5 Reasons I'm Happy I Got Dropped From My Sorority

5 Reasons I'm Happy I Got Dropped From My Sorority

And to those of you asking, yes I am "okay."

At first, I thought my life was over. Not literally, of course, but I was pretty upset. I got dropped from my sorority a mere three hours before I was supposed to get initiated. But, I'm actually happy about it, and here's why:

1. No more living by someone else's rules.

I am by no means a bad girl. I'm not a rebel and do not like to cause trouble. But I absolutely hate living by others' rules. "No doing this," "No doing that." If somebody tries to tell me what to do, they will watch me fulfill that action right in front of them. I felt as though I was walking on eggshells trying to please everyone and not break any rules. THANK GOODNESS I DON'T HAVE TO DO THAT ANYMORE! Now, watch me dance on a table (because yes, that was actually a rule).

2. Sundays are finally mine.

Being a full-time college student and transitioning to a new job, I barely have time to study as is. Now, I don't have to worry about setting aside 4+ hours on Sunday for chapter. Of course, it was great seeing everyone and my actual friends, but now I can relax, I don't have to put on makeup and heels and dress nice. I can wake up whenever I want, eat some breakfast, study, catch up on emails, schedule my week, and so much more. I actually have the whole day to watch football and Netflix if I want to! I can work the Sunday brunch rush and make major bank.

3. No more dues.

Any Greek organization is not cheap. They are expensive, especially when I paid for all of the dues and fees by myself. Within two months, I spent nearly $700 just in dues before initiation. Now, poof, all gone. BUT, I do not need to pay any more dues ever again! I can use that money for food or pay my tuition or even buy that shirt I've had my eye on for awhile.

4. No blending in.

Every organization has their ideal individual in mind, hence why you are given a bid from said organization. You fit the image they want. I am definitely a unique person. I did not mesh well with all of the girls in the organization, but I still respected them and tried my best to understand them.

Now, I can act however I want (within reason of course). I can say what I want when I want and how I want. I do not have to adhere to any image needed to be upheld. I can be whoever I want to be without a label defining me.

5. I don't have to pretend to be happy.

I wasn't happy, at all. I felt judged. I felt as though I didn't fit in. I felt like I had to try to impress every single individual in that room and if I upset one I was done. I loved what the organization stood for, I really did, but I was miserable. I would go home crying because I thought I wasn't welcomed, soon to find out I really wasn't welcomed. But now, I don't have to pretend.

This organization was not for me, and that is perfectly okay! I do not regret my decisions or time spent towards the organization. But, I'm happy I'm not in it anymore.

The way I got dropped (over a lie and rumor, might I add) sucks, but it was the way it was meant to happen. I'm a firm believer in everything happens for a reason, and that God was protecting me from something. I am happy, and I am not pretending anymore.

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To The Girl Who Doesn't Feel That Rush Is 'Worth Her Time'

Rushing and recruitment is sometimes a bit overwhelming, but the end product is so worth it.

"What really is rush?"

"Is it even worth my time?"

"Will the girls in Greek life even want me?"

First off, there are too many “what-ifs” to count in this situation. Rush is hectic and wild and at Indiana, it’s “extra.” Visiting 22 houses and picking one in a span of a week and a half is hard. It’s cold and wearing heels to walk through the snow is so stupid. It is so easy to assume girls would not like you because the Greek system seems so picky and there are around two thousand girls who rush and only nine hundred get bids.

The “what-ifs” exist, trust me I know. I struggled to decide whether or not to rush. I didn’t want to go through it if I was going to come out the other side completely empty-handed. The whole process relies on you to be outgoing and charismatic and for many people that is hard.

But it is worth it in the end.

You have to remember there are other factors going into this argument.

You walk around in the cold and stand at the entrance to the door for 10 to 20 minutes to get into their beautiful house you’d never get to see otherwise.

You talk to over sixty girls and make new friends and find connections you never knew existed.

You go to 22 houses to find the one you can’t wait to call home.

If you are like me and are on the fence about deciding whether or not to rush at IU or any other school for that matter, know that you are not alone as well. Many girls go into rush not knowing what to expect at all. You don’t have to worry about going in blind, you have a Rho Gamma and many other girls to back you up. You can do it and quite honestly, what have you got to lose? It’s the choice between finding a forever home and just not getting in and in the end, finding a home is worth the risk. It was for me.

Sincerely,

The girl who had no idea what she was getting into, but is so glad she did
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Rush Is Not Scary Or Hard, TBH It's Just Girl Flirting

This is what rush is actually like.

I'll be the first person to admit to you that I am the last person you would expect to join a sorority. I'm hesitant to join big groups because I'm the absolute worst at introducing myself to new people and putting myself outside of my comfort zone.

However, due to where my first semester freshman year took me, I decided to do the one thing I told everyone I would never do: and I rushed. To my surprise, the recruitment process is nothing like I imagined it being, a complete opposite of the numerous portrayals I have seen throughout my life.

(Full disclosure: my school, Indiana University, does not have girls rush until the week before second-semester starts, and in all honesty, I probably would not have decided to rush within the first few weeks of freshman year.)

First of all, the recruitment process itself is not as intimidating as you would expect it to be. I was grouped with other girls rushing and we went from house to house talking to the chapter's members in an informal interview format.

Questions would vary from them asking about your major, your family, and your location on campus to what animal describes you and more "fun" questions like this. Not once are you left to find someone to talk to during the time at each chapter, rather a member of the sorority will escort you to a location in the house where you can have a quick conversation before another person in the house interrupts to get to know you.

Upon arrival to each chapter, the members prepare chants or even songs to sing to the PNM's (AKA potential new members). The idea of this is to be as catchy as possible so you remember the chapter's letters upon further reflection of the sororities you did or didn't like. Also, it's important to note that not "liking" a sorority does not have any reflection on you or the chapter itself. Many times it depends on how well the conversation was among the three or four girls you chatted with.

Sometimes conversations don't go well, and as a result, you may be cut from that chapter. This in no way is meant to destroy your confidence or cause tears because, in reality, the member's interviewing you are trained to figure out whether you will fit into the house's personality, or if another house will suit you better.

None of the girls that I talked to seemed superficial or mean, much like the picture I had envisioned in my head. In fact, many of the recruiters told me they hadn't pictured themselves in a sorority either. Learning this really opened my eyes to what greek life actually is on campus. Preconceived notions which used to put a bad taste in my mouth were quickly proved wrong, so if you find yourself worried about not fitting in to the sorority girl image, I assure you that there is no single type of sorority girl.

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