Anyone who has ever planned a wedding will tell you, there are so many things that go into planning a wedding. Which in my world means, many things to worry about! I am worrier. I always have been and up until recently I always thought I would be. But planning my own wedding has really taught me that there are some things that just aren’t worth worrying about.

1. Weather

My wedding ceremony is on Friday (September 30^th) and the forecast has been rain for the last few days. At first I was a little nervous because my ceremony was supposed to be outside and there won’t be a lot of pictures to take, etc. But then I realized, no matter what happens, the rain is a possibility. So rather than worry about it, I’m embracing it! I bought a fun umbrella from Barnes and Noble (our theme is literature) that I can incorporate into my wedding photos, as well as some brightly colored rain boots! I looked on Pinterest for some rainy wedding photo ideas and there are tons. Who knew that rain/overcast skies could actually be a good thing for photographers because the glare of the sun? Not me! So that’s one thing that’s off the list of items to worry about!

2. Other People’s Opinions (besides your fiancée’s)

Planning a wedding has taught me lots of things, one of the biggest being that everyone has an opinion about things pertaining to your wedding and you cannot accept them all and make everyone happy. I learned this early on and keeping this in mind has definitely helped final decision making. The only person’s opinion that matters at the end of the day is yours and your fiancée's! If someone doesn’t like the centerpiece you picked, so what? I’m hand making most of my centerpieces so I know people will have opinions. Why didn’t you just buy flowers? Why didn’t you do this or that? I will smile and nod and thank them for their comments, however negative they might be. And then I will politely say that I liked the way these looked, I worked really hard on them and I am proud of them. End of discussion. So keep that in mind when making the decisions about your wedding. At the end of the day, the only people that matter are you and your new husband or wife.

3. The Actions of Others

I am the kind of person that likes to diffuse situations long before they even get hot. But when it comes to your wedding, that is not your job! You cannot control how other people will act, point blank. Yes, you can sit the family members that don’t like each other (because there are always some in every family) at opposite ends of the room during dinner but you can’t prevent those two people from taking it upon themselves to have a loud argument with each other in front of the bar after a few drinks. Designate someone to be the “diffuser”, who will take care of situations like this if they happen to pop up. The only person you are worrying about on your wedding day is your fiancée. Just keep looking at him or her and remind yourself how much you love them.

Above all, the best advice I can give is just roll with the punches! Something will go wrong on your wedding day, it’s just the way the world works. You can either have a meltdown and let it affect the whole rest of your day or just take it in stride, fix it if you can and move on. I guarantee there will be way more happy and positive things happening your wedding day than negative things. So just think happy thoughts! Happy thoughts make for a happy bride!

Happy wedding planning!!