It's no secret that most of the time when people enter into relationships, it will end. Either it ends in a few months or after a few years but some of us get lucky and find our person young and the rest of us end up heartbroken again and again while searching for the one. It can be an exhausting and overwhelming experience but these are some of the best tips and lessons that I have learned when trying to get over heartbreak.
Tip #1: Leave them alone
Even if you want to just check in on them, chances are they just want some space so give it to them and then maybe try talking in a couple of weeks.
Tip #2: Delete, Mute, or Block
Depending on how the breakup went, you may need to remove them from social media. If it's as simple as unfollowing then do that but some of us should really consider blocking our exes-at least for a little while. For my twitter fam, if you don't want to block or unfollow them just mute them for a couple weeks if you need too.
Tip #3: Spend time with your friends
I know the first thing I wanted to do after my break-up was spend some quality time with my girls to forget about all the madness. Of course the topic came up but it was short lived and they made me feel a lot better!
Tip #4: Alone Time
Spending time with your friends and family is just as important as alone time during this transition. If your significant other was in your life for 5 years or even 5 months, you have to get used to going back to life without them which might seem weird to say but it's true. Spend some quality time with yourself doing what you love and reminding yourself that everything happens for a reason.
Tip #5: No Rebounds
Many people suffer from the rebound disease. As soon as they break up with someone, they have someone else in a week. Take it slow. Make sure you are comfortable on your own again before adding another person in the mix. Take your time with your next relationship and don't rush into things just because you are lonely.
Tip #6: Pros and Cons
Remember why you broke up. Chances are the cons outweighed the pros. Think about the things you could've done better and work on them for your future relationship. Remind yourself of the things maybe you didn't enjoy as much from your significant other and keep that in the back of your mind when trying to date again.
Tip #7: Be Mature
This one is the most important. Regardless of the circumstances (even if they cheated), it's no use bashing them on social media and saying negative things every chance you get. Is it wrong to cheat? Absolutely, but doing all of that doesn't really help you feel better.
Tip #8: One day at a time
It won't happen overnight or even in the next couple of weeks so just take it a day at a time. Keep moving forward and stay positive.
"If you love something, set it free. If it comes back, it was always yours"