Rebound: a word to describe the new person you are with after your serious relationship. No matter the time passed.

Once upon a time, you met a guy. He was perfect, the way he laughed, the way your hands fit together. He gave you butterflies when he kissed you. You fell in love, but eventually he broke your heart. You laid in bed for days and cried, you watched 'The Notebook,' and gained weight from all the junk food you ate. However, you couldn’t be sad forever so you started to move on. Eventually, whether it was a week or six months later, you met a guy who gave you butterflies and you realized they weren’t dead...he was your rebound. Now, you are left with some hard lessons to learn. And yes, they suck.

1. Wounds don’t always heal with time.

They say that time heals all, and I'd love for that to be true. It’s really easy to feel like you are fine and all put back together when you are on your own. But when a new relationship starts, the old wounds come out. No matter how amazing your “rebound” is, chances are you will feel insecure about everything that happened in your past.

2. Not everyone is the same.

It might be hard to move past what your ex did. It’s a hard lesson to learn, to learn to trust someone again. You have to realize that people are different and just because one person hurt you, doesn’t mean that the rebound will. Give them the benefit of the doubt!

3. You either breakup or you marry them and that's OK.

That's the hardcore truth. Really, it’s your only option unless you are a serial killer. The sooner you realize that, the easier it will be to start a new relationship. Heartbreaks hurt but they come around and you will survive. If you can survive getting your heart broken by someone you love, you can survive anything.

4. Rebounds are only short term.

Chances are the first guy you meet and date after your ex, isn't going to be the guy you marry. Again, that’s totally OK. Sometimes that person just comes into your life to help you move on. They aren’t going to last forever, sometimes you just need someone to be there for the short term.

5. Best way to get over someone is to get under someone.

***A rebound can be the guy you just sleep with***

Everyone has different forms of rebounds and the most classic one is "friends with benefits". You can learn a lot from this person. You learn that you can be wanted and craved again. You learn that maybe there is more than one person out there for you, and you'll start to feel a little better about the pain.

6. When the rebound ends it will be painful, but that's OK too.

For a lot of people, your rebound will be the first person you have feelings for after your ex. They give you butterflies, they make you smile, and feel a little less numb. When that relationship comes to an end, it’s going to feel like your heart has been torn into a million pieces. This when all the old wounds come out again. You’ll probably bawl your eyes for a hot second, but then when you wake the next day the pain starts to go away. It will be one of the worst pains but after a week, you realize you are fine. Sure, it will suck when you see your rebound move on, but that pain only lasts a second. This is when you start to realize how to be whole again.

7. You can be loved and love again.

After a serious relationship, you'll will feel like that was it. You will never be loved again. You will never love someone like you loved them. However, this isn't true. You will find someone who you adore, and who adores you. This is the great part of about the rebound, they show you how amazing it is to start a new relationship. They show you how capable you are, and that maybe your ex isn't the only person for you. Hopefully now you can move on, clear your mind and your heart. You can open yourself up to be loved.