Having curly hair is a blessing and a curse. There have been many things that have been said to me over the years about my hair and I’ve never really know how to take them or I just get frustrated when people ask.

So, here is a list of things you may want to avoid saying to people with curly hair.

1. “You should straighten your hair more often.”

This one is beyond frustrating. I personally find it to be rude and a very backhanded compliment. I know people don’t mean it in a malicious way but it takes the cake for being the worst thing to say to someone with curly hair. I love my natural hair and I hope you like it too but, if you don’t, do not ask me to change mine because you may think I look better with my hair straight. It also takes me about 2 hours to get my hair fully straight and who has that kind of time nowadays.

2. “Are you going to brush your hair?”

No, because this is what’ll happen…

3. “How do you get your hair so curly?”

Honestly, it just happens. There is no magic trick (except washing it). You just wake up and sometimes it looks like a lion's mane and then other times you have a good hair day. If it's not a good hair day, just throw some water on it.

4. Is it naturally that curly?

I actually wake up 2 hours earlier than I need to so I am able to achieve this look.

5. Your hair is SO curly!

I never know if this is a compliment or not and yes I'm aware that it is very curly. It is on my head.