23 Questions You Have About Post-Grad Life

23 Questions You Have About Post-Grad Life

Trying to pull it together and answer life's questions in the next 365 days.
110
views

Entering my last year of college, reality is sinking in that I'm going to actually have to get my life together and be an actual adult soon. It seems like just yesterday I was a sweet, innocent freshman moving into the dorms, ready to start college. The upperclassmen seemed so put together and like their lives were going in the right direction. They really had it all: the perfect internships, a great academic-to-social-life balance, and awesome time management skills.

After finishing finals this semester, it hit me. This is my last year of college. I am supposed to be one of those upperclassmen... but I don't really feel l have it together like I should. I will admit that I have had some great internships, but there is still so much more I feel like I should be doing. I probably emphasize social life more than academic life, and I'm always the one pulling all-nighters before exams and big papers because procrastination is still my best friend. Somehow, it always works out for me. But still, despite my abilities to pull it together when I need to and come through at the last minute, there are so many things I am not ready for in the real world or don't really know how to do.

Not only am I trying to find a big kid job for my post-graduation life, I need to start figuring some other things out. For example, how to be a responsible, functioning member of society. So if you have any advice or answers to my ever-growing list of things I need to figure out in the next 365 days, help a sister out.

1) How do I fill out a FAFSA? Shout out to my parents for always doing this for me, but I actually have no clue how to do this.

2) How long is it socially acceptable to continue to use my parents' Netflix account?

3) How do I file taxes?

4) What is tax deductible? Should I be saving every single receipt?

5) Do I have to get my own phone plan once I graduate? If so, how expensive is a flip phone (because I probably can't afford a data package)?

6) How exactly do I pay back my loans? Do they just send me a bill in the mail? How do I update my address so they will know where I live? I don't even know where I will be living!

7) How early do people start getting job offers?

8) How early is too early to accept a job? If I'm still interviewing with other places, how long is it acceptable to leave the other person hanging while I decide?

9) If I move to another state, how do I search for housing? Or find roommates? Is it weird to live alone?

10) Is it weird to live near campus if I stay here? I still will have a lot of friends on campus, but I don't want to be the creepy alum who can't just leave.

11) How expensive are regular season tickets compared to student season tickets for sports games? Can I still purchase student tickets and just stand in the back?

12) Is it acceptable to still use my student ID to get discounts places? I'll still be a poor *post-grad* college student paying back loans.

13) Do normal adults go out after work for happy hour a lot, or it is just a Friday thing? Do you go with co-workers or does this violate some sort of rule?

14) Do I have to wear dress pants at work when it's business professional or is it okay if I wear dresses and skirts that are professional? I mean, I don't want to come across all "Elle Woods" but dress pants just aren't really my thing.

15) What do post-grad people do with their free time/weekends? I mean, you work from 9-5, but then what? You don't have homework or anything to do.

16) How expensive are gym memberships/personal trainers?

17) If you're moving to a new place, how do you make new friends/date outside of work? I want cool people to hang out with, but I also don't want all of my friends to be people that I work with, and I don't have the student groups/classes/parties to meet people at anymore.

18) Also, if you move to a new place, how do you figure out all the fun places to go? What if you work with old/lame people? Do you go out alone and attempt to make friends there or what?

19) Where can you get cheap kitchenware? I have zero pots or pans because my roommates always bring them, but I feel like I'll probably have to get my own at some point.

20) What's the best way to find a new dentist or doctor? Do I just look around near the area or is there some sort of ranking website I can look at for quality?

21) Is it bad to take vacation time during spring break season and go on a spring break with my friends?

22) What is the best way to build credit? What do you need good credit for? I know paying credit cards and loans on time builds it and you use it for car and house loans, but is that it? Or is there more to it? What is a good credit score to have?

23) What do I claim on an I-9? How do I fill out a W-2? How much do I have to pay in taxes?

I know that I will probably just figure things out as I go, and I will probably have a million more questions as I prepare for post-graduate life, but I think this is a pretty solid start. I'll just keep rolling with the punches and take things as they come, hoping things continue to fall into place.

Popular Right Now

To The Girl Struggling With Her Body Image

It's not about the size of your jeans, but the size of your heart, soul, and spirit.

717201
views

To the girl struggling with her body image,

You are more than the number on the scale. You are more than the number on your jeans and dresses. You are way more than the number of pounds you've gained or lost in whatever amount of time.

Weight is defined as the quantity of matter contained by a body or object. Weight does not define your self-worth, ambition or potential.

So many girls strive for validation through the various numbers associated with body image and it's really so sad seeing such beautiful, incredible women become discouraged over a few numbers that don't measure anything of true significance.

Yes, it is important to live a healthy lifestyle. Yes, it is important to take care of yourself. However, taking care of yourself includes your mental health as well. Neglecting either your mental or physical health will inflict problems on the other. It's very easy to get caught up in the idea that you're too heavy or too thin, which results in you possibly mistreating your body in some way.

Your body is your special, beautiful temple. It harbors all of your thoughts, feelings, characteristics, and ideas. Without it, you wouldn't be you. If you so wish to change it in a healthy way, then, by all means, go ahead. With that being said, don't make changes to impress or please someone else. You are the only person who is in charge of your body. No one else has the right to tell you whether or not your body is good enough. If you don't satisfy their standards, then you don't need that sort of negative influence in your life. That sort of manipulation and control is extremely unhealthy in its own regard.

Do not hold back on things you love or want to do because of how you interpret your body. You are enough. You are more than enough. You are more than your exterior. You are your inner being, your spirit. A smile and confidence are the most beautiful things you can wear.

It's not about the size of your jeans. It's about the size of your mind and heart. Embrace your body, observe and adore every curve, bone and stretch mark. Wear what makes you feel happy and comfortable in your own skin. Do your hair and makeup (or don't do either) to your heart's desire. Wear the crop top you've been eyeing up in that store window. Want a bikini body? Put a bikini on your body, simple.

So, as hard as it may seem sometimes, understand that the number on the scale doesn't measure the amount or significance of your contributions to this world. Just because that dress doesn't fit you like you had hoped doesn't mean that you're any less of a person.

Love your body, and your body will love you right back.

Cover Image Credit: Lauren Margliotti

Related Content

Connect with a generation
of new voices.

We are students, thinkers, influencers, and communities sharing our ideas with the world. Join our platform to create and discover content that actually matters to you.

Learn more Start Creating

Why You Should Bring Your Close Friend As Your Formal Date

Before asking that cute girl to formal think about asking a friend

56
views

Every year since I was a junior in high school I have always looked forward to homecoming or prom. When I got to college I began to look forward to my fraternity formal. I was never concerned with what to wear or the expense of formal but rather who I was going to ask. It can be difficult to make a decision. If you ask anyone friends with me they will tell you how I am one of the most indecisive people out there. There are so many people I am friendly with or have a close relationship that it can feel difficult to make a decision. But let's look at that phrase again. You might think why does he want to bring someone who is his friend to his fraternity formal rather than someone he likes or is dating. To answer this question, some of the girls I have liked I have not been able to be the true me around and that also applies to the girls I have dated as well. I am different around my friends and I want someone to know the real me rather than me just having to pretend.

Maybe I am still experiencing the effects of a fun weekend but I have noticed that every formal or prom that I have brought a date with not only was a fun formal but interacted and connected well with my friends. That is the main thing I look for in a formal date, they need to be liked by my friends and many of them are still pretty friendly after the formal. You are spending the weekend with them and the drive down for you formal. There will be a lot of time spent with your date so it is important to bring someone you know you will have fun with. I am not saying that there isn't anything wrong with bringing someone else but I always found it best to bring a friend if you are not dating someone.

Think about the people you know you will always have fun with. This can be an indication of who you should bring and why but you should also think about the positives in this situation. Your fun and the time spent with the people should be prioritized before anything else. This event is about you and you should have someone with you that you know is fun to be around and someone you can enjoy yourself around along with your friends. Friends know you as well as you know yourself so there is not an idea of having to pretend to be someone else. The good thing about friends is that you do not run out of things to talk about and there is always something new to learn. Take your formal as a trip that you get to experience with the people closest to you. That is my take.

The key for me is to know that I will have fun with my date at formal. The drive to formal can be long and you are sharing a hotel room with your date along with spending time with them during the trip. I talk a lot. I want someone I know who I can carry a conversation with and will not just respond with words such as Yeah or Sounds good. I have always been able to remember not only my formals but specific parts of it as well. I think this is possible because of who I have brought and the memories I made with them.

Formals are important to everyone so think about who you want to spend that moment with. There is nothing wrong with bringing someone who you like but there also is nothing wrong with bringing a friend. Some people might bring someone they are dating but you should not have to compare yourself to other people. Do what makes you happy but remember this weekend is about you and you deserve to bring someone you will have fun with.

Related Content

Facebook Comments