Why Waiting For That Text Back Isn’t The Most Important Thing

Why Waiting For That Text Back Isn’t The Most Important Thing

One text shouldn't drain us.


With cell phones becoming more popular social media apps and texting have become a more common way of communication. Walking around campus people are either texting or talking to someone on their phone but one thing I have also noticed is that we have begun to lose our confidence in talking to people. I have always been shy but the first thing I do when I go to a new place is pull out my phone until I see someone I know that I can talk to. As someone who is heavily involved in their social media for work and for their free time, I have started to see how social media can affect us. However, one of the biggest things I hear people complain about is how much time they use waiting for that text back from that guy or girl they really like.

When I was in high school I learned about the dangers with "double texting" someone you like and I actually use that as an idea when talking to someone I don't know too well but I have begun seeing people get upset about someone next texting back. We sometimes get so caught up in waiting for something a meaningless as a text we might lose track of other things occurring in our life. There have been countless times I have been with my friends and have regularly checked my phone waiting for that one response from a girl I liked. It made me lose track of what was going on around me and there are times I wish I didn't get so involved with texting.

Growing up I always thought the people who didn't play a big role in my life were people I needed to please. The idea that if they didn't text me back I didn't feel I was good enough but as I have gotten older I realize that texting isn't the most important thing in life. If you send a text and the person doesn't respond they just don't respond it isn't a huge deal. If I have to text one of my friends and ask them a question and they don't respond I'll call them and just leave a voicemail. We sometimes think it can be the end of the world if someone doesn't respond to us but we have to realize if someone doesn't respond it isn't necessarily against us.

There are so many people in life who love and care for us and we need to love and care for them too. Not everyone is going to respond to your text about who is going to the bars tonight but there are going to be people who respond to a text that asks who have they been and if you would like to catch up sometime. Some of my closest friends I only talk to every once in a while but they are still my closest friends because we always find a time to catch up. Some of my friends and I have known each other for more than ten years but I don't get frustrated when they don't respond.

It can be upsetting when someone doesn't reply to you but there are other things that matter in life. A text takes ten seconds to send but remember not everyone might have as much time as you. We shouldn't break our backs over someone not texting back because at the end of the day there are more important things.

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Everything You Will Miss If You Commit Suicide

The world needs you.

You won't see the sunrise or have your favorite breakfast in the morning.

Instead, your family will mourn the sunrise because it means another day without you.

You will never stay up late talking to your friends or have a bonfire on a summer night.

You won't laugh until you cry again, or dance around and be silly.

You won't go on another adventure. You won't drive around under the moonlight and stars.

They'll miss you. They'll cry.

You won't fight with your siblings only to make up minutes later and laugh about it.

You won't get to interrogate your sister's fiancé when the time comes.

You won't be there to wipe away your mother's tears when she finds out that you're gone.

You won't be able to hug the ones that love you while they're waiting to wake up from the nightmare that had become their reality.

You won't be at your grandparents funeral, speaking about the good things they did in their life.

Instead, they will be at yours.

You won't find your purpose in life, the love of your life, get married or raise a family.

You won't celebrate another Christmas, Easter or birthday.

You won't turn another year older.

You will never see the places you've always dreamed of seeing.

You will not allow yourself the opportunity to get help.

This will be the last sunset you see.

You'll never see the sky change from a bright blue to purples, pinks, oranges, and yellows meshing together over the landscape again.

If the light has left your eyes and all you see is the darkness, know that it can get better. Let yourself get better.

This is what you will miss if you leave the world today.

This is who will care about you when you are gone.

You can change lives. But I hope it's not at the expense of yours.

We care. People care.

Don't let today be the end.

You don't have to live forever sad. You can be happy. It's not wrong to ask for help.

Thank you for staying. Thank you for fighting.

Suicide is a real problem that no one wants to talk about. I'm sure you're no different. But we need to talk about it. There is no difference between being suicidal and committing suicide. If someone tells you they want to kill themselves, do not think they won't do it. Do not just tell them, “Oh you'll be fine." Because when they aren't, you will wonder what you could have done to help. Sit with them however long you need to and tell them it will get better. Talk to them about their problems and tell them there is help. Be the help. Get them assistance. Remind them of all the things they will miss in life.

If you or someone you know is experiencing suicidal thoughts, call the National Suicide Prevention Hotline — 1-800-273-8255

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My New Infatuation with Instagram

Who knew double-tapping could be so much fun?


I refused to make an Instagram for years. My friends begged me. Strangers asked me to follow them. Organizations asked me to like their pages. Even my own parents told me to make an Instagram. Everyone wondered why I did not have an Instagram account. Part of it was that I did enjoy seeing people's incredulous expressions. Secondly, it was a fun way to drive my friends crazy by adamantly refusing to make an account. The other reason was that I was too conscious of how having an Instagram account would affect me.

Therefore, on April Fools, I gave in and made an Instagram account. All my friends immediately followed my account in the first hour of its existence. I followed them back and explored the app to become familiar with it. I wondered who to follow and mulled over what to write as my bio. Are emojis too childish? Would quotes be too cheesy? I was already worried about people's perception of me before I even posted my first photo.

After the initial excitement wore off, I realized I had spent too much time scrolling through my feed (that wasn't refreshing to show me anything new since I didn't follow that many people yet). Like any other app, it was addicting, and I was only getting started. I have read article after article about how Instagram damages self-esteem, accustoms people to seeing idealized versions of everyone else's life, and its effects on mental health. As an avid Snapchat user, I did not expect myself to become too bothered by the images I would see on my feed. I saw hundreds of images and videos daily. If I kept in mind that people take the time to only show the best portions of their life, then I thought I would be fine. However, as all things, that is much easier said than done.

I have only had my account for a little over two weeks, and I have tried my best to not become obsessed with comparing myself and my life to other people's. What I didn't anticipate was the feeling of excitement as my notifications overflowed with comments and likes from my friends (and some random people I don't know). It felt invigorating to see the number of likes my first post received and the praise in the comments. Eventually, when it slowed down I was surprised to feel a bit disappointed.

This moment made me remember the real reason why I did not want to make an Instagram in the first place. I did not want to rely on other people's likes and comments to feel good. There is nothing wrong with complimenting other people and recognizing their hard work or talent. I enjoy praising my friends. Yet, it felt odd to want others to praise me because I took a few nice photos in front of pretty flowers. I love to appreciate aesthetics, but now that I have an Instagram, I must constantly remind myself that when I post, it should be for me first, and not for likes.

As long as I keep that in mind, I'll double-tap to my heart's content. What's not to love about beautiful photos all in one place?

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