You're never going to look in the mirror and see absolute perfection. You can love yourself to the moon and back and still have plenty of insecurities. What matters is how you choose to deal with these little imperfections. Once you learn to shut up the voice in your head that tells you aren't good enough, then you're even better than perfect. I laid out 4 of my deepest insecurities and I'm going to tell you how I've learned to love each one.

1) My Voice

I have a really normal voice... usually. It's not too high and it's not super low either. But anytime I'm nervous, talking to someone of authority, or in an argument, I turn into Minnie Mouse. My voice gets embarrassingly high and I sound like a 5-year-old. As I got older I realized that everyone gets nervous and everyone is afraid of something. This fact alone started to calm me down. It's like picturing people in their underwear. Once you realize that everyone does embarrassing things then you learn to love your awkward little moments.

2.) My hair

I've had insanely frizzy hair my entire life. I've dyed it more times than I can count and it's more damaged than I'd like to admit. I used to sit around pulling it into buns and braids and ponytails until it looks absolutely perfect. One day I realized that I have never looked at a person and noticed their hair. I don't look at other people and wonder why they have so much frizz or why theirs a piece of hair loose from their bun. People don't care if you look perfect because nobody looks perfect.

3) My grades

I used to be a complete slacker in school. It wasn't that I didn't want to do well, I just gave up on things very easily. I never understood math or science, so I stopped trying. I always worried that people thought I was dumb. I didn't take any advanced classes and I would always make jokes to cover up my bad exam scores. I acted like I didn't care, but it really bothered me. When I got to college I got a chance to start over. No one thought I was a slacker and no one was expecting me to fail. Once I started to care about the things I was learning I started to want straight A's. I didn't want good grades to prove to others that I was smart, I wanted to prove to myself that I knew the material.

4) My sense of self

Sometimes, it's hard to be yourself. I'm a people pleaser and sometimes that leads to me putting the needs of others above the needs of myself. I used to be a follower and I would do anything for my friends. I would still do anything for my friends but that is because I love them, not because I'm scared that they'll leave me if I don't. I've learned to be completely myself, regardless of whether or not people will love me. I learned that being likable isn't the most important thing in life. In fact, it's not important at all. What matters is whether or not you can look yourself in the mirror and love the person that's staring back at you.