8 Guys You'll Date In Your 20s.

8 Guys You'll Date In Your 20s.

The best and worst time to date; your twenties.
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"I'm just gonna wing it."

Our 20s are just as confusing and awkward as our middle school days. Nothing really goes right, you're either too old for "this" or too young for "that". Then, once you thought your life couldn't get any more complicated, you throw dating into the mix. You're at the age where you're like, "Are we doing this or not? Because I have wine and Netflix to catch up on." Whether he's a good guy or a bad guy, here are the eight guys you'll encounter in your 20s.

1. The Guy Who's Still In Love With His Ex Girlfriend.

This is the guy that you thought was perfect for you (finally). He does almost everything right, he calls you regularly and takes you out on sushi dates. You think you finally found "the one", but then, wait, red flag, he still texts his ex? Does he like her pictures on Instagram? Hmmmm. He'll tell you that "they're just friends, and you're overreacting", and you don't want to seem crazy, so you let it go. Well fast forward three months, you guys stop talking and he's dating her again. Boy bye.

2. The Guy Who Is Way Too Nice.


OK, we know it sounds contradictory, but it happens. This is the guy that every time you go on a date, he does the most, even if you're just going to Starbucks. He'll send you sappy messages about how beautiful you are and how he can't imagine being with anyone else. Maybe he's just being sweet, he is the nice guy after all. But then he starts talking into the future about houses, and marriage and KIDS?! No no, too soon. Now, it's time to dump him because he creeped you out, and he'll probably text you in a couple weeks to see "how you're doing."

3. The Jerk.

This is the guy who you'll end up dating for a while until you realize what an a**hole he was. He was amazing in the beginning, but then the relationship started to suck. He starts bailing on the Friday movie nights and starts ignoring your texts. He's probably just "with the boys", yeah OK. The day will come where you know you deserve better. This is the relationship that will teach you chicks before pricks, always.

4. The Temporary Guy.

You don't really see a future with this guy, and that's OK (for you at least). He's the guy that will never know much about you because you don't care enough to actually go on a date. You see each other from time to time to hook up, and you never have to call him. It's the best of both worlds while it lasts.

5. The Guy You Take Out Of The Friendzone.

You've been friends with this guy forever. You met either in high school or college and could talk for hours about anything. You realize that maybe you're blocking out a relationship that could be really great. Well, after a few weeks it just feels weird that you're dating one of your best friends. Say hello to one awkward breakup and an even more awkward friendship (if you can even get back to being friends again).

6. THE EX.


Classic, the ex-boyfriend. The guy you'll always go back to after getting your heart broken. He's probably "The Jerk" or "The Guy Who Is Way Too Nice", but either way you don't want to feel lonely for the time being. You think he's changed or whatever since you've been apart (he hasn't). This is always a bad idea, but we do it anyway. When will we ever take our best friend's advice and leave this "ex" alone?

7. The "Bad Boy".


Oh, the bad boy, the one we all think we can change. For some reason, we're all attracted to the boy who keeps his life a secret. They love to take risks and find adventure and we love the masculinity about it. He effortlessly gets any girl he wants, and we think we're the girl who's gonna make him "fall in love." Wrong, the bad boy never falls in love, and when he does, he'll break your heart. Move on.

8. The Guy Who Got Away.

This is the guy we always regret losing when we look back on it. You should have ended up together long term, but a series of unfortunate events got in the way of it. You weren't ready to have a serious relationship, and the timing was off. You'll always wonder why something perfect couldn't work out.

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A Senior's Last Week Of High School

The bittersweet end.
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Well, this is it. This is what we've worked so hard the last four years - who am I kidding - basically what seems like our whole lives for. This is the very last week we will set foot as a student in our high school's hallways. As most schools are getting ready to set their seniors free at last, it all begins to set in - the excitement, the anxiousness, and also the sentiment and nostalgia.

For seniors, the years since our first day as a freshman at the bottom of the high school totem pole have seemed endless, but as we look back on these last few weeks, we realize that this year in particular has gone by extraordinarily fast. It was just yesterday that we were sitting in our classrooms for the very first time, going to our 'last first' practice, and getting our first taste of the (very real) "senioritis". With all that's going on in our lives right now, from sports and clubs, finals, and the sought after graduation ceremony, it's hard to really sit down and think about how our lives are all about to become drastically different. For some it's moving out, and for some it's just the thought of not seeing your best friend on the way to fourth period English; either way, the feels are real. We are all in a tug of war with the emotions going on inside of us; everything is changing - we're ready, but we're not.

THE GOOD. Our lives are about to begin! There is a constant whirlwind of excitement. Senior awards, getting out of school early, parties, and of course Graduation. We are about to be thrust into a world of all new things and new people. Calling our own shots and having the freedom we have so desperately desired since the teenage years began is right around the corner. Maybe the best part is being able to use these new things surrounding you to grow and open your mind and even your heart to ideas you never could before. We get the chance to sink or swim, become our own person, and really begin to find ourselves.

Things we don't even know yet are in the works with new people we haven't even met yet. These friendships we find will be the ones to last us a lifetime. The adventures we experience will transform into the advice we tell our own children and will become the old tales we pass down to our grandkids when they come to visit on the weekends. We will probably hate the all night study sessions, the intensity of finals week, and the overpowering stress and panic of school in general, just like we did in high school... But it will all be worth it for the memories we make that will outlive the stress of that paper due in that class you absolutely hate. As we leave high school, remember what all the parents, teachers, coaches, and mentors are telling you - this are the best times of our lives!

THE BAD. The sentimental emotions are setting in. We're crying, siblings are tearing up, and parents are full-out bawling. On that first day, we never expected the school year to speed by the way it did. Suddenly everything is coming to an end. Our favorite teachers aren't going to be down the hall anymore, our best friends probably won't share a class with us, we won't be coming home to eat dinner with our families...

We all said we wanted to get out of this place, we couldn't wait, we were ready to be on our own; we all said we wouldn't be "so emotional" when the time came, but yet here we are, wishing we could play one more football game with our team or taking the time to make sure we remember the class we liked the most or the person that has made us laugh even when we were so stressed we could cry these past few years. Take the time to hug your parents these last few months. Memorize the facial expressions of your little sister or brother. Remember the sound of your dad coming home from work. These little things we take for granted every day will soon just be the things we tell our college roommate when they ask about where we're from. As much as we've wanted to get out of our house and our school, we never thought it would break our heart as much as it did. We are all beginning to realize that everything we have is about to be gone.

Growing up is scary, but it can also be fun. As we take the last few steps in the hallways of our school, take it all in. Remember, it's okay to be happy; it's okay to be totally excited. But also remember it's okay to be sad. It's okay to be sentimental. It's okay to be scared, too. It's okay to feel all these confusing emotions that we are feeling. The best thing about the bittersweet end to our high school years is that we are finally slowing down our busy lives enough to remember the happy memories.

Try not to get annoyed when your mom starts showing your baby pictures to everyone she sees, or when your dad starts getting aggravated when you talk about moving out and into your new dorm. They're coping with the same emotions we are. Walk through the halls remembering the classes you loved and the classes you hated. Think of the all great times that have happened in our high school years and the friends that have been made that will never be forgotten. We all say we hated school, but we really didn't. Everything is about to change; that's a happy thing, and a sad thing. We all just have to embrace it! We're ready, but we're not...

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10 Ways You Know He's Just Not Into You, If You're Being Honest

Let's be honest, we've all seen the signs, even when we wish we didn't.

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Because we live in the era of dating through social media, it seems so much easier to fall for someone with the constant conversation that we are able to have. However, it isn't long until that special part backfires and sends us into crazy town, which relates to the fact that we're unable to identify actions and intentions over a text message, but what does that matter when all you ever see is "Read 10:27 p.m."?

I've collected the 10 signs that we've all probably seen from a guy that they've talked to but have fallen victim to their lovely ignoring tactics.

1. They leave you on read. All. The. Time. 

I mean come on, this is obviously the number-one reason to believe that he probably isn't that into you. Don't ignore the fact that you're left on read for hours at a time because no guy doesn't have their phone for hours. That's just a fact.

2. When they do answer, they use three words. That's it.

OK, so yay, he finally answered you. HOWEVER, when he is constantly using three words OR LESS, he's probably either super busy (less likely), or he thinks you're annoying or boring. Or both. I've gotten that a few times, and it is just lovely.

3. You text first.

While I realize that a woman sending the first text isn't weird, trust me, I'm guilty of it, and, because of it, I have had some of the best relationships produced. However, if you add the first three signs, it's a recipe for disaster already. You may as well detach yourself from your phone or make his name something that you can laugh at when he does decide to text you back. If you are constantly having to text him with ideas or start a conversation, then he is probably trying to hit up someone else, despite all your tries.

4. He cancels plans out of the blue.

OK, sure, there really are emergencies that come up throughout life, and we all know that. But I would like to know how things come up that you either forgot about or they just magically appeared on your calendar, because that just seems illogical and fake. Call me insane, but girls are far from stupid, and if he thinks that he's clever, he really has a reality check coming his way.

5. He's never too busy to post on Snapchat.

This is what I don't understand: a guy can go 24 hours, sometimes even longer, without texting you back. Which is literally the biggest load of bull that I have ever seen in my life because we all know that they are almost incapable of keeping their phones out of their faces, yet they still use the "Oh, sorry I fell asleep" excuse.

Oh, you fell asleep for 15 hours? OK, Brad. Anyway, they can spend the entire day doing everything they can to ignore you, whether it's turning off their read receipts or, sometimes, literally ignoring the Messages app. HOWEVER, you can get on Snapchat and see that they've posted a story. So, cool, you're too busy to text someone back but never too busy for Snapchat? Seems like a logical excuse to me. (insert extreme sarcasm here).

6. He isn't too concerned about your whereabouts.

Ladies, if he doesn't ask how you are (you know, without you starting off with that question, because it is only polite that he ask it back in normal conversation), then he probably doesn't care. And this isn't to say that no guy is ever going to care what you've done with your day, or that they have to ask you all the time what you were up to (let's be honest, that's just as annoying).

However, if he doesn't seem interested in knowing what you do on some days, even on bad ones, then he probably doesn't care about the rest of the conversation.

7. He takes everything too seriously.

The world shouldn't be so serious all the time, and everyone likes to have fun! If you're constantly having to apologize for making a joke or your playfulness just isn't reciprocated, then he just isn't into you. If feelings are the same, you can have fun and be serious (when needed), and it makes for a better life together!

8. He doesn't support what you want to do.

If you have the "What do you wanna do after graduation" conversation and he doesn't support the career you want:

1) He will never be OK with being with someone that he doesn't approve of, and

2) Leave him because you deserve to do what makes you happy as well as someone who will support you while you do it.

And that's just the tea, sis.

9. He will never invite you out with his friends.

With a brand new relationship, this is OK, especially if you're just getting to know each other. But, after a few weeks of talking and having decent conversation, there should be some sort of comfort level that would convince him that his friends should meet you.

However, if you're constantly hinting that you're free on a night that he's going out, he's either really stupid, or he doesn't want his friends to know that you exist. This sign really sucks because it makes a girl feel like he either has a night out with just the boys, or he is completely looking in the opposite direction of you and your feelings. Nine times out of 10, it's the second option.

10. He won't talk about his feelings with you.

Here's the kicker. You can call and leave a message or send a long text explaining how you feel, even if you think that he will ignore it (which is crazy that we have to worry about that nowadays). However, even if you ripped your own heart out and handed it to him on a silver platter, the answer you'll receive back is never what you want to hear. In my experience, they mostly work themselves around the question you're asking, and you will be able to tell by their response just how little they really care about you.

If you're like me, explaining your feelings is so hard to do to someone that you have feelings for, and you're almost afraid to tell them how you feel because you don't want them to get scared away. But sometimes, it is better to know the truth about their feelings than to keep pretending as though everything is OK.

The thing is ladies, guys do kinda suck sometimes. However, when you find the right person, you'll never think twice about these stupid signs or even that you may have gone a few hours without talking to each other.

My advice to those in weird situations, as in you really don't know what the heck is going on with a guy, is to just ask him how he feels. Obviously, if he doesn't seem enthused, then he isn't the right one. And sometimes, they will say that they're into you, but it seems that they will later change their minds and go back to the same old ways of harsh ignoring. No matter how afraid you are to know, you can't spend your whole life worrying that he may not like you back.

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