7 Things You Should Include In Your New Years Resolution

7 Things You Should Include In Your New Years Resolution

Make this your year.

It’s almost 2018, and I really cannot believe it. This time of year people tend to begin to reflect on the last year. Some of you may realize you experienced a lot of changes, some good and some not so good. Some of you may reflect and realize you didn’t accomplish as much as you had hoped to but that’s okay. We have this opportunity in front of each of us to reevaluate how we want 2018 to go. I know for myself in the past I would make a lot of superficial goals for the New Year but I want this year to be different. I want to come out of it a better version of myself. If you are aspiring for this year to be your year of growth and happiness then here are 7 Things you should have as your new years resolutions:

1. Stop looking to others to make you happy.

This one is an important one because many of us do it without even realizing we do. Listen to me when I say no one is responsible for your happiness except yourself. You have everything you need inside of yourself to be happy you just have to understand that while others can spark happiness, they are not responsible for keeping you happy all the time. People let you down but it’s up to you the way you react. Aspire to be and spread happiness this year.

2. Remove the toxicity in your life.

You do not deserve to have anyone in your life that brings you down. Toxic people are truly the worst type of people because sometimes you can’t even tell they are bad for you till they have affected you in some negative way. Take the time to evaluate the people in your life. Do they make you a better person? Do you feel joy when you’re with them or think about them? Do they want what’s best for you? If any of the answers to these questions is no, then you should take a step to set boundaries between them and yourself.

3. Be healthy.

This is not the typical “lose weight” goal because that shouldn’t be the goal. This means live a healthy lifestyle. Take care of yourself your mind, body, and soul. Put your health in the number one priority spot this year and watch the way your body and overall energy changes.

4. Be open

Being open means a lot of different things. Sometimes, at least for me being open is really hard. Being open in relationships is often scary especially if you have been hurt before. But you can close-up forever just because you are scared to get hurt again. It is all apart of life you have to be open and willing to experience new things, new people, loves, places, passions, anything. You have to fight the urge to close up and be willing to take a chance and experience what comes into your life.

5. Make mistakes.

If you are not making mistakes you are not living. We are all humans, humans make mistakes all the time. No one can live a perfect life no matter how hard they try to. Don’t be one of those people who puts on an act and tries to pretend they have everything under control at all times. Being “perfect” is one of the most unappealing qualities a person can have in my opinion. No one likes a know it all. You shouldn’t strive to be perfect because you will never achieve it. You should strive to be the best version of your self you can be. You should be willing to make mistakes and learn from them because that’s the only way you grow.

6. Step out of your comfort zone.

I know for myself at least that I have a lot of goals for my life. Many of which I will never be able to accomplish just sitting around waiting for them to come to me. The very popular quote, “Life begins at the end of your comfort zone” could not ring truer. Life gets started when you start taking risks and start trying new things, don’t wait till life passes you by and you look back and wish you did more while you could

7. Love more deeply.

Whatever you do in life the most important thing is to love and love deeply. When it comes to loving your job, you should truly love what you do and if you don’t then quit and find something you are passionate about and fall in love with it. If we are talking about friends, you should have the type of friendships in your life where you have a true love for them as people and you can trust them with your whole heart. When is comes to a relationship, if you say you are in love with someone it should be the type of love that is passionate and consuming, with person who makes you better and puts you first. No matter how crazy your family is or if your family isn’t blood but friendships that have formed into family, they love you and want what’s best for you, love them with all your heart, and be thankful for them.

Take this year and use it to become better. Try new things, meet new people, try and fail and try again, love and love deeply. Take charge of this year and make your year!

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A resounding 'thank you' to whoever decided one-pieces were cool again.

We grew up thinking the world was black and white. There's tall people and short people. There's old people and young people.

There's fat people and skinny people.

But as you get older, you realize there is a lot more in between those two ends of the spectrum than you ever thought possible. Especially when it comes to weight. And you do a lot more realizing if you're in an awkward position on that scale... Literally.

1. People always tell you to stop saying you are fat

Obviously, your friends SHOULD prevent you from talking negatively about yourself. And if you only saw you when you were fully dressed, you'd probably tell yourself to stop saying you're fat, too.

2. And are kind of surprised by your actual weight

You've definitely had friends who are shocked by the number on your scale because you can carry it pretty well when you are fully dressed.

3. Sometimes you feel like a catfish

Have you ever changed out of your super cute, flattering outfit and looked at yourself in the mirror and thought... Wow, am I lying to people?

4. But you know this is probably true for most people

When you're wearing clothes, typically the parts of a body that bring about insecurities (stomach, namely) are covered. No matter the body type, you realize most people are more comfortable in clothes than out of them.

5. Your confidence is often contingent on the month

November? Yep, won't need to be in shorts or a bikini for about 7-8 months. I am good to go.

February? I'll need to be in a bikini soon.. I could use some work.

6. You are thrilled by the one-piece bathing suit making a fashion come back

A resounding 'thank you' to whoever decided it was time to give one-pieces a try again. The stomachs of us in-between gals are appreciative.

7. Crop tops are 95% of the time not your top of choice

Yeah, okay, clothes are supposed to work for me and not against me.

8. You honestly don't understand jean sizes

I have fluctuated in weight a lot of my life, most recently losing 25lbs, and I still did not budge in jean sizes.

9. You wonder what other people think when they see you

Do other people see me as thin in clothing? Or fat in a bikini? What size am I perceived as?

10. Shopping is kind of a nightmare

Have you ever found about 27 items you liked, added the prices and thought, ah, it is going to be so tough to choose from all of these items? Only to go into the fitting room and realize only 2 of the items fit you well? Yep, me every single time I go to the store.

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11. You're thankful that at least you've got boobs

You can kind of hide them in clothes, and then let them steal the show away from your tummy in a swimsuit.

12. You have a hard time setting weight-loss goals

You aren't really sure how overweight you are (if you are, at all) and you don't want to be at an unhealthy weight on either side of the spectrum.

13. Body positivity comes and goes

There are days, weeks or even months when you feel like the most beautiful person on the planet, and then something happens (old jeans don't fit, you try on a new bathing suit, etc.) and you convince yourself that all of that confidence was wrong and undeserved.

14. You always try on the biggest size first

Either this or you're in a weird limbo between the smallest plus sizes size and the biggest generic sizes size.

15. Half of you knows every body is a bikini body, and half of you is convinced that yours is not

You know that your body is worthy of wearing whatever you want to wear, but looking at yourself and seeing what society (and you) sometimes deem as unattractive can eat away at that knowledge.

16. But you also know self-love and confidence are key to beauty

Even if you have to fake it, you know that feeling confident is going to carry you pretty far.

17. Being in a bathing suit is a constant game of readjustment

Okay, I am sitting. Pull the bottoms up to cover as much as my stomach as possible and the back of the top down to cover any back rolls.

18. You've avoided the mirror after a shower before

You know that you are just going to lose all the comfort you felt in your body during the day when you see yourself, so sometimes it is best to just avoid it.

19. Ultimately, you know your beauty is not contingent on what you are wearing

The goal for everyone should be to get to a point where it doesn't matter if you're in a snowsuit, a bathing suit or a birthday suit... You can see your beauty no matter what and feel confident despite what you have on. It'll take time, but falling in love with the way you look is worth it.

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Life Is Like The Seasons, Bloom Baby Bloom

Patience and a good attitude are all it takes and in no time, you will be blooming too.

Life can be compared to flowers.

We go through stages where things are cold and dark, much like winter. In these stages, our lives can seem dead much like flowers are dead in the winter. However, life has summer stages where everything is warm and happy. In these states of our lives, we are like flowers.


Freshman year of college has been a total period of growth for me. I have come to the University of Kentucky and I have been exposed to many new things and have had several experiences I would not have had if I would've stayed in the bubble that is my hometown.

I have had incredible experiences that have allowed me, for lack of a better word, BLOOM.

Moving six and a half hours away from all my friends and family posed several concerns. Despite all the excitement, I was terrified.

This was the first time I was going to be independent without my parents there to hold my hand and walk me through new experiences. Taking that fact with a grain of salt, I packed my stuff up, said goodbye to my family and friends, and embarked on a journey that would change me forever. College.

Here I was a very excited yet terrified freshman going through sorority recruitment. I was scared I wasn't going to fit in anywhere and find my forever home. I was wrong.

I then fell in love with the sisterhood and the women of Rho Iota. Phi Mu became my forever home and with that, came another stage of blooming.

In my first year as a member of Phi Mu, I became involved in things like intramural sports, external philanthropy events, and best of all, I joined an irreplaceable sisterhood.

To me, Phi Mu has become something I will be forever thankful for. Through Phi Mu, I was also blessed with an amazing Pham that has become a huge support system thus far.

Moving away was one thing that scared me, but the thing that scared me the most was the unknown of making friends and finding a family away from home, but I was given that through my sorority.

Obviously, I chose UK because I wanted to further my education as well. I am majoring in Integrated Strategic Communication and I couldn't imagine being on a different path for my future. I see myself being extremely happy with this as my career path.

Yet again, I am given another opportunity to bloom.

So, with all of that being said, to those who feel they have not had their opportunity to bloom, it will come. College is a huge place. There are so many opportunities on campus to be successful and the number one way to do this is to be alright with the process to take time.

Blooming and thriving are things that do not happen overnight. It takes you being open to change and being accepting of some failure along the way.

Patience and a good attitude are all it takes and in no time, you will be blooming too.

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