Every relationship I have been in has been a long distance relationship. But why do I choose long distance relationships? I choose them because the person that I am dating understands that I can't talk every minute of everyday, or that I can't see them because I am too busy due to work and school. Why be with someone that is always wanting to be next to you when you are trying to get a head start on your life? I need my own space about 90 percent of the time. Space to let myself grow as an individual, space to hangout with my friends, space to see the family, space to be myself. I feel as if I can't do those things when I am constantly with someone. But what really makes me angry are the negative things people say to me when they find out that I'm in a lost distance relationship.
1. That must be hard.
Well, yes, it is hard, but honestly is it any harder than a normal relationship? Yes we argue and fight, but every relationship does. We make our relationship as easy as possible. Distance makes the heart grown fonder. Haven't y'all heard that before? It's true. I don't see my boyfriend everyday, but when I do it makes everything so much more sweet.
2. How do you do it?
I don't know, we just do. How do other relationship work? Maybe because each person makes time for the other person? And they both understand that sometimes the other person is busy. Trust me, it's not really that difficult.
3. Aren't you worried he's cheating on you?
No. He has never broke my trust so why worry? We have made the commitment to only date each other, and until that trust is broken, I will not worry.
4. You guys must not talk a lot.
Actually we talk every day. Some days it's only a good morning and good night, and some days it's FaceTimes that are hours long. We live completely different lifestyles, but if you care about someone, you will make time for them. Sometimes, he gives up sleep to talk to me, and sometimes I give up homework time to talk to him. You do what you have to do to make the relationship work.
5. Do you ever see each other? Or spend time with each other?
We don't see each other every day, but we try and see each other at least once every month. He tries to come home once every couple months, and I have drove to Georgia and back by myself just to see him. When he comes home this week we have many different things planned to do while he's here. We have also discussed traveling on weekends when either one of us has an extended weekend. Like stated before, if you care about someone you will make time for them.
6. How do you live without being sexually active?
I don't know, I just do. People think that if you're in a relationship it's all about being sexually active. Not at all. I'd rather have a relationship that is commitment, and feelings filled, than a relationship that is only about the sex. Sex is just a bonus, but it's not necessary.
7. Is it even a real relationship?
Why wouldn't it be? If you committed to someone, isn't that a relationship? You don't have to be next door neighbors, to be together. Plus, who defines your relationship other than you and the person you are dating. I don't just date someone to past the time, I date someone because I want to grow with them.
I'm happy in the relationship I am in, so why act like you have a say in it? If I wanted your comments on my relationship I would ask, but I don't. I'm sick and tired of hearing all these negative statements about something that makes me happy. Someone that makes me a better person, someone that wants to be in my life. We won't always be long distance, we just are now.
Some of the best relationships I have seen are people in long distance relationships. Don't hate on my relationship, because you're not happy in yours.