8 Lessons I Learned In 2017

8 Lessons I Learned In 2017

The choice is yours, choose wisely.
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While the year 2017 was not the greatest, it taught me many great lessons about friends, family, and just life in general.

1. Not everyone deserves your love.

If 2017 taught me anything, it was that you get to choose who you surround yourself with for a reason. If someone, whether it be a friend, a family member, anyone really, is not treating you the way you feel that you deserve to be treated, then stop keeping them in your life. There are billions of people in the world. There will always be someone else that WILL treat you with the respect and decency that you deserve.

2. Family is not always blood.

Growing up, people have been taught that family is who you are related to by blood. That’s changing in this day and age. Some children are adopted and loved by their adopted parents more than they ever could be by their birth parents. That’s family. Some children surround themselves with friends who will love them more than their abusive parents at home. That’s family. Family can be chosen based on the way people love you and treat you.

3. You don’t have to be the best.

There will always be someone that will outshine you in school, extracurriculars, hobbies, etc. That’s okay. Don’t keep pushing to be better than these people because you will only crush your self-esteem in the end. Do your best at whatever it is because your best is enough.

4. Fear is easily overcome.

So many times fear has taken over our lives and prevented us from doing things that could’ve changed us for the better. The thing people don’t realize is that this can easily be changed. Surround yourself with people and things that make you stronger than whatever fear it is you are facing then allow them to help you go out and face it. Letting fear control you will hold you back from so many amazing opportunities. Build up your strength and then push yourself to the next level.

5. Self-love isn’t selfish.

There will be times when you are not feeling sufficient amounts of love from friends and family and you will need to find a way to build yourself back up. This is the time to stop and love yourself for a change. Look in the mirror and realize how incredible it is that you are pushing through this immense challenge we call life and be proud of yourself; not everyone made it this far. Give yourself the rest that you deserve and stop pushing yourself around at the will of other people. At the end of the day, this can only make you stronger.

6. Rise above.

People are not always as good as they may seem and can change from good to bad in the blink of an eye. There will always be pain and hurt in this world. The best way to get through this is to rise above it all. Take everything that is handed at you and overcome it. Don’t get angry, insulted, or even heartbroken by the little things that get thrown at you in your day to day life. When you realize that it’s not too difficult to push past it all, you’ll be living a much better life.

7. Love with all of your heart.

While it’s true, not everyone deserves your love, the people who do deserve it, deserve it wholeheartedly. Show them the kind of love that is unconditional and devoted. Love them so much that your heart actually aches with passion. Love them even when they upset you. Love them when they’re so hurt that they cannot fathom showing you the same type of love. The people that deserve your love should get all of it, not just one tiny bit. The people that truly deserve your love will love you as hard as they can in return.

8. Choose happiness.

Happiness is a choice. You cannot really be happy until you choose to be. No one can help you feel happiness, nor can anyone take it away from you. Happiness will not just magically come to you, it can only come from your heart when you decide to let it. The choice is yours, choose wisely.

2018 is a brand new year and a chance to start anew. Take these simple lessons that I learned in 2017 and allow them to help you become a better you in the New Year.

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13 Summer Struggles Only Thick Girls Understand

Chaffing. So much chaffing.
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Summer is a lovely time. A time of cookouts, swimming and sunny weather. But if you're a "thick girl," summer sometimes brings more unpleasantries than it does for slimmer women. No matter how beautiful and confident you are in your body, it can bring some struggles.

1. The living hell that is shorts shopping

Step 1: Find the biggest size the store has.

Step 2: (If you can even get those on): Realize your stomach is being squeezed into the top, your butt is falling out of the back and your thighs are having the life squished out of them.

Step 3: Realize why winter isn't so bad.

2. And dealing with them even after finding a pair that "fits"

Nothing like taking a pair of shorts home you remember fitting you okay in the store and then walking for 45 seconds and pulling them out of your butt or crotch 17 times. Truly a magical experience.

3. And every bathing suit you try on shows more skin than you'd planned

Even the most conservative bathing suit turns into cleavage-city and a non-cheeky set of bottoms turns into a thong. I promise, older people glaring at me in my sexual bathing suit, I didn't mean for this to happen!

4. Chaffing. So much chaffing

No better feeling than 4 minutes into wearing short shorts realizing that your inner thighs are literally tearing themselves apart. Body Glide and baby powder are a thick girl's #1 necessity.

5. Loving rompers. Rompers not loving you.

Rompers are made with short and skinny girls in mind. Heaven forbid you're not short, and heaven forbid you're not skinny. Rompers are like a mystical article of clothing that, no matter what, always just barely doesn't fit.

6. Imagining wearing a sundress with a strapless bra and just laughing

Of course, not all thick girls are well-endowed in the boob department, but if you are, you understand how hilarious the thought of you wearing a strapless bra truly is.

7. And bralettes are a thing of fantasy

Once again, bralettes are designed for a very specific body type. One that I do not fall into.

8. Feeling like you need to constantly defend yourself for dressing like you want to

There are so many posts and tweets and just general ideals that people have that certain sized women can't wear certain clothing. You shouldn't feel the need to defend yourself for wearing a cute crop top or a bikini, but you will.

9. And always feeling looked at when you're rocking your swim suit

Yes, I see your judging eyes, and yes, they are making me feel like shit. It doesn't matter how confident you are in your body, people looking at you like you just killed somebody just because you're wearing something typically made for smaller women doesn't make you feel good.

10. Did I mention chaffing?

I just felt like something so horrible couldn't just be mentioned once.

11. Online shopping for cute summer outfits and then none of them fitting you correctly

There's always the dreaded "one size fits all" for plus-sized women. As if there's just one way to be plus-sized. No matter how much they promise online that it'll fit well, it won't.

12. Seeing tiny girls complaining about losing their "summer bodies"

So many tweets talking about choosing food over a summer body. So many profile pictures of traditionally skinny women. I'm not saying that thick girls are the only ones who can complain about their summer bodies, and thick girls do not have a monopoly one not feeling confident in their bodies. But it is hard to see those posts knowing that those women would be glorified in their swimwear while you'd be gawked at.

13. The "you go girl!" comments on your oh-so-brave bikini photos

Compliments are nice, and positive comments while wearing a bikini go a long way. But the dreaded "you go girl" comment just seems so condescending. Just treat me like anyone else you'd see wearing a bikini. I promise, I'd like to feel like that.

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9 Cute DIY Projects For Your Spring And Summer Apartment Decor

Bring some sunshine into your apartment this season.
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The warm weather is finally here, which means it may be time for some of you to spruce up your apartment with some spring and summer decorations. While stores like HomeGoods can offer some great discounts, you may be able to save a few dollars and add to your crafting skills with these DIY apartment decor ideas.

1. Trendy rose gold wreath.

Who knew a hula hoop could make such a great floral wreath? The trendy rose gold mixed with the simple faux florals make this a great piece to welcome guests or to hang almost anywhere on your wall.

2. Rustic mason jar sconce.

Make just one sconce or arrange multiple on your wall to add a splash of color and springtime to your home.

3. Mini Easter egg succulent planters.

Plastic Easter eggs are either tossed in the trash or saved in a cardboard box until next year. Repurpose them into these adorable succulent pots! They're so small that they can be an accent in almost any place in your apartment!

4. Farmhouse pitcher centerpiece.

Find a cute pitcher at TJMaxx or Target and fill it with real or silk flowers for a cute farmhouse centerpiece. If you don't have a table or an island, display it on the kitchen counter or coffee table.

5. Flower letter.

Grab a hot glue gun and get crafting! A cute floral letter like this one could work as a door hanger or wall art. Personalize it with different flowers and accents. If you live with roommates or a significant other, have them make one, too! It would make a great addition to a collage wall.

6. Hexagon wall shelves.

These shelves are super modern and could be used year-round, but they are ideal for adding greenery around springtime. With cardboard being the primary material for these, the price tag stays relatively low for this DIY project!

7. Pineapple glasses.

Pineapples are always in for spring and summer. You can apply this design on different styles of glass too, like wine glasses for a summertime girls' night.

8. Punny welcome mat

Guests with a good sense of humor will enjoy this welcome mat, and it'll make you smile every time you brush off the dirt and sand from your shoes.

9. Indigo pillows.

Summer and tie-dye have gone hand and hand for me since I was a little girl. These pillows are an awesome way to go back to the fun of tie-dying your own summer camp shirts.


You don't need to make something totally different to decorate for the warmer months. You may be able to repurpose things you already have. Add a fresh, bright coat of paint or buy yourself flowers every once and a while.

Enjoy the warm weather, rain showers, and fresh flowers!

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