As if romance wasn't complicated enough already, throwing in the factor of being a part of the gay community adds a new dimension to the difficulty of dating. Of course, there still exists the typical worries and concerns regarding how we portray ourselves to a new potential love interest. However, there's a whole extra playing field to navigate in addition. Coming from personal experiences throughout my life, here are five struggles of dating in the gay community.

(Note: I am speaking solely on behalf of what I've experienced; I cannot and do not intend to imply that I know of the situations within other queer communities who aren't gay.)

1. The only sure way to meet someone is online.

Because as much as I'd love to, it's simply impossible (and problematic) to assume every attractive boy I see is also gay. Therefore, it usually comes down to having to meet others through dating apps, which definitely works but is also filled with problems within itself.

2. Everybody already knows everybody.

Since the gay community is simply just smaller, after awhile it becomes easy to know a lot about everyone around you. Chances are, you're bound to connect with someone who's already connected with one or more of the others you've interacted with. This can definitely be great for establishing friend groups and such, but undoubtedly can be awkward when it comes to dating.

3. Much of the culture is sexualized.

Nearly all of the spaces created for gay (and other queer individuals) are in sexualized environments, the most common being night clubs. In addition, many of the dating apps and sites are designed for the intention of hooking up as opposed to forming relationships and deeper connections. These things can definitely make it difficult for those trying to pursue something long term.

4. Discrimination runs rampant within.

Within gay dating, a lot of pressure falls on one's appearance. This opens doors for all sorts of discrimination, including racism, body shaming, and sexism. Judgment can be found in response to an individual's fashion, their (lack of) athleticism, their apparent amount of masculinity, and so many other factors. It's important to recognize these in a community that has been so driven to find equality. There still needs to be a focus on the intersectionality within this group.

5. Discrimination runs rampant from the outside.

Obviously, homosexuality hasn't gained the nod of approval from everyone in our society. For this reason, being able to fully embrace a relationship with someone and feel comfortable in it in this world is beyond difficult. Verbally and physically violent attacks still occur on a daily basis toward members and couples of the entire LGBTQ+ community, and that is probably the biggest obstacle for those who want to actually have and maintain a relationship.