I was on Twitter, which is how I spend most of my free time, and I saw a tweet that I needed to rant about. Bear with me as I explain to you how this kind of thinking is toxic. The tweet read:
"You can't leave the things you love."
Let's talk about this. First of all, this was tweeted amongst many tweets about cheating girlfriends and how relationships require trust. A guy, whom I didn't know, tweeted something as simple as you can't leave what you love.
This is so toxic. This is incredibly toxic to think. In a relationship standpoint, which is what I assume this person was going for (sorry if I am wrong), this basically means if you love something enough, you won't leave it, but you will fight for it.
Don't get me wrong, I see what this person meant. I do agree that relationships take work and dedication. If something is wrong, you choose to work on it together and find a common ground with one another. That is healthy and I stand behind that.
But I won't stand behind the thought that just because you love something means you have to fight for it and stay. Let me just go ahead and make this post very simple. If something isn't working, you are not happy, but you are staying because you love them and it's your obligation then you are doing yourself a disservice.
Staying in an unhappy relationship because you love the person is stupid. This is how it will end. You guys will date for a few more months, kidding yourselves that it is working when you don't even want to be around each other. Then comes a horribly messy breakup and you would've wished you broke up sooner.
Just listen when I say, if you love someone and you are happy, but things are a little rocky then work it out. You guys are gonna be okay. If you love someone, but you are 100% miserable, break up. It doesn't make you a bad person to leave when you aren't happy. Don't believe Twitter when it comes to relationship advice.