20 Things I've Learned Across My 20 Years

20 Things I've Learned Across My 20 Years

I don't have my life together, but this is what I've got so far.

I’m no longer a teenager!!! Birthdays are a very big deal to me, especially mine. Since I’m officially no longer a teenager, I thought it would be beneficial to look back on my years and make a list of the things I’ve learned. No, I don’t have my life together. My laundry is never done and my idea of a meal is a tub of ice cream. All that matters is that you are trying your best!

1. It’s okay to not go out on Friday night

Some nights you just want to watch Netflix and eat ice cream. There’s nothing wrong with telling your friends you don’t want to go out that night.

2. Eat your fruits and vegetables

You can’t survive off of pizza and ice cream. Trust me, I’ve tried.

3. Be yourself

Life is too short to be someone you aren’t. Be yourself, because people love you for who you are.

4. It’s OK to treat yourself, but not too much

Go buy that chocolate milk after you took that crazy hard math test! But don’t go too crazy treating yourself, because your wallet will not be happy.

5. Always eat breakfast

Fueling your body is a great start to the day. Even if it’s just a banana, you should eat something in the morning

6. Wear what you want to wear

You don’t need to wear uncomfortable heels just because they are “trendy”. Wear what makes you feel good!

7. Smile

Smiling is contagious, and the world could use more happiness.

8. Sing... always

Singing can raise up your spirits, especially if there is dancing involved.

9. Don’t apologize

There’s a difference between apologizing when you’re wrong and apologizing to make someone happy. I’m a people pleaser and tend to go out of my way to make sure others are happy. There’s no need to apologize if the other person is in the wrong.

10. Respect other’s opinions, even if you don’t agree with it

Just because you don’t agree with someone’s opinion, it doesn’t give you the right to be rude or hateful. If you respect other’s opinions, they will respect yours.

11. Say what’s on your mind

If anyone judges you for what you have to say, that’s on them. In most cases, your opinion will be appreciated.

12. Do what you love

I’ve been told that if you love what you do for work, it doesn’t feel like a job. Money can be tempting, but doing what makes you happy in the end is a better choice.

13. Call your parents

This is something I’ve learned by going to college across the country from my family. Even though you’re an adult and can make your own choices, no one will give you better advice than your parents.

14. Alone time is important

It’s so important to have time for yourself at least once a week. Whether you work, are a student or something in between, you need to have time to relax. Having time to be by yourself and to just take a breather will help you so much in the long run. I am a firm believer in taking a bath or watching a couple Netflix shows to chill out for a bit.

15. Prioritize on the things that matter

It’s essential to prioritize, but I’ve learned you need to prioritize the things that matter. There are some nights that I have so much homework, but my roommate is having a hard night. In that moment, my priority is to be there for my roommate. Other times I will have a huge test but my friends want to hang out. I have to make my test the priority in that moment. It’s all about learning to find the balance.

16. There’s always tomorrow

I have a problem with putting too much on my plate and thinking I can do it all. Ending up overwhelmed and exhausted, I remember that there’s always tomorrow. There’s no need to put the world on your shoulders when you can finish your To Do list tomorrow.

17. Bring your charger AND SNACKS wherever you go

Too many times has my phone died and I’m left bored out of my mind. Finally, I learned my lesson and I bring my charger wherever I go. You never want to be left without a phone, especially in an unsafe situation. Another thing I always keep on me is food. I am known to get hangry, so snacking is essential.

18. Sweatpants are the best

Lemme tell you…Wal-Mart sweatpants are the BEST $5 you will ever spend. They are so comfortable and are perfect for Netflix binging. Not only are sweatpants a want, they are a need.

19. Text the boy

I have spent countless hours trying to figure out if I was going to text a boy and what I was going to say. Instead of stressing, just text the boy. It’s better to be straightforward rather than wonder every night if he likes you.

20. Love with all your heart

Most of all, love. Love yourself, love your family, and love others. There’s no need denying yourself of love, because you deserve it. Love with all your heart, and keep loving. No matter what happens, love.

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To The Girl Who Had A Plan

A letter to the girl whose life is not going according to her plan.
“I am the master of my fate: I am the captain of my soul.” - William Ernest Henley

Since we were little girls we have been asked, “What do you want to be when you grow up?” We responded with astronauts, teachers, presidents, nurses, etc. Then we start growing up, and our plans change.

In middle school, our plans were molded based on our friends and whatever was cool at the time. Eventually, we went to high school and this question became serious, along with some others: “What are your plans for college?” “What are you going to major in?” “When do you think you’ll get married?” “Are you going to stay friends with your friends?” We are bombarded with these questions we are supposed to have answers to, so we start making plans.

Plans, like going to college with our best friends and getting a degree we’ve been dreaming about. Plans, to get married as soon as we can. We make plans for how to lose weight and get healthy. We make plans for our weddings and children.

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We fill our Pinterest boards with these dreams and hopes that we have, which are really great things to do, but what happens when you don’t get into that college? What happens when your best friend chooses to go somewhere else? Or, what if you don’t get the scholarship you need or the awards you thought you deserved. Maybe, the guy you thought you would marry breaks your heart. You might gain a few pounds instead of losing them. Your parents get divorced. Someone you love gets cancer. You don’t get the grades you need. You don’t make that collegiate sports team. The sorority you’re a legacy to, drops you. You didn’t get the job or internship you applied for. What happens to you when this plan doesn’t go your way?

I’ve been there.

The answer for that is “I have this hope that is an anchor for my soul.” Soon we all realize we are not the captain of our fate. We don’t have everything under control nor will we ever have control of every situation in our lives. But, there is someone who is working all things together for the good of those who love him, who has a plan and a purpose for the lives of his children. His name is Jesus. When life takes a turn you aren’t expecting, those are the times you have to cling to Him the tightest, trusting that His plan is what is best. That is easier said than done, but keep pursuing Him. I have found in my life that His plans were always better than mine, and slowly He’s revealing that to me.

The end of your plan isn’t the end of your life. There is more out there. You may not be the captain of your fate, but you can be the master of your soul. You can choose to be happy despite your circumstances. You can change directions at any point and go a different way. You can take the bad and make something beautiful out of it, if you allow God to work in your heart.

SEE ALSO: To The Girl Patiently Waiting With An Impatient Heart

So, make the best of that school you did get in to. Own it. Make new friends- you may find they are better than the old ones. Apply for more scholarships, or get a job. Move on from the guy that broke your heart; he does not deserve you. God has a guy lined up for you who will love you completely. Spend all the time you can with the loved one with cancer. Pray, pray hard for healing. Study more. Apply for more jobs, or try to spend your summer serving others instead. Join a different club or get involved in other organizations on campus. Find your delight first in God and then pursue other activities that make you happy; He will give you the desires of your heart.

My friend, it is going to be OK.

Cover Image Credit: Megan Beavers Photography

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Time is an Enigma

But so are humans.



It's different for each and every single person on this earth. Some of us are blessed with plenty while others time has been cut short. While each day passes in the blink of an eye, we continue to go bed at night and wake up and do the same thing we did yesterday. None of us know when our days will end, yet most of us rush through our days to meet certain "deadlines" in our lives.

For example, I am graduating from my dream school a half a semester early than everyone else my age. My best friend is graduating in the standard 4 years, and one of our very good friends is in their late twenties still working on graduating with a bachelor's degree. So, while most people say you have to graduate in 4 years not everyone follows that time frame.

In fact, no one follows the same time frame at all.

When my grandparents were 19, they got married. When I was 19, I was interning for a Congressman, working a part-time job and going to school. When Mark Zuckerberg was 19, he dropped out of Harvard to build the empire that is now known as Facebook. When Alexander the Great was 19 he had already conquered multiple countries.

Ann Frank only had 15 years on this earth while Sarah from the Bible had her first child at 90 years old.

Jesus preformed his first miracle at 30 years old, Leonardo Da Vinci was 51 when he painted the Mona Lisa, and Alexander Hamilton became George Washington's right hand man at 22.

Yes, I know this is all a bit overwhelming. By showing you this I want you to know that you don't have to be anything specific at a certain time in your life. As seen by the examples, everyone follows a different blue print in life. So if you are feeling you're not at the place you imagined yourself at know you're not a minute behind schedule. Sometimes we focus so much on the future that we forget to reflect on the past and appreciate the present. Look how far you have come already in your life, just imagine all the new adventures you'll have in the future!

While most of us wish days away in hopes of a brighter tomorrow, appreciate the present moments both big and small. Remember life isn't about waiting for the perfect day as there are few and they are spaced out most of the time. Life is about accepting the bad days and learning from them while also rejoicing in the amazing days. Go out and make the most of your life today. You never know how many more days you have so stop living for the time line and live in the moment. Everything will fall into place and will happen at just the right time.

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