It is a massive lie when people tell young women when they go off to college that every guy grows up and becomes a man that is smooth in his game of flirting and that he will immediately sweep you off your feet. Though we are out of high school, that does not necessarily mean that a guy's flirting game gets better the minute he goes on campus and gets involved in his new surroundings.
The lifestyle of college may be new, but the antics behind spitting game for some guys may be a bit out dated. If you're into a guy who can only use these tools to flirt, you might need to look elsewhere.
Alright, gentlemen. Once you leave 7th grade, this one is no longer acceptable. If physical touch is something you do to show a lady affection, by all means. But poking is NOT the way to go about it. A gentle touch on the arm, a sweet hug, or playing with her hair will be more than sufficient. But poking? This leads to more awkwardness than playfulness, and we are past dealing with the awkward encounters with a guy that lives on his own and shaves his face.
2. Making fun of her
It still saddens me to this day, that parents tell their daughters that if a boy is mean to you that he likes you. This teaches women that if a man is rude to them that this is acceptable, when no one should be treated in a rude manor, even if it jokingly. There is a fine line difference between being sarcastic and being mean, and if the balance is not found, she might just walk out of the door and into another man's life.
Humility is much more attractive to anyone than someone who has a head bigger than this world. By telling a girl how great you are at everything or consistently one-upping her only makes her feel like she's less of a person. Women already have low self-esteem as it is, and showing off/boasting in massive amounts does not get you anywhere with us.
4. Over correcting
In today's society, women still deal with the idea of a man being smarter than her in every aspect besides make up, hair, and cooking. It's one thing to have your disagreements, but to always tell a girl she's wrong when you're first getting to know her is an automatic turn-off. We already feel inferior to you on most things, and constantly telling us that our thoughts or opinions aren't to the level of your thinking does nothing but direct us to putting you in the friend zone.
5. Trying too hard
Do not get me wrong when I say that it is never bad when a girl can see that you're putting in effort. We love to be complimented, surprised with a bag of M&M's every once in awhile, or given a good morning text. We live for those things. But there is such a thing as going to far with these. If you're complimenting her every five minutes or buying her every single thing at Walmart, she's going to worry about being smothered by you. I completely get that it is a hard balance; but it will scare us just as much if we are being overloaded with these things.
By applying these rules to your every day flirt game, I feel that as young men of this nation, we are capable of better flirting antics and having much more successful rates of avoiding rejections for first dates and movie nights. May your flirting be smoother and your game be smoother.