4 Long Distance Friendship Survival Tips

4 Long Distance Friendship Survival Tips

In today's day and age, there are more ways than ever to keep long distance friendships alive.
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A long distance friendship may seem difficult, and even stressful to maintain. Whether the reason is going away to college, relocating for a job, or for love, there comes a point in time when we will not have our best friends within a matter of miles from us. Unfortunately, different circumstances can test the interpersonal relationships that you have with these people. You won't be running into one another because of the physical distance between you, for instance; a multitude of miles between all parties involved could add a small damper to your relationship.

However, that does not mean one should give up on a friendship due to the said distance between those involved. In today's day and age, there are more ways than ever to keep long distance friendships alive. Here is a list of long distance friendship survival tips to keep you and your friends as close as possible despite the physical separation between you.

1. Take Advantage of the Technology Available to You

Despite the stigma surrounding the constant use of technology, it is the quickest and most convenient way to keep in touch. Take advantage of text messaging, video chatting and social media platforms to stay in contact and up to date in each other's lives.

2. Keep Track of the Little Details

Know their schedule. Remember the little details about them that you have learned before being separated by distance. Notice when they tend to be the least busy in case you want to surprise them with a spontaneous phone call or even a visit.

3. Sending Gifts and Care Packages

Remember their favorite things or find something that reminds you of them and throw together a care package. Sending these back in forth will not only make everyone happy but will help to keep the friendship alive and well.

4. Counting Down The Days Until You Are Reunited

Whether it be a small get-together or going on a trip, being reunited with friends after an extended period of time apart is very exciting. Not only do you get to see how you all grew and changed but you also get to create more memories. The only downside: the days go slower as you count down to seeing them. Remember to keep your head held high and that you will see them soon!

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To The Grandmothers Who Made Us The Women We Are Today

Sincerely, the loving granddaughters.
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The relationship between a grandmother and her granddaughter is something so uniquely special and something to be treasured forever.

Your grandma loves you like you are her own daughter and adores you no matter what. She is the first person you run to when you have a problem with your parents and she never fails to grace you with the most comforting advice.

She may be guilty of spoiling you rotten but still makes sure to stress the importance of being thankful and kind.

Your grandma has most likely lived through every obstacle that you are experiencing now as a young adult and always knows just exactly what to say.

She grew up in another generation where things were probably much harder for young women than they are today.

She is a walking example of perseverance, strength, and grace who you aim to be like someday.

Your grandma teaches you the lessons she had to learn the hard way because she does not want you to make the same mistakes she did when she was growing up.

Her hugs never fail to warm your heart, her smile never fails to make you smile, and her laugh never fails to brighten your day.

She inspires you to be the best version of yourself that you can be.

You only hope that one day you can be the mother and grandmother she was to you.

A piece of girl’s heart will forever belong to her grandma that no one could ever replace.

She is the matriarch of your family and is the glue that holds you all together.

Grandmothers play such an important role in helping their granddaughters to grow into strong, intelligent, kind women.

She teaches you how to love and how to forgive.

Without the unconditional love of your grandma, you would not be the woman you are today.

To all of the grandmothers out there, thank you for being you.

Sincerely,

the loving granddaughters

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I Begged For Love

And still never got it.
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I remember when I was in Kindergarten and I was up at around midnight, searching for something. As I found myself in the bathroom, I opened drawers looking for anything and my eyes stumbled upon a pair of scissors. I went back into my room and shaved my thirteen-inch hair to nothingness.

I remember my father coming into my room the next morning and beating me senseless until I told him why I cut my hair. I did this because my father never liked his daughters (he was/is sexist), so I thought that if I cut my hair to look like a boy then maybe he would love me. When I told him this, he started exiting the room and he told me, "You're such a dumb bitch." I was six.

There was a single time during a long car ride where my mother and father made me place my hands on the top of my head for hours until we got home. As I did this without fighting, I asked my mother when we got home if I had been good that day; I was begging for some kind of approval. She completely ignored me, brushed me off, and forced me to do things for her for the rest of the night. I was nine.

My father called me "thing" for as many years as I can remember. Instead of standing up and saying anything I just got up and took it. I took the name-calling to the point where I thought that if I were to stand up and say something, I would get thrown out. So I succumbed to his pressures.

When I told my father about the sexual abuse I'd experienced from my oldest brother, he told me that I should tell CPS so that I could be taken away because he didn't even want me. He looked at me and my younger sister in the eyes and told us, "I need the money from him more than I need you." My hurt was completely disregarded and I, as a young teen, was shown my true worthlessness.

My father worked third shift, meaning I only ever saw him on the weekends if I chose to stay home. I remember writing pages and pages of different letters to him, telling him that I'd do anything to make things feel more peaceful. I remember committing to doing insane things in these letters that no young girls should ever have to do. I gave more of my self than I ever should have, and I still was shaken off like I was nothing.

I've begged for love since the minute I remember any single thing. I have asked and asked for my mother and father to care about my existence, and when I realized that they didn't, I stopped caring about my existence too. I've done anything I can to ask someone to love me and the reality is that maybe I am simply unworthy of love.

I wake up every single morning without the feeling that me waking up mattered at all. I sit in classes, work jobs, sit with people and survey the area realizing that there is nothing at all I can do to be loved even though there are so many around me that are loved by at least someone.

I have begged for love in every way I could have imagined. I still never got it. But I'm done begging, so I guess I'm just never going to get it.

Some people aren't meant to be loved, I guess.

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