5 Things That Happen When You Know Your Worth

5 Things That Happen When You Know Your Worth

One of the most freeing things you'll feel

Knowing your worth is one of the greatest accomplishments you will make. Many people go through life and relationship after relationship never understanding why they feel like less of person when they end.

But it is because most people don't understand they are worth so much more than they give themselves credit for. You become a new person when you discover what you deserve in life and from relationships. Here are the top five things that happen when you understand your worth:

1. You feel more confident.

You know who you are as a person. You love yourself and it radiates off of you.

2. You understand what you deserve.

You know what you deserve from the relationships you have. You no longer feel like the small person you once did. You are strong and independent; you don’t deserve to take any shit from anyone and you know that now.

3. You’re happier.

The weight is off your shoulders, and you are truly happy. You feel free... free from feeling like less of a person because of the way someone treated you.

4. You don’t settle.

You will never again settle for less than you deserve. You know you deserve someone who is going to treat you in the most loving a loyal way. You will never again settle for a love that lacks depth, passion, or trust. You know what you are worth and you know it will take a special person to make you fall again. But you are willing to wait because you don’t want to waste any more time with someone who treats you any less.

5. The people around you treat you better.

The people around you sense your new sense of confidence. They understand you are no longer the confused girl you once were. Your friends will be so beyond proud of you for finally understanding what you deserve because they have known it all along.

You are worth more than you will ever understand but knowing your worth is one of the most satisfying and life-changing things to understand. Be strong and stay confident.

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21 Things I Learned By The Age Of 21

The age of 21 is so adventurous, terrifying, and crazy all at the same time.

1) Fake friends go, real friends stay

In reality, we don't want to actually say that some of our "friends" really aren't there for us. We give second chances, we succumb to peer pressure, and we sort of lose ourselves in people who have no real energy for us. Your real friends will always love and support you, and be there for you when you fall. If you have to give more energy into a friendship than the other person, it's not healthy.

2) Patience is a virtue

As someone who seems to get irritable the more time passes, patience is super important to have as you grow. I've learned to let little things go, but also discovered when to not be walked on. I can focus on small and large tasks without become frustrated easily, and I can also work on bettering myself as time passes.

3) Asking for help is important

I've let so many things slip out of my grasp because I was too afraid to reach out and grab someone's hand. From missing an assignment in class, to letting my depression get the better hand, I've finally learned that asking for help is healthy. Asking for help does NOT make you weak, or helpless. Trust that those who love you will really be there.

4) Trust your gut

Over the years, I learned that my gut is usually right about many things. Whether it's telling you to eat, or dump somebody, trust that your gut is telling you what's right for you. Trust in yourself that you are capable of making hard decisions and ending out on top.

5) Take care of your body

Eat regularly and healthily, and drink plenty of water. I understand that coffee and other fancy drinks may be more tasteful, but when you eventually become dehydrated and starving, your body begins to age quicker and stop responding to signals. Shower. Clean your hair. The more you take care of yourself FOR YOU, the easier it becomes to love and want to take care of yourself.

6) Take care of your mental health

If you need a break, take one. If you need to do something that helps you, do it. Understand that your mental health is just as important as your physical health. Coming from someone who self-harmed, it's important to engage in positive and healthy activities to help your mental health. HURTING YOURSELF ISN'T THE ANSWER, I PROMISE.

7) Actually do what you say you're going to

Don't make empty promises. You will lose valuable people in your life over a hollow phrase. If you're going to do your homework by a certain time, do it. If you're going to take better care of yourself, do it. Don't tell yourself or other people you'll do something if you have no real intent on doing it.

8) Practice what you preach

I know this is so overheard, but it's true. Being a hypocrite is not a fair way to live. Stand up for what you believe in, and don't let anyone stop you from doing what you want to do. Give people advice you'd give yourself, and take that advice.

9) Cut negative people OUT

It's so hard, but once you do it, it's so relieving. Don't let anyone tear you down, and make sure you have no room or time in your life for people who don't see the best in you. Humbly understand that you are the most important person in your life, and that negative people will take that away from you.

10) Pay attention in school

Actually listen to your professors and supervisors. The less you pay attention or go to class, the more you fall behind. You're wasting your time and money by not listening or caring enough to be there. If school isn't for you, make a change and do what's best for you. You're here to learn and grow, so don't hinder your chances of that.

11) Listen to advice

Whether the advice seems stupid or really credible, listen to what people have to say. Taking the advice is another thing. Most people share stories and advice with you because they want you to succeed without making similar mistakes they've made. Granted we all make mistakes, but hear people out.

12) Step outside of your comfort zone

Some days it's great to stay comfortable, but stepping outside of comfort can be super healthy and beneficial. You begin to push your own personal ideas of yourself with how much you conquer by straying from comfort. Understandably it isn't always a good idea to leave your comfort zone, but don't knock it until you try it.

13) Embrace your strengths

You know yourself better than anyone else. Use your strengths to your advantage, and take pride in yourself for having these strengths. Use your strengths for personal goals, rather than harming others or putting others down. Utilize your gifts and make them stronger.

14) Understand your weaknesses

While you have great strengths, your weaknesses as also crucial to notice and accept. Just like your strengths, however, your weaknesses DO NOT define you or your capabilities as you grow. By knowing your weaknesses, you can start to gradually change and overcome them.

15) Strive for happiness

Do not, I repeat, DO NOT let anyone stand in the way of your own happiness. Put yourself first. Realize that life isn't perfect, or near perfect. Grow in the fact that no one can make or break your happiness besides you. You have the power to be happy. Let yourself be happy.

16) Do your best

Doing the best you can do is really all you can do. Putting in all of your effort and devoting time to doing your best pays off. Even if doing your best falls short, you still tried your best. Don't let yourself fall short of achieving things because you weren't trying.

17) Treat yourself

No, I don't mean spend all of your money at once. If you see something you want in the store, buy it. If you want to spend a little extra on a special drink at your coffee shop, do it. It's totally normal to spoil yourself with whatever you want- just be warned. I've spent all of my money at once on treating myself, and while it was nice in the moment, I didn't have money for essentials.

18) Rough times will come along

Honestly, you will experience rough times your entire life. By accepting this, you can work towards taking these times and using them to grow. Yeah, it sucks losing a friend or falling short in classes, but know that this isn't the end and it will get better. You have survived 100% of your worst days so far.

19) Don't hinder your own growth

Please don't stop yourself from changing if you want to change. Change is hard, and sometimes change is terrifying, but you have the ability to grow with change. Don't stop yourself from doing something you want to do. Want to chop your hair off? Lose weight? Eat healthier? Study more? Whatever it is, don't be afraid to do it.

20) Appreciate and respect the world around you

We are inhabiting the world, and frankly, we don't respect it. Appreciate the beauty that surrounds you. Don't litter, don't vandalize, don't harm the nature and animals within it. You may think it's funny now, but the world is crumbling and will only crumble quicker from our actions.

21) Love every part of who you are

You are uniquely you. No one else can be exactly who you are. Embrace, understand, love who you are. We are all who we are for reasons beyond us, and by accepting yourself, certain parts of life become easier. Love your stretch marks, love your scars, love the wrinkles on your face from all the emotions you've experienced. Understand you are human, you will make mistakes, and you'll have downfalls. Find it within yourself to love everything about yourself. Even the parts you hate the most.

In 21 years of living, I never thought I would be who I am today. You may have a completely different view, but sharing personal experiences can potentially reach others. I'm thankful for everything that has happened and will happen, because I know the greatness I can achieve.

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How a Day of Change Reset My Mentality

Haircuts and hair color and piercings, oh my!

Nike had it right with their slogan all along. "Just Do It" is a perfect mantra for anyone who feels like they're in a rut. I found myself stuck in the mud recently, and the only thing that produced any positive results was a whole day of going for the little things that I had wanted randomly.

I woke up one morning and went downstairs to make some tea. As I waited for the water to boil on the stove, I saw my reflection in the dark glass of the microwave. As I stared at myself for a while I wasn't just unsatisfied with what I saw but slightly upset. Not because I hate my nose or my ears stick out too much, but because of the way I've been acting so unmotivated the past few weeks. Realizing my problem was the easy part. But to fix it, well, I was completely lost.

I was dreading the next two months. Starting three new jobs, going back to school, and moving into a new dorm with a new roommate sounded like a lot of expended energy to me. The problem wasn't that I would be tired after moving all my stuff, or after a couple long shifts. I would be tired after interacting with at least a dozen new people within a week and then continuing to work on my relationships with them for months.

I'm a strong girl so I knew I could do it, that wasn't the problem. It was the foreboding of the situation that left me curled up in my bed binge watching.

I contemplated what I could do for myself and the immediate answers were to clean my room completely, shower and then dress in my favorite sweater and leggings. Great, but then I thought again. That's what I do every time I find myself in a feelings pickle. Sure, the solution is fine for the day but then come the morning I would have feelings deja vu.

Finally, I had a breakthrough. I texted my best friend and set the plans for the day. When we embarked on our mission we joked about how today was a transformation day, but in my head, I was like, "Well, yea duh this is what I need!"

So we first got to the piercing and tattoo parlor. I have always said I wouldn't get ear piercing because my huge hair hides my ears most of the time, so what would be the point? Whenever I saw an ear full of pretty metal I always got a little jealous.

Finally, I saw one more picture of a cartilage piercing and it was over. I wanted it. Just because 75% of the time my piercing would be hidden, didn't mean that I couldn't get it for my own pleasure. Plus, 25% of the time I would be working it. I sat in the chair and cringed a little but acted like a champ while the piece of metal went into my ear. Part one of my mission done.

Next, I went to the local Walgreens and picked out a box of hair dye. I've been wanting to color my hair forever but didn't have the funds for a salon and always just dropped the issue. Well, not today. Part two of my mission halfway done.

We went back to my house and lathered my hair in the dye, which turned out way darker than I expected. I'm not one to obsess over my hair color. I change it pretty frequently so the wrong color was just more exciting to me.

As I washed out the dye I took out scissors and cut off my dead ends. I know this sounds crazy but my hair is crazy curly, get's straightened twice year tops, and I've cut it a million times before. Trimming off dead ends of curly hair makes an insane difference for the curls when it dries. So finally part two complete.

Part three was composed of my original plan of cleaning, showering, and putting on my favorite sweater. When it all was said and done, I watched a movie with my friends and felt way happier than I did a few hours earlier. Oh, and I was eating taco bell. I shamelessly love taco bell so that was just the cherry on top of my cake of a day.

What I'm trying to say is, sometimes you just need some change in your life. I know I can roll with the punches but thinking about the punches that were coming made me want to hide. The whole day helped take my mind off my future two months and just focus on me and being happy.

Even though the changes wouldn't be recognizable to a passerby, to me they were super exciting and that was the whole point. So, does any one want to go to the salon with me? I'm thinking bangs next.

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