To My Younger Self, If Only You Knew Nothing Lasts Forever

To My Younger Self, If Only You Knew Nothing Lasts Forever

If you remember all of these things and take them with you wherever you go, you’ll live a much healthier lifestyle than I did.
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There are about a million things that I wish I knew growing up. There are so many lessons to be learned and so many adventures to experience — some good and some bad, but all serving a purpose.

To my younger self, I know it seems like everything happening now will last forever, but I promise it won’t. I know, I know, everyone says that. But just wait it out — you’ll see.

1. Nothing lasts forever.

Not friendships, not relationships, not sadness and not happiness. There will be days when you feel on top of the world, and there will be days when you just want to lay in your bed watching your favorite movies and eating comfort food. No matter which day it is, it will pass.

2. People are temporary, and not everyone is really supposed to be there forever.

There will be people who you think will be in your life forever. While it is great to have people you want to be there forever, that might not always be the case. They might not be in your greater plan. While it may hurt to accept that, it is for the best.

3. It’s OK to try new things.

You’re probably thinking, “yeah, but what if I’m bad at it?” Well, who cares? You’ll never know unless you try, and whatever it is might become your new favorite thing.

4. You are going to get hurt.

This is something you really can’t avoid. Yes, I know it’s going to suck, and I know it might make you feel less worthy than you truly are. Just try to remember that pain is just as temporary as the people who hurt you.

5. While you may get hurt, try not to hold grudges.

Life is way too short to hold grudges. It will not do any good for you to continue being bitter and angry at people for something that happened months ago.

6. Do not worry excessively about your future.

Yes, being proactive is a good thing. But worrying so much about what is going to happen in a year will only cause unnecessary stress. Please, don’t do it.

7. Everything happens for a reason.

Cliche, I know, but it is so true. Nothing in your life will happen without a reason. That reason may come down the road or may be shown right away, but it will come.

If you remember all of these things and take them with you wherever you go, you’ll live a much healthier lifestyle than I did. So please, take them and run with them because you won’t believe how much they will help.

Beyond these, whatever you do, love yourself, because you are the only person you’ll have forever. Make that person someone you want to be around.

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1. "Can I wear your shirt out tonight?"

2. "Does my hair look greasy?"

3. "We should probably clean tomorrow..."

4. "What should I caption this??"

5. "Is it bad if I text ____ first??"

6. "Should we order pizza?"

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9. "I need a drink."

10. "McDonalds? McDonalds."

11. "GUESS WHAT JUST HAPPENED."

12. "Okay like, for real, I need to study."

13. "Why is there so much hair on our floor?"

14. "I think I'm broke."

15. "What do I respond to this?"

16. "Let's have a movie night."

17. "Why are we so weird?"

18. "Do you think people will notice if I wear this 2 days in a row?"

19. "That guy is so stupid."

20. "Do I look fat in this?"

21. "Can I borrow your phone charger?

22. "Wanna go to the lib tonight?"

23. "OK, we really need to go to the gym soon."

24. "I kinda want some taco bell."

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27. "Let's go to the mall."

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29. "I need coffee."

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35. "Guys I swear I don't like him anymore."

36."Can I borrow a pencil?"

37. "I need to get my life together...."

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39. "Let's walk to class together."

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41. "Who's taking out the trash?"

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45. "You're not allowed to talk to him tonight."

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I'm Grateful for my heartbreak turning me into the woman i am today

It taught me more about myself than what I knew before

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One year ago, I entered a relationship that I thought was going to be worthwhile, magical, and long-lasting. I broke all of my rules for falling for someone too fast, and although I hated myself for it, I didn't regret it at the same time, because he made me the happiest I had ever been.

Little did I know that only halfway into the summer, my world would come crumbling down, and my heart would be shattered to pieces, all because of one text.

When I got that text, saying it wasn't going to work out, my dreams of us facing the world and its obstacles, and falling more in love, were now destroyed. How could someone just give up on something so easily? How could we make it this far, only to have someone lose faith in everything that we had built in the snap of a finger?

For months after this breakup, I had felt so many emotions: hurt, anger, confusion, stupid, betrayal, alone, unwanted, not good enough, scared, and guilty. I felt hurt and betrayed by him for giving up on us so fast. I felt stupid for thinking something this pure was going to ever last. I felt unwanted and not good enough because obviously, something had to have been wrong for things to go this way. I felt scared for thinking about trying to put myself out there with guys again because this time it just backfired in my face in the end. But despite feeling all of these emotions, I mostly felt guilty, because no matter how angry or hurt I felt because of him, he was still present in my mind and my heart.

Going through a breakup sucks, and it put me at some of my weakest and lowest points. But looking back, I'm glad I went through this experience because it taught me more about myself than I had ever known before.

I've had a year to reflect on all of this, and my breakup has transformed me into a stronger person. Of course the first few weeks were the hardest and most painful, but I strongly believe everything happens for a reason, and that maybe this was not the best thing for me at that time.

I'm grateful for my breakup because I wouldn't have been strong enough to handle everything at once.

Looking back, I can see that maybe summer before freshman year of college wasn't the best time for me to begin a serious relationship. I would be starting a new journey in a fresh environment, where multiple curveballs would be thrown at me, most likely to put me under a lot of stress. And not physically having that person you care about the most with you to help comfort and calm you down would only make it harder. Long distance requires a lot of commitment and effort, and while I give credit to those who are already doing this and still going strong (which honestly... goals), I don't think I would've been capable of doing all of this at the time, even though I tried endlessly to convince myself I was.

I'm grateful for my breakup because it's offered me more time to focus on myself and what I want.

When you're in a relationship, you can't only be thinking about yourself; you have to think of your partner as well as how to manage your relationship. Being on my own has allowed me to focus on my passions and my future, and has helped me become more independent every day. It's inspired me to create art through my writing to inspire others, and to help others do more. But most importantly, it's helped me focus on the areas I want to change and my well-being, which ultimately helps me to be the best version of me.

I'm grateful for my breakup because it inspired me to move forward with my life and has helped me grow.

There are many different ways on how to move on from someone or something, but a broken heart is arguably the most challenging one out of all of them. If things are constantly working out for us, then we're not being pushed to do more as a result. In order to grow as people, we need these challenges present in our lives so we can learn how to overcome them and become stronger in the end. Had I not been broken up with, I wouldn't have come to this conclusion, and I wouldn't have learned all of the lessons I gained from it. This entire experience has taught me how to heal and in the end, has made me stronger by learning to keep moving forward. There are still days where I feel vulnerable, but if you put me from one year ago next to me right now, you would visibly see a difference between the two.

I'm grateful for my breakup because it has helped me to accept and forgive.

I won't lie, I was angry and had a deep hatred for the guy who easily broke my heart. At the time, it felt like it was the biggest blindside, and what hurt even more was that it was from someone I had never expected it to come from. But after taking a step back and looking at the bigger picture, he did what he thought was best for him, and he told me straightforward instead of leaving me in the dark by ghosting me. At the end of the day, he was truly an amazing guy, and all of the times we spent together were filled with nothing but happiness. If you asked me a few months ago if I had wanted anything to do with him, I would've answered with a straight up "hell no," followed by a few not so nice words. But now, if we had that chance to reconnect even as friends, I would have no problems or hesitations for doing that.

So here's a thank you to the boy who broke my heart. Had you not have done that one year ago, I would not be the healed and strong person that I am today.

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