Everyone comes to a point of their life where they feel completely and helplessly out of control of their own life. Life is unpredictable and that can be really scary. Somethings are going to happen that you couldn't have planned for, you may not be happy with the way your life is going, you may be unsure of yourself and unsure of your future, some of your relationships may fail, and you may find yourself in situations and have no idea how you got into them. When nothing is going your way it can be easy to feel helpless and overwhelmed. It is important to keep in mind that you still do have control of your life, it just doesn't feel like you do right now. Even though you cannot always change or take away all the problems you are currently facing, there are little things you can do to make you feel like you have regained at least some control over your life once again.
Cut out toxic people.
When your life isn't going the way you want it and you have a lot on your plate the last thing you need is someone who is just there to drag you down. Everyone knows a toxic person, it may even be yourself, do your best to get yourself away from as much toxic energy as possible, even if that means taking a step back and examining your own self or taking yourself away from a person who is only around to bring you down instead of lifting you up. Getting rid of some toxic energy in your life will, without a doubt, make you feel more in control again and sometimes a little more positivity (and a little less negativity) is the key to getting your life together.
Start having a relationship with yourself.
You will never have complete control over your relationship with others but you do have complete control over the relationship you have with yourself. It is so easy to become so involved with other people and completely forget about how we are treating ourselves. Take a look at who you are and who you would like to become. Take a look at how you treat yourself, make time for yourself and make yourself a priority. Sometimes, you don't have any control over other people and how they treat you but you have 100 percent control over how you treat yourself. A healthy relationship with yourself is a start to other healthy relationships.Good habits beat bad habits.
Just because life is going your way doesn't mean you should just stop trying to get it together. Even though sometimes bad habits like excessive drinking, smoking and drug using may seem like the perfect answer to your solution by helping you forget your problems for a while - -they aren't the answer. Do something constructive and something that will help you not only get your mind off your life for a while, but will also help make you into a better, more well rounded person. Try working out, reading, writing or doing something crafty -- all those things can still help you get your mind off whats going on in your life without adding more negativity into your life.
Do something you've wanted to do for a while.
Whether it's doing something to physically change your appearance like getting a new tattoo, piercing, or haircut or just trying out a new fitness class you have been looking into or going to a new restaurant you have been wanting to try. Do something different and empowering -- sometimes, that's all it takes!
Make the change.
Whatever you are dealing with take steps to make it better. No matter what you may be feeling and no matter what is going on in your life that makes you feel out of control you can do something to change the situation in some way. Whether it has to do with your health, your family, your friends, or your job you do have the power to make it a little better or if you can't, know you are strong enough to get through it. If you are feeling overwhelmed about the future or about your major talk to someone like an advisor who can help ease your mind and answer all the questions you have. If you miss someone who used to be important in your life, reach out to them. If you are having problems with your job start looking for a new job -- one that will be a better situation than the one you are currently in. If you are suffering from a loss of a loved one or are just going through a hard time, speak with a trusted friend, family member or seek professional help. You may feel out of control of your life right now, but it will not always feel that way.