There are things that have been embedded into our everyday language that we say without thinking. Some are harmless, like,"see you around" as they aren't wrong, so even if they're not super genuine, the speaker is not a liar.

However, some of the sayings people resort to are straight up incorrect and need to be put to an end. Maybe this is just me, but it's super frustrating hearing ingenuous things said 24/7. I know I have fallen victim to some of these sayings myself, but I actively try to avoid the following 5 phrases in my speech.

1. "I don't judge people."

This is a huge pet peeve of mine. Whenever someone says "I don't judge" it is a lie. It is human nature to make immediate judgments about anything and everything presented to us. That includes people. Now some people may judge people but not let their judgments affect their opinion on the person, or work really hard to do so, but that is different than not judging people at all, so don't say that!

2. "No offense, but..."

If you are saying "no offense," you know that what you are saying is offensive... So don't say it. Those two words do not excuse whatever offensive thing you are about to say. You know it, I know it, so just drop it.

3. "Hey, what's up?" or "Hey, how are you?"

Okay, this one sounds weird because people can say these genuinely. My problem is when people say these to me in passing. If we are both walking and run into each other and the other person says one of these as a greeting, I have zero idea what I am supposed to do.

Do I stop and talk about how I am doing? Do I just say, "Hey"? Or do I yell, "I'm good, how are you?" as they walk away? Don't ask me a question if you don't want to hear the answer.

4. "Sending you my thoughts."

I was guilty of saying this until fairly recently. I did not realize how ridiculous this saying is until one of my professors commented on it. I am not going to get into the way this saying in and of itself is our way of trying to cope with others' pain through false humanitarian love according to the philosophies of Scheler.

But more concretely, can you send thoughts? Can people magically beam thoughts from their mind to others? If you answered yes to these questions, please let me know how you are able to do this and teach me your ways.

5. "I know what you're going through."

These six words are arguably the worst to hear from anyone. Every person has his or her own personal experience, and while we may have gone through something similar, saying we know what they're going through can invalidate their experience as an individual. I am all for comforting people in need, but there are ways to do so without invalidation. Don't make someone else's problem about yourself.