5 Reasons I'm Happy I Got Dropped From My Sorority

5 Reasons I'm Happy I Got Dropped From My Sorority

And to those of you asking, yes I am "okay."

At first, I thought my life was over. Not literally, of course, but I was pretty upset. I got dropped from my sorority a mere three hours before I was supposed to get initiated. But, I'm actually happy about it, and here's why:

1. No more living by someone else's rules.

I am by no means a bad girl. I'm not a rebel and do not like to cause trouble. But I absolutely hate living by others' rules. "No doing this," "No doing that." If somebody tries to tell me what to do, they will watch me fulfill that action right in front of them. I felt as though I was walking on eggshells trying to please everyone and not break any rules. THANK GOODNESS I DON'T HAVE TO DO THAT ANYMORE! Now, watch me dance on a table (because yes, that was actually a rule).

2. Sundays are finally mine.

Being a full-time college student and transitioning to a new job, I barely have time to study as is. Now, I don't have to worry about setting aside 4+ hours on Sunday for chapter. Of course, it was great seeing everyone and my actual friends, but now I can relax, I don't have to put on makeup and heels and dress nice. I can wake up whenever I want, eat some breakfast, study, catch up on emails, schedule my week, and so much more. I actually have the whole day to watch football and Netflix if I want to! I can work the Sunday brunch rush and make major bank.

3. No more dues.

Any Greek organization is not cheap. They are expensive, especially when I paid for all of the dues and fees by myself. Within two months, I spent nearly $700 just in dues before initiation. Now, poof, all gone. BUT, I do not need to pay any more dues ever again! I can use that money for food or pay my tuition or even buy that shirt I've had my eye on for awhile.

4. No blending in.

Every organization has their ideal individual in mind, hence why you are given a bid from said organization. You fit the image they want. I am definitely a unique person. I did not mesh well with all of the girls in the organization, but I still respected them and tried my best to understand them.

Now, I can act however I want (within reason of course). I can say what I want when I want and how I want. I do not have to adhere to any image needed to be upheld. I can be whoever I want to be without a label defining me.

5. I don't have to pretend to be happy.

I wasn't happy, at all. I felt judged. I felt as though I didn't fit in. I felt like I had to try to impress every single individual in that room and if I upset one I was done. I loved what the organization stood for, I really did, but I was miserable. I would go home crying because I thought I wasn't welcomed, soon to find out I really wasn't welcomed. But now, I don't have to pretend.

This organization was not for me, and that is perfectly okay! I do not regret my decisions or time spent towards the organization. But, I'm happy I'm not in it anymore.

The way I got dropped (over a lie and rumor, might I add) sucks, but it was the way it was meant to happen. I'm a firm believer in everything happens for a reason, and that God was protecting me from something. I am happy, and I am not pretending anymore.

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Way To Go Phi Kappa Tau, Just Perpetuating The Stereotype That ECU Is Nothing But A Party School

The Xanax fraternity four is setting the bar high

It seems that fraternities are becoming an endangered species on ECU's campus. Over the last few months, a lot of frat's have either been shut down or suspended. Phi Kappa Tau was added to this list last week when 4 arrests were made in a raid where over 2,500 Xanax bars were seized (YIKES) along with two shotguns, and it was said that marijuana was also being sold from their house.

Of course, the word got out fast and caused a buzz amongst students. One ECU student took to Twitter to call out one of the guys who was arrested because he just so happens to be in the same group as him in one of his classes and apparently they had a presentation due the next day. Talk about bad timing.

The tweet went viral with over 153k retweets and 596k likes. Leave it to ECU to make light of a bad situation. Whoever @iam_spiffy has overshadowed the actual news story with how much traction his tweet got, which is really a testament to how prevalent Twitter is to our generation and how it can make literally anything funny.

While it is unfortunate for the other fraternity members, I don't know if there is any excuse even the sliest of college students could come up with to explain why in the world there were 2,500 Xanax bars. Way to go Phi Kappa Tau, just perpetuating the stereotype that ECU is nothing but a party school even more! *Rolls eyes*

Just to clarify, not all fraternities and sororities at ECU (and in general) are like this one. A lot of them focus on networking and philanthropy as opposed to becoming "street pharmacists." Hopefully, other frats on campus will learn from this one's mistakes, but if not let's only hope that someone else will have a funny response to it.

Here you can read more about the details of these arrests.

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I'm Not Even A Little Surprised That My Big Became My Best Friend

And she made a BIG impact.

The most exciting part of joining any sorority is Big/Little Reveal, no questions asked. Mine was certainly no exception. I only knew a few initiated girls before my reveal, and I'll admit, I was nervous. I wasn't sure who she could be and I didn't know what to expect after I got to know her.

When a sheet was dropped during my Big/Little Reveal and my big was standing there, I was so excited! I already knew I liked her, but I had no idea I'd grow to love her as much as I have.

The weeks leading up to my initiation consisted of getting coffee once a week, just getting to know each other. It wasn't until after I was initiated and we went to our first semi-formal together that we really started to become close friends. But, thank God we did.

Since then, she has become a rock in my life, someone I can call and would come running to me when I need her. She is my favorite morning coffee date and the best Thursday night Moe's vs. Chipotle argument. She's someone who always keeps me in check.

The best thing about being able to call her my big and a best friend is that I have someone who can guide me every day. I can go to her in need of advice about classes, with questions about anything Greek, or general complaints about life. She stays honest with me and we know we can lean on each other. She tells me when she knows I'm right and she calls me out when I'm grumpy and need a nap, and I think that's the best kind of friend anyone could ask for.

Not every Big/Little relationship is as amazing as mine, so I know I'm blessed to have her. She makes me excited about Greek Life and more confident every day!

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