1. They’re super judge-y.

It doesn’t matter whether you’re telling her about that one night back at school when you had a little too much to drink or that not-so-cute boy you kissed, everything you do or say seems to displease her, and she’s not shy about showing it.

2. There are too many excuses.

You’re washing your hair. She has to iron her socks. What you both don’t realize is that you’re making excuses not to see one another. Each of you ends up in your respective childhood bedrooms for the night binging on Netflix and ice cream.

3. You’re bored.

In the middle of hanging out, it hits you. You’re so uninterested in what you’re doing and saying to each other that you catch yourself searching for a reason to leave, so that exactly what you should do.

4. There are more insults than compliments.

Every healthy friendship requires a few light-hearted digs (for your own good, of course) and that’s what you're used to. But then the comments start getting offensive, and you start to take them personally, which definitely isn’t cool.

5. You turn into her therapist.

You notice that you’re doing all the listening, while she’s doing all of the complaining. Somewhere between her whining about waking up early and grumbling about her dirt bag boyfriend, you realize you just don’t care anymore.

6. The giggling stops.

All of a sudden those inside jokes that you’ve had since 5^th grade stop being so funny. You both force yourself to laugh when really you’re cringing on the inside and sending a mental SOS to your college friends.

7. You feel like an afterthought.

Maybe you only get invited out to that party with her after she sees that you viewed her snap story with your other friends. Or maybe she mentions other people she tried to make plans with, but it didn’t work out. You feel like a last resort, and that’s not okay with you.

8. There’s a lot of fighting.

You notice that every little squabble you two have gets blown way out of proportion.Not being able to decide on what movie to watch turns into World War III where she brings up that one time you had a bowl cut in 4^th grade, and you kindly remind her of the “emo” phase she went through freshman year. Nice.

9. It’s a lot of work.

You notice that you’re absolutely exhausted after a day with your friend. Trying to please her by doing something interesting and saying the right thing has worn you out. Maybe all that work isn’t worth it?