5 Reminders To Help You When You're Struggling

5 Reminders To Help You When You're Struggling

Don't let anxiety and depression get the better of you.

As someone who has suffered with anxiety for my entire life and depression for several years, I know how easy it is to fall down what I call the "rabbit hole". This is when you let your mind take over your emotions. You seemingly lose control, and negativity taints every thought. Sometimes it feels impossible to get out of these rabbit holes. Therapy has helped me train my mind not to take the bait that depression dangles in front of your face to pull you down. However, there are times when I can't help it. I lose control, and find myself right back at the bottom of another hole. When we find ourselves in this position, it's too easy to forget some simple facts that may help break you from the toxic feelings that are infecting you. Here are five reminders that will hopefully assist you in pulling yourself back up.

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1. Nobody else sees you the way you see yourself

We tend to see ourselves in a very negative light. We are our own worst enemy, always criticizing and nitpicking things we want to improve. Maybe you see yourself as ugly, or broken. I promise that nobody worthy of being in your life thinks this way of you. It's difficult to believe that someone sees you as beautiful when you've been telling yourself the opposite your whole life. We all have our flaws, and we fixate on them until they overshadow every wonderful thing about us. Perhaps your nose is a little crooked, or you have some extra fat on your stomach. This does not negate the fact that you're a human being with a beautiful mind, capable of dreaming, creating, and being.

2. What you're feeling is completely normal and valid

No, you're not crazy. We assume the worst when anything is 'wrong' with us, but it's simply not true. Many people before you have experienced the same feelings you are experiencing, and many people after you will, too. It's easy to feel isolated during bouts of anxiety, depression, etc. Just know that it is guaranteed that someone is going through the exact same thing.

3. You are worthy of love and happiness

This is something I have to constantly remind myself of. That voice in your head telling you that you deserve this agony is lying. You are a human, and you deserve as much love and happiness as everyone else. You did nothing to deserve this. You are one of a kind, and you belong here.

4. There will be good days again

This is not the end of the road. This is a bad day, and tomorrow has the opportunity to be better. It's difficult to be in the middle of a storm and convince yourself that you can make it to see the rainbow afterwards, but you can and you will. Healing is not linear. We are coping. There will be ups and downs, but you can get through them all.

5. Please stop abusing yourself

Be gentle with yourself. You're doing your best. Don't let your mind bully you. You can take control, it just takes patience and practice. There is always hope to get better, you have to let yourself get there first. I know you can do it.

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An Open Letter To The Judgmental People In My Hometown

Imperfections are what gives a diamond its value.

Dear judgemental, simple minded people from my hometown,

I am sorry that I have never met your level of perfection.

Coming from a small town, everyone settles to the norm of the people around them. Unlike you all, I have always been a little bit different.

I've never understood why everyone always seems to feel the need to talk down to the next person. People love to gossip about a situation as long as the situation has nothing to do with them. For every move I made, someone was always there to bring out the negativity in the situation. You all are always sweeping around somebody else's doorstep when I know your doorstep is not clean. Maybe it is time to buy a new broom. I know that I cannot please everybody and that I will also not be liked by everybody. However, I deserve respect just as the next person.

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I hope for the sake of the future generations of our small town, you all can learn to be more accepting to change.

I hope that no one judges your children like some of you all have judged me. I hope that the people that you love and care about are welcomed and accepted for who they are.

If we put as much time into being better people or helping others like you put into judging others, the world would be a much better place.

Imperfections are what gives a diamond its value. Pebbles are perfectly round. I'd much rather be a diamond, one in a million, than a pebble that fits in.


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Go Ahead, Push Me To The Dirt And Spit On Me — Then Watch Me Grow

What happens when you put a seed in the dirt and water it? It grows.


People are mean. The world is cruel. People are going to push you to the dirt and spit on you. Those are pretty harsh words, I know, but they're honest.

There are selfish people who don't care about you and won't care about you, not unless you are doing something for them. The mentality should be, "I help you, you help me," not "I help you, I help you."

People will use you, abuse you and confuse you.

That's right. They'll confuse you. They'll make you feel like you've done everything wrong when it's the furthest thing from the truth.

Sometimes, people pretend that you're the bad guy so that they don't feel guilty about the things they did to you.

Eventually, the people who have pushed you to the dirt and spit on you will realize that they've done something wrong. Unfortunately, people aren't always willing to accept that they can be the bad guys, too.

When you put a seed in the dirt and water it, it will grow. It can be the same for people who have been pushed to the dirt and spit on.

It may seem like there's no way you can get up and dust yourself off. You may look at the situation and believe it has stunted your growth as a person. You can grow from the circumstances, but only if you choose to.

It's tempting to pull the person that pushed you down to the dirt so that you're on the same ground, but doing this doesn't create an equal ground.

"The minute you think you have the right to belittle others because you think you're better than them is the same minute you've proven you're worse." – Joanne Crisner Alcayaga

People are quick to point out what is wrong with a situation, but they're slow to point out what's right. It's easier to call someone out when they've done something wrong than to compliment them for doing something right.

Grow from the situation and help others grow alongside you.

Be an example. Show kindness to unkind people, forgive those that seem unforgivable and reflect on who you are instead of who hurt you. Don't show fake kindness or forgiveness. Show your genuine self.

It'll test your character when you treat someone you don't have to be nice to with respect.

Will you wither or bloom? People won't remember how pretty or talented you are. You can be the most beautiful rose with the sweetest fragrance, but that doesn't matter if your thorns always stab someone.

People remember how you make them feel.

Don't let yourself grow into a flower that looks beautiful but smells awful or is covered in thorns. I'm not saying you must be a beautiful rose — even dandelions can be beautiful.

When a child brings a bouquet of "pretty" dandelion flowers to you, you're not going to think of them as obnoxious weeds. You probably won't see the same beauty that the child sees, but you'll see something even more exquisite. You'll see the happiness in that moment when the child wants to share something beautiful with you.

Go ahead and push me to the dirt and spit on me, then watch me grow. Watch me grow from the situation, and hopefully, you'll be inspired to grow alongside me.

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