In the past couple of months, I have learned a lot about myself as a person. My boyfriend's and my relationship hasn't been easy since he lives two hours away, but he's my biggest supporter and always has the right things to say.
Here are a few things I have learned while being in my first official relationship.
1. You need to be your own person
No one wants to be friends with a person who is always with their boyfriend or girlfriend. I've learned that yes, I'm in a wonderful relationship, but I am also my own person. I have my own beliefs, goals, and plans. Yes, my boyfriend is apart of that but I can do things on my own.
2. They will turn into your “person”
Your boyfriend and girlfriend will be the person you call when you're having a bad day, or if you're in a mood. They're the person you want to tell the good news about or say good morning and goodnight at the end of the day. They have become your person. They are always there, and will always support you.
3. Make the most of your time together
I've learned that you need to make the most of your time together. Especially since I see my boyfriend twice a month if I'm lucky, and our schedules let that happen. I like to make plans about going out or going to a movie or something. I don't want our time to be just laying in bed not doing anything (even though we spend a lot of our time in bed together just watching Netflix.) I want to make a memory with each time I spend time with him.
4. I'm no longer mad at RomComs anymore
I love RomComs but sometimes I hate them. When I was single I always dreamed of a relationship like the one in the movie, or I would roll my eyes at cheesy moments. Yet here I am in a pretty cheesy relationship and I get it now. I get the feeling the girl is feeling when they see the love of their life.
5. The warm feeling you get after they say 'I love you' for the first time
I now understand the warm feeling the books describe when their significant other tells them that they love them. It's a warm feeling it's hard to put words to...but I understand now, and it's a lovely feeling.
6. Distance does make the heart grow fonder
Sure, seeing couples all over campus makes me miss my boyfriend every freaking day. But the anticipation and excitement I have been I'm reunited with him after a couple of weeks apart tops Christmas morning. The distance is hard of course, it's hard to be there when one of us has a bad day, or when we're just sad. We have lots of FaceTime dates, phone calls, Trivia Crack competitions... but we make it work. The distance could be worse, and it honestly has made our relationship stronger, and our independence as our own people better.