7 Reasons To Appreciate Your Older Sister

7 Reasons To Appreciate Your Older Sister

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Everyone loves to be spoiled, spoiled with items, love, and a lot of attention, but no one can have this forever, right? That’s why my parents, after four years of spoiling one little girl, decided to bring another daughter into the mix.

I’m sorry to my older sister, Lakyn, who had to give up some of the attention she was used to having so that I could have some, too. I appreciate my older sister for countless reasons, but here are seven very important reasons.

1. She was my first friend.

Making friends can be hard when you’re young because you have to learn to build your social skills. This is why having a sister is so great: she will never hesitate to tell you the things you should and should not say. She will always correct you if you misuse a word, and she will give her opinion on every single thing you say. Gift and a curse? But a blessing, nevertheless.

2. She takes the pressure off me.

Growing up, I feel like I was a pretty well-behaved child, but maybe I felt this way because my sister was always the one getting into trouble. Any time she got scolded, my parents would look at me and say something like, “I hope you’re learning from this too!” Trust me, I learned a lot from watching my sister; for example, I found out early that if you want to sneak out of the house, make sure you put the screen back in your window when you’re done, and be sure not to stomp down all the landscaping in front of the window. Thanks, Lake!

3. She helps me when I’m scared.

When I was little, I was scared to death to sleep in my own bed by myself, so my sister would sleep with me. I wasn’t allowed to snuggle with her, of course, but when she would fall asleep I would make sure I was touching her somehow, so I knew she was still there. When I went to college I was terrified I wouldn’t make good enough grades or make any new friends, but Lakyn always told me I would be fine, I could do it, and I would meet friends if I put myself out there. She seems like she’s never afraid, which I envy. She’s always taking trips and never thinking twice about anything that could go wrong.

4. She doubles my clothing inventory.

Having a sister with cute and expensive taste is actually very beneficial for me as well. This means we can share! Whenever I cannot find anything to wear or I just need more options, I can walk right across the hall and into a whole new world. She has more shoes than I do hairs on my head. She has pants, shirts, sweaters, and dresses of every color. She’s usually very generous with letting me borrow things, but sometimes when she has somethings she’s just too in love with to let me wear, I respectfully wait until she leaves the house to go in a take it… She’s the best dressed sister around!

5. We laugh until we can’t breathe.

Lakyn and I might argue quite often, but we can also get one another laughing pretty easily as well. We are constantly laughing at our mom, at our childhoods, or at the gym floors at First Baptist – sorry for the inside jokes. She says the most hilarious things, and most of the time I have no clue where she comes up with her signature phrases. My favorite memory of laughing with my sister is definitely a certain trip to Steak n Shake where I made a fool of myself and embarrassed my family, but Lakyn kept laughing at me, so of course that just made me continue. She is so entertaining. I can’t help laughing when we spend time together.

6. We can keep secrets.

One thing that is truly great about having an older sister is being able to talk to her about millions of different things. I talk to her about my failures, successes, and things I wouldn’t want anyone else to know. I know if I’m thinking of doing something completely against what my parents would want for me, I can tell Lakyn. Keeping secrets from your parents really brings siblings closer together. I also love hearing her latest secret shenanigans. Hey, Lake, let’s get matching tattoos and not tell Mom, okay?

7. We are 100% different from each other.

My sister is six-foot tall and blonde… The complete opposite of my physical appearance, but appearance is not what I mean when I say we’re different. Our personalities are very divergent. My sister is impulsive, adventurous, and my mom says irresponsible. I’m OCD and usually won’t do something until I’ve asked a million questions. She’s constantly doing something wild or traveling to a random place with her friends. She once invited me to her house in Evansville, Indiana to spend Halloween with her, and then she gave us all the great idea that we should drive all night to Florida so we could “Boo at the beach.” We made it three hours in the car, slept at a rest stop, and headed back home the next morning… She does inspire me to be more fearless and care less about planning. I guess opposites attract because sometimes we actually enjoy each other.

Sometimes I scream until I’m red in the face because Lakyn does stuff like borrow my black dress and accidentally bleach it, and sometimes we argue in front of people, and they think we might start swinging. In all honesty, however, she is my bestie. The good overpowers the bad, and we actually love each other. Yes, we do! Thanks, Lakey. Thanks for still acting interested when I talk about 20-year-old experiences and thank you for always treating me like we have the same last name. Half-sister has never crossed my mind because I love you with my WHOLE heart!

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10 Things You Learn Being Stuck As The Middle Child

While being stuck in the middle can suck, I guess I wouldn't have it any other way.

I'm sure I've said it before, and I know I'll say it again: I'm the third of four kids. And while, yes, there is a somewhat significant age gap between me and the older two, I have been stuck in the middle for quite a while. From the minute my younger brother was born to the minute my older brother left for college, I was the middle child. Honestly, I was probably a very stereotypical middle child, too.

Despite some of the downfalls of being in the middle, there are some perks too. Here are 10 things we, as the middle children, know to be true.

1. You're basically a ninja...

You pretty much fly under the radar most of the time. While the older sibling(s) is(are) off doing one thing, and the younger sibling(s) is(are) off doing another, your parents' attention is usually all on them. This is both a blessing and a curse, but you can typically coast by a lot of the rules when you want to.

2. ...until your parents decide to overcompensate.

Some parents are more aware than others of the middle child syndrome. Some parents handle it better than others. Most parents try to fix it by overwhelming constant attention for hours on end one random day every four or five months or whenever they feel they've been more neglectful than usual to make up for all the days, where their attention was essentially focused anywhere but you.

3. Someone has done it before you.

No matter what you do, someone has already done it first. Soccer practice may have been new to you, but your parents know the routine and they flew you through it faster than you could figure out what the fuck shin guards were and why you needed them. You were really cute at the kid's choir Christmas concert...but so was your older sibling(s) when they did it, and someone is sure to show you the video of it if they can find it.

4. Someone will do it after you.

While the oldest gets to be able to do everything first, the youngest goes through all those firsts last, but your parents cry a little more because their the last 'firsts' any of their kids will go through. They're as much of an emotional wreck over your younger sibling(s) riding a bike on their own for the first time as they are about their firstborn receiving their diploma. With you, they've already been through it before and they'll go through it again, so it's not quite as "real" to them.

5. Your siblings have no idea how you do it.

Seriously. They have no clue. For the most part, they think how your parents treat them is the norm for all the other kids, too. They have no idea how you get away with so much and are very jealous.

6. You're the mediator...

When tensions seem to be running high, you usually try to step in and keep the peace. Either with a witty comment or a completely random thought to divert attention elsewhere, you've probably gotten pretty good at resolving conflicts.

7. ...or you're the instigator.

Sometimes things need a little spicing up at home, and sibling drama can be fun to watch when it's over something petty and won't last longer than 24 hours. But there's no need to get your hands dirty yourself. One well-placed comment while one of your siblings is nearby is usually enough to light the fire that leads to a day's worth of laughter for you.

8. Patience is a virtue.

You've become a master of patience. You kind of have to wait for a lot of things you want, so you really didn't have a choice on that one.

9. Negotiation is a skill.

But while you mastered the art of patience, you also picked up on silent negotiation. By waiting everything out, whether it be a sibling's sporting event, going to their theater production or volunteering to go grocery shopping with your parents, you know that by wracking up all these brownie points it'll be hard for your parents to say "no" to whatever it is you're asking for, since you've been so good.

10. Compare and contrast.

You're always being compared to your siblings. Whether by teachers, parents or friends, no one hesitates to point out similarities and differences. Sometimes teachers even carry over biases, good and bad, left over from the older sibling(s) that ultimately affects how you fare in the class.


Not every situation as the middle child is the same of course. People are different (it's kind of their thing), but the gist of being the middle child is pretty much contained here on this little list. We aren't our siblings, no matter how many similarities. We can sometimes be glossed over. Sometimes we light the fire and sometimes we put it out. We're stuck in the middle which, yeah, can suck a lot of the time, but we don't know what we'd do without our siblings so I suppose we wouldn't have it any other way.

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To My Baby Brother On His 18th Birthday

I guess you're not so little anymore.

Congrats! You're legal!

Well... sort of. You can vote and buy lottery tickets, but you can't drink. You're also a legal adult in the eyes of the law, so remember that next time you go out and do crazy stuff with your buddies. It's almost a little bit scary, right? You can get in all of this trouble AND you're going to lose your hour-long breaks at work, but I promise you it isn't that bad. Don't get too nervous yet.

Even though this year is one of the scariest of your life, it's also one of the most amazing. You're getting ready to start the next chapter of your life!

You'll start taking some college classes soon and before you know it you'll have a full-time job. Your friends won't be far behind you. You'll all be able to go on adventures outside of our little hometown and you'll find yourself doing things you never would've dreamed of.

Keep an open mind at all times and don't be afraid to try new things.

I will always be here for you when life gets rough. Being your big sister is one of my greatest privileges, I'm so blessed to have you as my brother.

Even though we hated each other for the majority of our middle school years, I'm glad we've made it to where we are now.

You are one of my favorite Snapchat streaks, my most heartwarming phone call, and my most loving hug. I hope you always love "The Polar Express" and playing with our little cousins. I hope you always keep that goofy smile on your face while you tell silly jokes and stories about crazy people in the grocery store.

You have filled your 18 years with love and you have brought happiness to everyone close to you. Your sweet heart and kind spirit are worth more than you know in this world, and they will take you so far. Thank you for being the sweetest, most generous, most loving, and all around best little brother that anyone could ask for. I love you so much, Bubba.

Happy 18th birthday.

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