25 Pieces Of Relationship Advice For A 25th Anniversary

25 Pieces Of Relationship Advice For A 25th Anniversary

Not everyone stays in love and makes it this long, there has to be some secret to it.
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In this day in age, relationships are quite different than they used to be. In the past, people courted each other, took time to know one another and had dates -- not just hangout sessions. As time continues on, the dating culture has changed immensely. Today, it seems the dating scene moved to the hookup scene. It is rare to find someone who wants more than just a hookup here and there, or one and done. Very little do you see the old way of courtship. Is it too much to ask for the old way of dating back? Where are the gentlemen and polite acts? Interactions have changed, relationships have changed and nothing is quite the same anymore.

"Back in the day" were times of healthy, lasting relationships that were good. There may have been a few that were not how they are supposed to be, but that few wasn't the majority you see today. It seems to be the norm to have an unhappy relationship or ones that end, including many marriages. People go from person to person trying to find happiness and some just don't seem to get there. Not everyone wishes for this type of relationship, some don't mind a casual hookup or dating for a few weeks. Me personally? I'm looking for something good, something that will last, a relationship where I can be happy. The reason I am so picky about this may be because I have the best example of what a relationship should be in life, my parents.

Just this week they celebrated their Silver Anniversary. That's 25 years! 25 years is a long time, but my parents have spent this together and are still in love at each moment of the day. This is why I will not ask for anything less. While I have always had a great model of what a happy relationship should be, not everyone has. After thinking about this for a little while I asked them what made their relationship so special and how it has continued to work day in and day out. When I asked them, they had to really think because it was just second nature to them. After consideration, they provided me with 25 tips to a good relationship in honor of their 25 and more amazing years together.

1. Share everything.

2. Always involve each other in decisions, big or small.

3. Don't ever go to bed angry. (This is difficult sometimes.)

4. Laugh together, cry together, have fun together.

5. Include extended family in life events.

6. Have a sense of humor.

7. Have patience whenever you can, not everything in life is easy.

8. A relationship is a job, not a hobby. You have to work at it in order to make it work.

9. Discuss what you want in your relationship before you begin one.

10. Trust one another.

11. Take advice and criticism at the same level.

12. Try to look at things with a positive aspect.

13. Make sure to have common interests.

14. Allow a person to continue to have their own time and space.

15. Remember that not everything is in your hands to control.

16. Don't let money overshadow the more important things in life.

17. Make time for just the two of you each day (excluding all outside sources, ex. technology).

18. Happiness isn't always about you, there is another person in your life to please.

19. Support each other's passions, goals, achievements.

20. Plan date nights as time goes on, so not to let life take over things.

21. Talk about everything, communication and honesty is key.

22. Take lots of pictures to save memories.

23. Treat each other from time to time.

24. Have a stress relief together (ex. exercise, crafts, etc.).

25. Make each other smile every day.

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I'm A Woman And You Can't Convince Me Breastfeeding In Public Is OK In 2019

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Lately, I have seen so many people going off on social media about how people shouldn't be upset with mothers breastfeeding in public. You know what? I disagree.

There's a huge difference between being modest while breastfeeding and just being straight up careless, trashy and disrespectful to those around you. Why don't you try popping out a boob without a baby attached to it and see how long it takes for you to get arrested for public indecency? Strange how that works, right?

So many people talking about it bring up the point of how we shouldn't "sexualize" breastfeeding and seeing a woman's breasts while doing so. Actually, all of these people are missing the point. It's not sexual, it's just purely immodest and disrespectful.

If you see a girl in a shirt cut too low, you call her a slut. If you see a celebrity post a nude photo, you call them immodest and a terrible role model. What makes you think that pulling out a breast in the middle of public is different, regardless of what you're doing with it?

If I'm eating in a restaurant, I would be disgusted if the person at the table next to me had their bare feet out while they were eating. It's just not appropriate. Neither is pulling out your breast for the entire general public to see.

Nobody asked you to put a blanket over your kid's head to feed them. Nobody asked you to go feed them in a dirty bathroom. But you don't need to basically be topless to feed your kid. Growing up, I watched my mom feed my younger siblings in public. She never shied away from it, but the way she did it was always tasteful and never drew attention. She would cover herself up while doing it. She would make sure that nothing inappropriate could be seen. She was lowkey about it.

Mindblowing, right? Wait, you can actually breastfeed in public and not have to show everyone what you're doing? What a revolutionary idea!

There is nothing wrong with feeding your baby. It's something you need to do, it's a part of life. But there is definitely something wrong with thinking it's fine to expose yourself to the entire world while doing it. Nobody wants to see it. Nobody cares if you're feeding your kid. Nobody cares if you're trying to make some sort of weird "feminist" statement by showing them your boobs.

Cover up. Be modest. Be mindful. Be respectful. Don't want to see my boobs? Good, I don't want to see yours either. Hard to believe, I know.

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Ladies, It's Good To Be Honest With The Boy You Like, Please Share Your Feelings

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As girls, we're often told that we need to be chased, and we need to be pursued and that the guy needs to make the first move. And even if we do want to tell someone how we feel, it's terrifying to take that first step because you don't know how they're going to respond. Maybe you'll scare them off, maybe you'll lose their friendship, or everything will be awkward for a year and a century.

Well, it's true — it is terrifying.

But I'm here to tell you that it's OK to be honest, it's OK to be share how you're feeling, it's OK to be bold. Even though it's terrifying.

I recently had the experience of sharing with a boy that I liked him, and let me tell you I was nervous. I literally couldn't sleep and my hands were shaking and my heart was pounding. I honestly thought I was going to combust. I had no idea how he was going to react, but I knew in my heart (and from the Lord) that I needed to share how I felt. I'm a big fan of honesty. I hate games of trying to figure out how somebody feels and what this or that text means.

So, I took the step and I told him how I felt.

I told him that I sometimes thought of him as more than a friend and that I valued his friendship and just wanted to be honest. I told him that I wasn't expecting anything in return and wasn't trying to overwhelm him. I told him that whatever his response was I could handle it and hoped we both were mature enough to move forward as friends. Yes, I was scared out of my mind... but it went well.

We're still only friends. But I have no regrets.

Because not only does he know how I feel, but I know how he feels. I don't have to constantly stress over what this or that means. And luckily for me, he was a guy who could handle the truth and talk about his feelings.

Ladies, I know it's scary to be so vulnerable and risk getting hurt. But don't be afraid to open your heart. God will open and close the doors and lead you to the right place. All you can do is be yourself and be honest with yourself and the people around you. Maybe it doesn't go well, maybe it all blows up and you're disappointed. Well, then it's time for that door to close. Who wants to be with someone who can't handle an awkward conversation every now and then?

Be honest with the people you care about. Open your heart and take a chance. And give the rest to the Lord.

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