When you first meet someone, you don’t know quite who they are just yet. As time goes on, you learn more about them, right? I’m here to give you some tips to help you realize when and if someone is abusing you in a relationship. It can come in many ways. The biggest thing and best thing you can do for your self is to pray and pray like never before. Sometimes relationships can become toxic, and that’s a relationship you don’t ever want to be in. Here are some signs to help you figure it out:
1. You are afraid to tell him your feelings.
When you aren’t comfortable sharing your feelings with your supposed other half, that’s one of the number one signs you are in a toxic relationship.
2. He turns each and every situation onto you, as if it’s your fault, and you start to believe it.
Blaming is a no go. It’s not cool, and it's not OK. If a guy is blaming you for something that was out of your control and something you didn’t even do, run away from them fast.
3. He pressures you physically beyond what you want to do.
If a man is in a serious relationship with Jesus and he really cares about you, he isn’t going to pressure you at all. If your man is pressuring you into things you don’t want to do, it’s a sign you need to walk away.
4. He takes you away from your family and friends.
When you get secluded away from your friends and family, that’s a huge red flag. Your friends and family should be involved in your life and not taken away from it. Don’t let him make you think your family and friends aren’t important, because they are important. They love you, and God gave them to you for a reason. Hold on tight to your friends and family.
5. He becomes jealous and says you don’t trust him.
If there is no trust in the relationship, it will go downhill fast. Jealousy is also not a good thing. If a man is unhealthily jealous you need to walk away from him
6. When you lose yourself...
If you’ve felt like you’ve lost yourself, it’s time to find yourself again. I promise you, you will findyourself. It takes getting yourself away from the guy and finding healing, help and hope. Jesus heals every area of our lives, and He will show you who you are again. Cling to Jesus, friends. He only has good plans for you.
7. You spend 24/7 with them.
Time apart from your man is a healthy thing. Being with your partner for 24 hours and seven days a week is a huge sign that you are in a toxic relationship. It’s unhealthy. Even most married couples work at two different jobs and don't see each other. You need your time apart, but that time apart makes it better once you are with your partner in person.
If you feel like you just can’t breathe, I encourage you to pray and pray like never before. When you pray, you are just simply talking to Jesus, like you would with your mom or dad or best friend. The Jesus I’m talking about is the one and only one that rose from the dead 2,017 years ago. He is alive today. Jesus knows every little detail of your life and your relationship. It’s okay to cry. But can I tell you something? There are better days up ahead where there’s joy and laughter. Hold on tight to Jesus. He won’t leave you or forsake you. He is fighting for you, on your behalf.
Hold on sweet girl, revival is coming.
There arebetter days up ahead — God has your back and he will bring you to see those beautiful days. He will show you how good he is and how faithful He is. Trust Him. He can be trusted, I promise you that.