When your two best friends begin to date, it seems like a match made in heaven. Two of your favorite people are happy and enjoying life together; and you’re thrilled for them. Unfortunately, what you fail to realize is it won’t be all that enjoyable for you. While having your best friends date comes with lots of good times, it doesn’t take long for the tough times to start. Not only for them, but you too!
You never know if you’re supposed to keep their “secrets” a secret from one another
When one friend confesses something to you that the other wouldn’t be pleased to hear, deep down you want to tell the other friend, even though you know you shouldn’t. You feel like a lousy friend keeping it from them, but you don't want to lose the other’s trust. Every time you see them, the secret is in the back of your mind and the thought of it haunts you.
You’re constantly third wheeling
What used to be three best friends spending time together, has now turned into a couple and a lonesome best friend. As much as you love them and are glad they are happy, third wheeling becomes old really quick. You become a constant photographer for their “relationship goal” pictures they share online. You tag along for their walks to class where usually you are left out of the conversation. Worst of all, girl’s night out is no longer just for girls because the boyfriend has been invited over.
You become a constant (unpaid) therapist
You didn’t see it coming, although it shouldn’t have come as a surprise, that you’ve become the unpaid relationship therapist. Both your friends are always turning to you for advice and wondering what the other is truly saying behind their back. You now have two people sending you long messages and screenshots, which doubles the reading and helpful advice you must provide. You can't say anything too risky or critical though, because at some point the fight will end and you never know what comments you’ve made they may share with one another.
You never know whose side to take during an argument
There’s always two sides to every argument. You always take the side of the girl because “girl code”, “hoes before bros”, and “chicks before dicks” is your 1st instinct. Sometimes, however, you know she’s the one in the wrong, but you can never tell her that.
They ditch you for each other
When you aren’t third wheeling, your best friends are usually together without you. You feel as if they stole one another from you. If they haven’t seen each other in a couple days and you happen to have plans with one of them, it’s almost a certainty those plans will get cancelled, because they can’t go another moment without seeing each other.
You have to watch what you say and do around the guy
The funny jokes that you used to share with your guy friend are now seen as flirting. The friendly “love you” is now a potential threat to their relationship. A part of that guy friendship has been lost, and in a way it’s not quite the same with your girl friend either.