5 Cute Ideas To Make Your LDR Feel Like A No-DR

5 Cute Ideas To Make Your LDR Feel Like A No-DR

OK, so maybe not a "no" distance because that would be a bit creepy, but just a little less distance...

So, you found yourself in an LDR? You're in for some long nights and maybe a few tears, I'm not going to lie to you. However, you're also in for a relationship that may be full and dedicated, but that requires work on both of your parts. If done right, LDRs can turn into your forever relationship and here are some tips to make that happen.

1. Communicate.

This goes for any relationship, but especially if you are not seeing someone for a long amount of times on end. It is super critical that you speak up if you are having a problem with your long distance significant other. They are not with you all the time to sense how you’re feeling and oftentimes most of your communication will be via text, not exactly the easiest way to pick up on emotion. If something about the relationship is bothering you, please tell them… they will most likely be more than willing to accommodate as long as it means staying with you.

2. Snapchat is a beautiful, beautiful thing.

While texting has its time and place, Snapchat is quickly dominating the market for instant messaging. When it comes to a long distance relationship, Snapchat becomes much more personable than text messages, which often seem slightly distant. Snapping your significant other allows you to send quirky selfies or miscellaneous things that you’re doing in your day. It just feels like a little piece of them is just a little bit closer. Even if you’re just using the chat feature, seeing their little Bitmoji person pop up when you’re both in the chat is nearly like you’re in your own little room together.

3. The secret to “Skype Dates”

I’m not going to lie, these get pretty stressful at first and can be sorta awkward, especially if the relationship is new. Often times if you have been dating for awhile, a quick Facetime or Skype call is really no big deal and you’ll give your s/o the awkward egg angle image of your face, but if you only recently go together (or even worse have never actually met face to face), Skype Dates seem terrifying. Sure, you can stress over every little thing in view in your room, but keep in mind they’re going to eventually find out about all your little quirks.

Skype Dates are a healthy part of any long distance relationship, so try not to make it feel like a Skype interview because these things are wayyy different. If you’re really stressed out, come up with some topics to talk about or be doing something while chatting so if there are any awkward pauses you don’t have to stare blankly at the screen and can pretend to fidget with something. I recommend doing your makeup, writing, doing homework, etc. Of course, that only works if this is a casual chat and not a full on date, but really doing something else lets your significant other ask questions about what you’re doing and it becomes a bit less awkward.

4. Make time to see each other, some way, somehow

Full disclosure, there is a very low chance of your relationship working out forever if you never actually see the person and plan on being separated forever. You will eventually need to see your significant other. Depending on how far away you are from them, it may be more difficult, but I still implore you to make the effort — even if you have to meet in the middle.

I won’t lie, seeing them after a while of being apart may seem a bit awkward, and it will feel different. After all, you have both been growing while you’ve been apart, but that doesn’t mean you have to grow apart. Keep your eye on train and plane deals to get to your s/o. The effort you make will matter. (If you have never met this person in real life, please bring another person and be sure that who you are meeting is who they say they are.)

5. Gadgets and websites!

The 21st Century has made it so much easier to be in a long-distance relationship. Now we have tons of websites tailored to your needs. Gaze is a free service that allows you to video chat and watch youtube videos and movies together no matter the distance! How cute! In addition, there are some gadgets on the market that let you tell your loved one that you’re thinking of them. HEY bracelet lets you send your significant other a touch whenever you want. Use things like these to your advantage and your relationship will be golden.

And there you have it! Some long-distance relationship tips. Never let anyone tell you that it won't work out. These relationships will be what you put into them, but you will need to put a lot into them. However, they may just be the best relationship you will ever have.

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Just Because I Check My Boyfriend's Location Every Hour Doesn't Make Me A 'Psycho Girlfriend'

No, checking his location every hour does not make me psycho.

My boyfriend and I have been seeing each other for a few months now. He has come up with describing my actions sometimes as “psycho girlfriend.” As much as this bothered me at first I started to realize there is nothing wrong with my “psycho” actions.

I don’t monitor who my boyfriend hangs out with and I don’t care who he texts, I trust him, but I do watch other things he does.

I probably check his location about once an hour, maybe more if he isn’t texting me back.

This isn’t some way for me to find out if he is with another girl, it’s so I can ensure he isn’t dead in a ditch somewhere. If he was on Snapchat five minutes ago but hasn’t texted me back in 45 minutes, yeah I’ll call him out on it but I'm not actually mad. If he is with friends and not answering me, it’s cool. I just want to be able to make sure I know where he is and that he is alive on a regular basis.

I make him keep his read receipts on for me.

I don’t care if he leaves me on read, I just need to know he is seeing what I’m saying. Half the time, I text him random facts or thoughts I have throughout my day, those don’t always need a response back. However, I do want to know he is acknowledging me through reading my texts.

Yes, from time to time I will spam him and make him respond to my messages so we can make plans or I can know what he is doing with his day but it’s not like I plan out his every move for him or care if he is getting drunk with the boys on a Wednesday, not my issue.

I don’t ask for all of his time or anything. I know he is a busy person. All I ask for him to text me back on a regular basis (once an hour to be exact), for him to allow for me to know where he is at all times and to get one night a week with him.

I don’t plan to show up where he is or anything, I simply just like to know information and get a weekly time with him. I don’t care if I only see him that one night a week, I just want one night with a movie or dinner or snuggles so I can get my boyfriend time.

The rest of the time he is his own person, and I couldn’t really care less about what he does in that time.

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Be Proud Of Where You Come From

You wouldn't be the person you are today without the place you grew up.

Ever since I was little, I knew I wanted to get out of South Dakota and never really look back. I looked forward to the day where I could pack up all my things and move far, far away, but when that day finally came, it wasn't all that it's cracked up to be.

By no means do I regret moving to Michigan and going to my dream school. I love it more than I could have ever imagined, but being so far from my hometown makes me think about what my home state means to me and how it has shaped me into the person I am today, whether I like the idea or not.

When I tell people at school that I'm from South Dakota, they usually either look shocked or laugh. In high school, I would tell my friends that I couldn't wait to leave my small, boring and plain state, but now that I'm in college, I realize how much I actually love South Dakota.

Now, every time my friends in college make fun of South Dakota, I get the automatic instinct to defend it, which may seem silly, but it is the place I grew up and spent most of my life, so it is always going to be special to me.

I've learned to tell people that I'm from the largest city in South Dakota so that they don't ask questions about whether I have any neighbors, or if I have a buffalo wandering around. I have all these little fun facts to pull out on people if my home state ever needs defending, because the more time I spend away from South Dakota, the prouder I am that I was born in the heartland of America.

Being back home for the summer has reminded me so much of what it means to be a South Dakotan. I used to think that living and growing up in South Dakota limited my options and opportunities, but I know now that that is totally untrue. If anything, it taught me to make the most out of the small stuff. When I was given an opportunity, I knew they wouldn't come around too often so I learned that I had to seize it.

Another thing that I learned is that no one does kindness like South Dakotans, especially people from Sioux Falls. It is a city of nearly 200,000 people, so it's a

well developed area with just enough people that it doesn't feel like a small town, but you basically either know everyone personally or have heard their last name before. Everyone, and I mean everyone is kind, complimentary and has great manners. I have never been in another city where so many people ask how you are and truly mean it, hold the door and even just give a soft smile and wave to strangers.

There is so much more to South Dakota than meets the eye, and it will always hold a special place in my heart. Sioux Falls will always be my home. I will continue to defend it and cherish the memories I had there forever, even if I never move back because after all, it is where I grew up and it's where my family is.

Wherever you come from, be proud of it. I love my home state and will always be a proud South Dakotan.

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