7 Reasons To Appreciate Your Older Sister

7 Reasons To Appreciate Your Older Sister

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Everyone loves to be spoiled, spoiled with items, love, and a lot of attention, but no one can have this forever, right? That’s why my parents, after four years of spoiling one little girl, decided to bring another daughter into the mix.

I’m sorry to my older sister, Lakyn, who had to give up some of the attention she was used to having so that I could have some, too. I appreciate my older sister for countless reasons, but here are seven very important reasons.

1. She was my first friend.

Making friends can be hard when you’re young because you have to learn to build your social skills. This is why having a sister is so great: she will never hesitate to tell you the things you should and should not say. She will always correct you if you misuse a word, and she will give her opinion on every single thing you say. Gift and a curse? But a blessing, nevertheless.

2. She takes the pressure off me.

Growing up, I feel like I was a pretty well-behaved child, but maybe I felt this way because my sister was always the one getting into trouble. Any time she got scolded, my parents would look at me and say something like, “I hope you’re learning from this too!” Trust me, I learned a lot from watching my sister; for example, I found out early that if you want to sneak out of the house, make sure you put the screen back in your window when you’re done, and be sure not to stomp down all the landscaping in front of the window. Thanks, Lake!

3. She helps me when I’m scared.

When I was little, I was scared to death to sleep in my own bed by myself, so my sister would sleep with me. I wasn’t allowed to snuggle with her, of course, but when she would fall asleep I would make sure I was touching her somehow, so I knew she was still there. When I went to college I was terrified I wouldn’t make good enough grades or make any new friends, but Lakyn always told me I would be fine, I could do it, and I would meet friends if I put myself out there. She seems like she’s never afraid, which I envy. She’s always taking trips and never thinking twice about anything that could go wrong.

4. She doubles my clothing inventory.

Having a sister with cute and expensive taste is actually very beneficial for me as well. This means we can share! Whenever I cannot find anything to wear or I just need more options, I can walk right across the hall and into a whole new world. She has more shoes than I do hairs on my head. She has pants, shirts, sweaters, and dresses of every color. She’s usually very generous with letting me borrow things, but sometimes when she has somethings she’s just too in love with to let me wear, I respectfully wait until she leaves the house to go in a take it… She’s the best dressed sister around!

5. We laugh until we can’t breathe.

Lakyn and I might argue quite often, but we can also get one another laughing pretty easily as well. We are constantly laughing at our mom, at our childhoods, or at the gym floors at First Baptist – sorry for the inside jokes. She says the most hilarious things, and most of the time I have no clue where she comes up with her signature phrases. My favorite memory of laughing with my sister is definitely a certain trip to Steak n Shake where I made a fool of myself and embarrassed my family, but Lakyn kept laughing at me, so of course that just made me continue. She is so entertaining. I can’t help laughing when we spend time together.

6. We can keep secrets.

One thing that is truly great about having an older sister is being able to talk to her about millions of different things. I talk to her about my failures, successes, and things I wouldn’t want anyone else to know. I know if I’m thinking of doing something completely against what my parents would want for me, I can tell Lakyn. Keeping secrets from your parents really brings siblings closer together. I also love hearing her latest secret shenanigans. Hey, Lake, let’s get matching tattoos and not tell Mom, okay?

7. We are 100% different from each other.

My sister is six-foot tall and blonde… The complete opposite of my physical appearance, but appearance is not what I mean when I say we’re different. Our personalities are very divergent. My sister is impulsive, adventurous, and my mom says irresponsible. I’m OCD and usually won’t do something until I’ve asked a million questions. She’s constantly doing something wild or traveling to a random place with her friends. She once invited me to her house in Evansville, Indiana to spend Halloween with her, and then she gave us all the great idea that we should drive all night to Florida so we could “Boo at the beach.” We made it three hours in the car, slept at a rest stop, and headed back home the next morning… She does inspire me to be more fearless and care less about planning. I guess opposites attract because sometimes we actually enjoy each other.

Sometimes I scream until I’m red in the face because Lakyn does stuff like borrow my black dress and accidentally bleach it, and sometimes we argue in front of people, and they think we might start swinging. In all honesty, however, she is my bestie. The good overpowers the bad, and we actually love each other. Yes, we do! Thanks, Lakey. Thanks for still acting interested when I talk about 20-year-old experiences and thank you for always treating me like we have the same last name. Half-sister has never crossed my mind because I love you with my WHOLE heart!

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15 Things You Realize As Your Baby Brother Grows Up

No matter how old he gets, he will always be your baby brother.

Despite the fistfights and days of locking each other out of the house, a little brother is one of the biggest blessings you can receive. Most sisters can agree that they probably bossed their brothers around a lot when they were younger (and probably still do). Most sisters have also most likely forced their brothers to participate in many games that were only enjoyable for one party (baby dolls, house, dress up, etc.)

As a little brother grows up, you start to realize a lot of things as they become your lifelong best friend. Here are 15 of them:

1. He will outgrow you

Even though you were once able to beat him in a wrestling match, and have a fair game of tag, as you get older, he begins to pass you up in size and you realize it probably isn't in your best interest to pick a fight.

2. Teenage boy sass is a real thing

So many times, girls get a bad rep for the teenage phase, but let me tell you, teenage boys have just as much sass if not more than the average hormonal girl. But you also realize that you will get through it, and he is still your sweet brother somewhere deep, deep down.

3. He will go through a phase when he is too cool for you

Your whole life you have been used to your little brother looking up to you and wanting to be just like you and do all the things you do. This probably really annoyed you at some point too and I know I found the words "stop copying me" coming out of my mouth a lot. Don't wish it away, enjoy these times because there hits a point where he will want to do their own thing for a while.

4. He will begin to form his own opinions, and he is actually really smart

He still looks up to you, but there comes a time when he actually starts to contradict and challenge your opinions, and his arguments are surprisingly really good. You learn a lot from your little brother, so start listening to what they have to say sometimes.

5. No girl will ever be good enough for him

When he brings a girl home, you can't help but judge everything about her (no pressure) because to you, no girl will match up to his awesomeness. You know you are annoying, over-controlling, and overly judgmental, but you can't help it, he is your baby brother after all.

6. Regardless of how old or big he gets, if anyone messes with him, you will "beat them up"

I am not a fighter, but somehow anytime someone messes with my little brother, I get the ego of Muhammed Ali and believe that I can beat anyone up. Even now that he has outgrown me by about six inches and 50 pounds and is definitely a lot stronger than me, I still threaten to protect him because for some reason I feel like I can defend him better than he can himself. If anyone shoves him on the soccer field or says something mean to him at school, all of the sudden the big sister is the most intimidating and feisty little 5'4" girl there is out there.

7. He has your back

The once quiet and shy boy you outspoke as a child is not afraid to stand up for you. Even if he knows you're wrong, he is just as protective of you as you are of him and he will always be there for you whether you need a shoulder to cry on, you've had a fight with your friends and need someone to talk to, or a guy blows you off and you just need dairy queen and a movie night.

8. People will think he is your boyfriend and vice versa

As little kids, you were obviously the big sister, but now that he has outgrown you, hit puberty and matured, people mistake him as your boyfriend all the time. When you go to dinner and get the "you are such a cute couple" comment, you can't help but laugh.

9. All of his academic success is obviously all thanks to you

All the days you forced him to play "school" with you and tried to teach him everything you knew paid off because he actually knows what he is doing now. You're welcome.

10. Every year he turns another year older, you freak out because you remember how old you felt when you were his age, and it is not possible for him to be that old

No, no, no. He is little. He cannot drive just because he is 16. That is scary. [Only you were mature enough and ready to drive at 16.] There is no way that he is already 18 and can vote. You will never get used to the fact that he is growing up at the same pace as you are.

11. He is the one person who defies your theory that you are never wrong

He always has your best interests in mind, so if he disapproves of a guy, or questions a choice you are making, he is most likely right, just listen to him. Seriously, it will save you time in the future.

12. You will always worry about him

Yes, you are annoying and you know he can handle himself, but the thought of him ever getting hurt kills you. Every time he goes out or takes a risk, you worry about him. However, you also know and trust that he is smart and makes good choices, and if he ever doesn't, you will always be here to save the day, duh!

13. You are his biggest fan

And you are absolutely obnoxious at sporting games and other events. You are the first person to yell at the referee when he gets fouled and the loudest person screaming when he scores a goal. You also find yourself bragging about him to your friends because you are just so proud, and you taught him everything he knows (duh again).

14. He is your best friend

You can tell him anything and he can tell you anything. You guys have a pact and he won't tell your secrets. He's your person, and you have come to find out that he actually gives great advice when you give him the chance to talk.

15. No matter how old he gets, he will always be your baby brother

No matter how old my brother gets, we still say "I love you" every night and he will always be my little baby brother who I watch over and protect, always. I know I have a lifelong best friend who I can lean on during hard times, and celebrate with when the times are good. Bless up.

Special shoutout to my baby brother, Luke, for teaching me so much about myself and always being there for me.

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When You Give A Boy An Older Brother, You Change Just About Everything

The dynamic relationship changes more than you could know.


Being a younger sibling, I fit the typical stereotype: annoying, constantly following my brother around, wanting to do everything with him and constantly instigating fights. That's the job of little brothers though, right? Anyway, my brother and I are six years apart. When I was growing up, we never got along. At one point I swear we may have hated each other. Although, as times changed, we grew closer and closer.

With my brother and I being six years apart, we never were able to have the same friend groups...or so he thought. Whenever his friends would come over, I would instantly throw myself into whatever they were doing. I would like to think that most of his friends enjoyed my presence because I keep in touch with some of them today, but ultimately my brother hated that my 6-year-old self couldn't find my own friends to hang out with.

The fights that brothers have are a step up from screaming matches that sisters may have. Once I was old enough to actually agitate and argue with my brother, the infamous brother beatings came into play. I remember running away from him around the house during summer break while my parents were at work. He would catch me, give me a few swift hits or trap me with a pillow and tell me not to do whatever I did ever again. When I was younger, he scared me to no end, but now that I've grown up they're just more memories to laugh at.

Having an older brother also teaches you some skills. Like what to do and what not to do, and how to get away with things that I shouldn't be doing. Since my brother was six years older than me, I was able to watch him go through high school while I was in elementary school. This taught me the in and outs of high school before I was even in middle school. Watching him taught me ways to hide things from my parents without getting in trouble (sorry Mom and Dad). Whether he realizes it or not, I watched his every move growing up, and I have learned endless amounts from my brother.

The one downside (sometimes upside) of having a brother is the, "Oh, you're Kyle's little brother" statement. When you grow up in a town as small as mine, you can count on everyone to know who your older siblings are. They expect you to either be exactly like them or be the opposite of them.

At the end of the day, I feel extremely blessed to have my older brother. I may have prayed a few times to be an only child when I was little, but I now know that an older brother is a blessing. He's your best friend and protector no matter how old you get. My brother is always there (after about four phone calls sent to voicemail), and he's always ready to jump in on a fight if he needs to. I've learned to love all of his flaws, like how he can talk your ear off for four days straight or how he takes things without asking. I've learned to never take our unique and dynamic relationship for granted because he truly is my best friend till I die. Like my dad always told us, "Cherish your brother. When your parents are gone, you two are all you'll have left."

So, Kyle, this one's for you.

P.S. Stop wearing my clothes.


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