5 Reminders To Help You When You're Struggling

5 Reminders To Help You When You're Struggling

Don't let anxiety and depression get the better of you.

As someone who has suffered with anxiety for my entire life and depression for several years, I know how easy it is to fall down what I call the "rabbit hole". This is when you let your mind take over your emotions. You seemingly lose control, and negativity taints every thought. Sometimes it feels impossible to get out of these rabbit holes. Therapy has helped me train my mind not to take the bait that depression dangles in front of your face to pull you down. However, there are times when I can't help it. I lose control, and find myself right back at the bottom of another hole. When we find ourselves in this position, it's too easy to forget some simple facts that may help break you from the toxic feelings that are infecting you. Here are five reminders that will hopefully assist you in pulling yourself back up.

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1. Nobody else sees you the way you see yourself

We tend to see ourselves in a very negative light. We are our own worst enemy, always criticizing and nitpicking things we want to improve. Maybe you see yourself as ugly, or broken. I promise that nobody worthy of being in your life thinks this way of you. It's difficult to believe that someone sees you as beautiful when you've been telling yourself the opposite your whole life. We all have our flaws, and we fixate on them until they overshadow every wonderful thing about us. Perhaps your nose is a little crooked, or you have some extra fat on your stomach. This does not negate the fact that you're a human being with a beautiful mind, capable of dreaming, creating, and being.

2. What you're feeling is completely normal and valid

No, you're not crazy. We assume the worst when anything is 'wrong' with us, but it's simply not true. Many people before you have experienced the same feelings you are experiencing, and many people after you will, too. It's easy to feel isolated during bouts of anxiety, depression, etc. Just know that it is guaranteed that someone is going through the exact same thing.

3. You are worthy of love and happiness

This is something I have to constantly remind myself of. That voice in your head telling you that you deserve this agony is lying. You are a human, and you deserve as much love and happiness as everyone else. You did nothing to deserve this. You are one of a kind, and you belong here.

4. There will be good days again

This is not the end of the road. This is a bad day, and tomorrow has the opportunity to be better. It's difficult to be in the middle of a storm and convince yourself that you can make it to see the rainbow afterwards, but you can and you will. Healing is not linear. We are coping. There will be ups and downs, but you can get through them all.

5. Please stop abusing yourself

Be gentle with yourself. You're doing your best. Don't let your mind bully you. You can take control, it just takes patience and practice. There is always hope to get better, you have to let yourself get there first. I know you can do it.

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The Best Tips For Acne-Prone Skin

You already have a stressful enough life, do you really need pimples too?

As If life is not hard enough, it throws another struggle. A...Acne? Yes, acne. The wonderful red marks that tell the world, I had extra bacteria on my face, and well, now it is like this. We all know how frustrating it can be to have a face full of pimples, here are some tips on how to work towards a clear face.

1. Be educated on medicine types.

The two most known kind of acne fighting medicine are Benzoyl Peroxide and Salicylic Acid. A big part of knowing what will work for you is knowing what each does. Benzoyl Peroxide gets rid of the dirtiness and harmful substances within your pores by causing the skin to dry out and peel. When Salicylic Acid sheds the outer layer of your skin, it helps unclog pores but does not kill bacteria the way Benzoyl Peroxide does.

2. Expect the worse.

Once you know the types of medicines, it is time to choose a face wash, then (optional) a topical medication for some added cleanliness. Remember, it is not all rainbows and butterflies when picking the products that you use, and new allergies can begin at any time. It may take a while for you to find which products work best, but in the end, it is worth it if it means skin you feel confident in.

3. Wear breathable makeup.

Makeup can be worn in many different ways and by using many different products. A lot of people enjoy wearing makeup, but it can be a problem when it causes acne. Thicker (heavy coverage) foundations tend to seep into your pores, although you may be thinking: “why is this not good? It is filling up the pores so bad oils and dirts cannot get in?” Remember that some of the healthiest things for your face are the natural oils your face produces on its own. If you absolutely have to (we have all been there) I recommend something lighter, such as a mineral powder like Maybelline New York and Bare Minerals sell. Products like those will not make it look as if a pimple is not there, but it will take the color away. If you feel like you need thicker makeup, go for Neutrogena's makeup line. Although it is pricey, most (if not all) of the makeup contains Salicylic Acid, which will help your face combat acne all day long!

4. Change your pillowcase frequently.

I know this may sound silly, but yes, having a dirty pillowcase may be causing your acne. You use a pillowcase for at least 7 hours a day, that is 7 hours for dirty bacteria to make its way into your pores, it will end up in a breakout. Some other things you should do frequently, disinfect your phone screen, use paper towels to dry your face off with (used hand towels spread more bacteria, and laundry detergent left in new hand towels can cause irritation) and throw your hats in the washer. Try not to touch your face at all if possible, the dirt from your hands can transfer on to your face and that will end in acne. For this reason, remember to always wash your hands before going to touch your face to wash it. These may sound silly, but I am telling you, they make a world of a difference.

5. Drink lots of water.

Believe it or not, like everything in this world, diet and water have a lot to do with acne. It is proven that when someone eats less junk food their face is generally clearer. A disclaimer though is that there is no official proof that things like pizza and chocolate cause acne.

6. Keep a schedule.

Know when you are going to go through your acne routine a day. Will it be once a day? Twice a day? Set an alarm on your phone for every day and every time you want to go through your skincare routine. For beginners, I strongly recommend trying out everything that is new once a day, then changing it to two times a day when your resistance goes up. The schedule is tedious at first, but once you get the hang of it you will not even need to think about it again.

7. Know your limits.

This one mostly comes with time, but know that you can not get a new face wash, wash your face 3 times a day and expect acne to be gone tomorrow. Treat face washes and topical medication as real medication, begin in small doses and gradually get larger. An example I have here is, I know that I am allergic to Benzoyl Peroxide, therefore I cannot use it every day or any day at that fact, so I stick to only Salicylic Acid and now tea tree oil (a natural alternative of Benzoyl Peroxide).

8. Feel confident regardless.

Remember that you are a beautiful and badass woman or man. Acne is natural, just like love and sex, If someone does not love you because of your acne, dump them.

9. Do not forget moisturizer.

Moisturizer is so important when it comes to acne because many of these products will dry out skin. Throw some on after using your topical medicine and your face will never be peeling from how dry your face is.

10. Get motivated.

Set your goal and achieve it. Nothing (especially acne related) is going to be resolved overnight. Decide quickly that this is something you are going to do and you are going to stick to. Set alarms for the one or two times a day you should be washing your face, always remember to get out a new towel to dry off your face with, and never forget the topical medication!

Take some of these tips and try it out for yourself! Remember if you have hit rock bottom: there is such thing as a pill to take that will get rid of your acne, but there are a lot of side effects. Do not get on those meds unless completely necessary. Best of luck to you on this rough journey, I hope my suggestions helped!

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