you in a good mood as well. I feel like this one really put them on the map song and voice wise

"I Need Love"

This song sounds like a traditional 90's club song.I never really liked it as a kid but then it grew on me as I got older. You're missing out if you don't know it

"I Want You Back"

I always find it strange that people know this more than Bye Bye Bye or It's Gonna Be Me? Where were when those two came out? Floating in space maybe

"I'll Be Good For You"

Every time I hear this I think of First grade? Why? Because I remember singing it at recess and that is a strange memory I somehow remember

"I'll Never Stop"

I just discovered this months ago in a *NSYNC mashup. I don't know how I passed this but it fell in love once I heard it. One thing loved about them are that all of the songs are catchy from start to finish

"It Makes Me Ill"

Get a boy band who can rap. I know it's not even near rapping but it was something different than what they've done. That produced a song that's a hidden gem

"It's Gonna Be Me"

Before this became the May Meme, this song was gold. The music video was amazing to make them look like Ken dolls and they came to life...Move over Fall Out Boy and Demi.

"Just Got Paid"

Admit it, we've all sang this on a Friday when we have gotten paid. No? Okay, maybe it was just me who has done this at least once or twice...What are they wearing for that performance?

"Merry Christmas, Happy Holidays"

I used to be obsessed with this song around Christmas. Maybe I still am but I will never not sing this every December. My biggest regret was not having this on a CD

"No Strings Attached"

An overlooked song on their second album, appropriately titled No Strings Attached. The best line from it? Even the good guys get burned. Trust statement there


Remember when JT could beatbox? Yeah, that was a highlight of this song. The video was crazy down to the dancing, scenery and clothes. Seriously, who picked out their clothes...Oh wait, I think they did for this

"Something Like You"

Underrated love song ever! I could listen to this on repeat and hoping for the best in a relationship. This song is so good and charming. If you don't know this, you need to listen right this instant!


So this is a cover but this song gets a pass. It sounds like you should be on the beach with your favorite guy singing this, or actually all of them singing this to you. Can I now go to the beach, thank you

"Tearin' up My Heart"

Okay JC, take it away. Not many songs were done by one member and for him it wasn't his last. Justin had Gone but his voice wouldn't have worked for this song, sorry JT

"Space Cowboy"

This song really defines going from the 90's to the millennium. Why did everything turn futurist? That is one thing I've wondered because I thought flying cars would be made by now

"Tell Me, Tell Me...Baby"

I think that most of the songs on Celebrity go unnoticed except maybe three of them. They all are underrated and here is another case. Plus, I think a lot of girls can relate to this

"That Girl (Will Never Be Mine)"

Okay, I'll admit that my favorite member was JC because come on. His voice was amazing, he was gorgeous (Though he had questionable fashion) but any song that featured him greatly is one I'll always stick to.

"The Two of Us"

This is one of their most underrated song. I can never stop listening to this one, ever. It's catchy, it's romantic and fun. I wish there was a music video for it but of course not.

"Thinking of You (I Drive Myself Crazy)"

We all know this song and every single word to it. You want to know a secret? Listen to the version I have above. Instead of Chris having a part, most of it goes to JC and well...You're welcome.

"This I Promise You"

This was every girl's love song when they were probably twelve. Oh, look at Justin's Turtleneck...And Lance's...Chris...JC...Why doesn't Joey have one?

"U Drive Me Crazy"

Please tell me why this song isn't on Spotify? I only discovered this pretty recently and I couldn't help but add it. You may know it, you may not but what I want to know is how I never found this before

"Up Against The Wall"

Mirror mirror on the wall, who's the cutest one you saw? This song is a hit even though it wasn't one of their big ones. It's easily catchy and when I was younger I quite didn't get what kind of dancing they were doing...Until now.

Moving forward, I want you to sing each and every song on this list. Why? Because that is how we keep this spirit alive and trust me, you'll enjoy so doing it! Without anymore words, *NSYNC are back baby! At least for this article...

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