25 Pieces Of Relationship Advice For A 25th Anniversary

25 Pieces Of Relationship Advice For A 25th Anniversary

Not everyone stays in love and makes it this long, there has to be some secret to it.
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In this day in age, relationships are quite different than they used to be. In the past, people courted each other, took time to know one another and had dates -- not just hangout sessions. As time continues on, the dating culture has changed immensely. Today, it seems the dating scene moved to the hookup scene. It is rare to find someone who wants more than just a hookup here and there, or one and done. Very little do you see the old way of courtship. Is it too much to ask for the old way of dating back? Where are the gentlemen and polite acts? Interactions have changed, relationships have changed and nothing is quite the same anymore.

"Back in the day" were times of healthy, lasting relationships that were good. There may have been a few that were not how they are supposed to be, but that few wasn't the majority you see today. It seems to be the norm to have an unhappy relationship or ones that end, including many marriages. People go from person to person trying to find happiness and some just don't seem to get there. Not everyone wishes for this type of relationship, some don't mind a casual hookup or dating for a few weeks. Me personally? I'm looking for something good, something that will last, a relationship where I can be happy. The reason I am so picky about this may be because I have the best example of what a relationship should be in life, my parents.

Just this week they celebrated their Silver Anniversary. That's 25 years! 25 years is a long time, but my parents have spent this together and are still in love at each moment of the day. This is why I will not ask for anything less. While I have always had a great model of what a happy relationship should be, not everyone has. After thinking about this for a little while I asked them what made their relationship so special and how it has continued to work day in and day out. When I asked them, they had to really think because it was just second nature to them. After consideration, they provided me with 25 tips to a good relationship in honor of their 25 and more amazing years together.

1. Share everything.

2. Always involve each other in decisions, big or small.

3. Don't ever go to bed angry. (This is difficult sometimes.)

4. Laugh together, cry together, have fun together.

5. Include extended family in life events.

6. Have a sense of humor.

7. Have patience whenever you can, not everything in life is easy.

8. A relationship is a job, not a hobby. You have to work at it in order to make it work.

9. Discuss what you want in your relationship before you begin one.

10. Trust one another.

11. Take advice and criticism at the same level.

12. Try to look at things with a positive aspect.

13. Make sure to have common interests.

14. Allow a person to continue to have their own time and space.

15. Remember that not everything is in your hands to control.

16. Don't let money overshadow the more important things in life.

17. Make time for just the two of you each day (excluding all outside sources, ex. technology).

18. Happiness isn't always about you, there is another person in your life to please.

19. Support each other's passions, goals, achievements.

20. Plan date nights as time goes on, so not to let life take over things.

21. Talk about everything, communication and honesty is key.

22. Take lots of pictures to save memories.

23. Treat each other from time to time.

24. Have a stress relief together (ex. exercise, crafts, etc.).

25. Make each other smile every day.

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To The Parent Who Chose Addiction

Thank you for giving me a stronger bond with our family.

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When I was younger I resented you, I hated every ounce of you, and I used to question why God would give me a parent like you. Not now. Now I see the beauty and the blessings behind having an addict for a parent. If you're reading this, it isn't meant to hurt you, but rather to thank you.

Thank you for choosing your addiction over me.

Throughout my life, you have always chosen the addiction over my programs, my swim meets or even a simple movie night. You joke about it now or act as if I never questioned if you would wake up the next morning from your pill and alcohol-induced sleep, but I thank you for this. I thank you because I gained a relationship with God. The amount of time I spent praying for you strengthened our relationship in ways I could never explain.

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Thank you for giving me a stronger bond with our family.

The amount of hurt and disappointment our family has gone through has brought us closer together. I have a relationship with Nanny and Pop that would never be as strong as it is today if you had been in the picture from day one. That in itself is a blessing.

Thank you for showing me how to love.

From your absence, I have learned how to love unconditionally. I want you to know that even though you weren't here, I love you most of all. No matter the amount of heartbreak, tears, and pain I've felt, you will always be my greatest love.

Thank you for making me strong.

Thank you for leaving and for showing me how to be independent. From you, I have learned that I do not need anyone else to prove to me that I am worthy of being loved. From you, I have learned that life is always hard, but you shouldn't give into the things that make you feel good for a short while, but should search for the real happiness in life.

Most of all, thank you for showing me how to turn my hurt into motivation.

I have learned that the cycle of addiction is not something that will continue into my life. You have hurt me more than anyone, but through that hurt, I have pushed myself to become the best version of myself.

Thank you for choosing the addiction over me because you've made me stronger, wiser, and loving than I ever could've been before.

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You've Heard Of 'How To Be Single,' But Let's Talk About 'How To Be Romantic'

For some of us, it takes work to be cutesy and romantic.

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Okay, I'm probably the least romantic person anyone has ever met. Not to say that I'm a bad girlfriend or that I'm not caring. I just find love in simple things like knowing what to order for them at restaurants, doing their laundry, planning unique dates, or cooking for them. It's not that I'm opposed to being arduous, I've just never been a chocolate and flowers kind of girl. I'm more of a Mongolian hot pot and "let's walk across the Brooklyn Bridge!" kind of girl. I appreciate some effort, tailoring something to fit a person's idiosyncratic personality or general spontaneity, not how flowery something looks. Not saying that I'm not feminine, I'm just my own entity, so to speak, and that translates into my love life. Needless to say, I thought I should learn how the other half lives, so I've challenged myself to take a course on being a classic/hopeless romantic just to understand how others think and who knows I might change some of my habits!

1. Leave notes

I think it's a really cute and simple idea that I will try to do because it makes everything very personal.

2. Write them a poem

I've had this done for me but I've never actually done it, because believe it or not, I didn't like to read or write poems up until this year.

3. Cuddling

Okay, so I'm not a cuddler, I have no idea why — it's more or less a personal space and attachment issue, I guess. I love hugs though! I guess I just have to be in the mood to cuddle and at times I can be. Other times it just makes me nervous.

4. Dedicate a song to them on the radio

It seems like the people on the radio that do this are crazy in love and honestly, to be able to have the ability to go on the radio and just declare your love for someone else is really inspiring.

5. Surprise them!

I personally cannot stand surprises, but I love to surprise other people and just be spontaneous, so I sort of do this already.

6. Carve your names into a tree

I've thought about doing this, but I've never got around to it, so I promise one day I will.

7. Go see a romantic movie

Nope, nope, I'll barf! Not happening, strictly horror movies for this girl, sorry!

8. Make them a care package

See, this makes me think a lot about what really defines romantic, because I do this all the time, but I don't consider it romantic, I just think it's sweet.

9. Take a walk on the beach together

I've done this, but I have to be doing this while looking for seashells or I feel like I'll be bored.

10. Make a CD for them

"THE PERKS OF BEING A WALLFLOWER," CHARLIE IS QUAKING.

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