Out of all the individuals on this planet, there is one grand distinguishing factor that differentiates you from everybody else.

That one factor is perspective.

If you approach a situation and seek advice for a solution, you may be presented with two completely different answers. If you ask a larger pool of individuals, you may be dealing with a billion and one potential solutions. The reason for these many 'potential solutions' is because resolutions are influenced directly by an individual's prior experiences which in turn, formulate a unique perspective.

Perspectives don't only allow people to create solutions for others, but perspectives also allow people to make excuses for themselves. Have you ever heard anybody say "If they wanted to, they would have" before?

I had a friend of mine tell me this just a couple of days ago when she was referring to her now ex-boyfriend. Well, at first I agreed with her. It is true, if he wanted to make the effort to come back into her life, he would have. But then I put some deeper thought into it.

What if he too had been thinking "If she wanted to, she would have" to himself?

What if he didn't make the effort because he thought that she would?

What if he didn't make the effort because he was waiting to see if she really wanted him to before he pushed for something she may not have wanted at all?

What if they both simultaneously thought that "If they wanted to, they would have" to themselves?

Well, that's the thing. They may have both just walked away from something that could have made them stronger. An obstacle that may have been simple to overcome, but didn't get the chance to because both parties just walked away.

Sometimes, It's all about stepping outside of this mindset, just for a second, sticking your feet into the other person's shoes and attempting to see both sides to the situation. If after trying to see the other side and still not being able to visualize it, then at least you can say you tried.

Here's another one, one that all of us have heard.

"If it's meant to be, it will happen."

Yes, also true. I know I personally rely heavily on this mentality. When life gets too confusing, or semi-difficult, many of us go straight to this idea thinking that "if it was supposed to happen, it would have happened" or "if it is supposed to happen, it will happen" and then just walk away thinking there is something better yet to come.

But then when you counter this thought and think "If you want it, you gotta fight for it," which idea wins? Which idea has the upper hand?

When looking at these thoughts on paper, "If you want it, you gotta fight for it" comes off as both more motivational and persuasive than "If it is meant to be, it will happen."

However when you're in the middle of a desperate situation, what determines the winning mindset? Is It experience? Is it emotion?

Or is it, stick with me, your perspective on a perspective's perspective?

Your past and your environment work together to guide you into a way of thinking. Sometimes you can manipulate it by making decisions outside of your comfort zone solely by looking at the scenario through a different lens. It's intriguing to think about, but even more intriguing to experience.

Then there is an example of when the two ideas switch off and then create an even more obscure 'nonsense'. When you were little your parents may have told you to dream big, they may have told you that "If you want it, you gotta fight for it.."

If you set goals, you gotta work towards them. Many people start off with this mindset but then start to slow down the process by saying "If it is meant to be, it will happen" making them lazier and lazier. By giving yourself the excuse to say "if it's meant to happen, it will," then you're slowly putting your goals on a wait list until you decide to get back on the grind and continue to work towards them.

As you can tell, perspectives are what guide your decisions and dictate which turn to take on your path. They allow you to make excuses, find solutions and make judgments 24/7. This is where the mind gets complicated, but this is where perspective gets trickier.

While there really is no "right way" or "wrong way" to approach a situation, there are definitely some thoughts to take into consideration even if the situation is personal or involving others. Perspectives play such a large role in our lives that it's become second nature. One doesn't necessarily sit down to think about what their own perspective is, it just roams freely around their brains.

However, taking the time to both gather and evaluate your thoughts can make you much more comfortable and knowledgeable on how exactly your perspective is used in your plans of action.

Again, there is no "right thought" or "wrong thought". Everyone has their own mindsets and everyone has their own approach.

Sometimes it's cool to think about these things because not everything is as black or white as many people think it is. In real life there is more than just two alternatives, more than just two solutions, and definitely more than just two perspectives.

So when it comes to your own, it's good to be aware of all other mindsets because it could potentially influence yours and guide you down a new unexpected yet beautiful path.