It's almost New Year's. Get out your pens and paper and start jotting down that redundant list of how you plan to better yourself this coming year. Why don't you change it up this year instead? It's the year of a new you. Here are five suggestions for changes that will make that bland resolution list more attainable and exciting.

1. Don't Aim For A Relationship, Love Yourself Instead

If you meet someone and the time feels right then go ahead and start a relationship, but this should not be your goal. Your goal should be independence--to be okay on your own without a man or woman. Once you feel independent and you stop looking for a significant other, well, that's when you just might find one. You have to love yourself before you can love someone else.

2. Don't Aim To Lose Weight, Get Fit Instead

There are so many different body types. The thigh gap is not for everyone. There is a huge craze lately in weight loss, but America needs to get fit, not skinny. Looking healthy is a lot more attractive than looking too skinny.

3. Don't Go To The Library More, Study More

The library is a great place to study for some people, but it's not for everyone. There is a stigma around the library that if people do not see you there then you must not do work. This, of course, isn't true. Studying somewhere other than the library gives you the opportunity to explore your campus. Classrooms are often open for students at night. If you have an exam in the morning, why not study at night in the same room that you'll take the exam in tomorrow?

4. Don't Make Time For Naps, Make Time For Sleeping At Night

Naps are great and, as a college student, you definitely learn to love napping. However, when you graduate and go into the "real world" there aren't naps scheduled into that 9-5. Try to get to sleep earlier at night so that you wake up refreshed and don't need a nap.

5. Don't Be Completely Independent, Call Your Mom

You can put "be independent" on your resolution list, but it doesn't mean that you have to be completely independent. Learning to live on your own in college is a meaningful experience, but it can also feel lonely. If you have a problem then it's okay to talk it out with your friends and family. The great thing about living on your own in college is that everyone understands that it is hard, so it is no longer selfish to talk about yourself. Your friends want you to be happy and they want to help you work through your struggles with school, life, and boys. Your parents want you to feel independent, but they also love to hear your voice. Talk more. You're not alone!