20 Things I've Learned Across My 20 Years

20 Things I've Learned Across My 20 Years

I don't have my life together, but this is what I've got so far.

I’m no longer a teenager!!! Birthdays are a very big deal to me, especially mine. Since I’m officially no longer a teenager, I thought it would be beneficial to look back on my years and make a list of the things I’ve learned. No, I don’t have my life together. My laundry is never done and my idea of a meal is a tub of ice cream. All that matters is that you are trying your best!

1. It’s okay to not go out on Friday night

Some nights you just want to watch Netflix and eat ice cream. There’s nothing wrong with telling your friends you don’t want to go out that night.

2. Eat your fruits and vegetables

You can’t survive off of pizza and ice cream. Trust me, I’ve tried.

3. Be yourself

Life is too short to be someone you aren’t. Be yourself, because people love you for who you are.

4. It’s OK to treat yourself, but not too much

Go buy that chocolate milk after you took that crazy hard math test! But don’t go too crazy treating yourself, because your wallet will not be happy.

5. Always eat breakfast

Fueling your body is a great start to the day. Even if it’s just a banana, you should eat something in the morning

6. Wear what you want to wear

You don’t need to wear uncomfortable heels just because they are “trendy”. Wear what makes you feel good!

7. Smile

Smiling is contagious, and the world could use more happiness.

8. Sing... always

Singing can raise up your spirits, especially if there is dancing involved.

9. Don’t apologize

There’s a difference between apologizing when you’re wrong and apologizing to make someone happy. I’m a people pleaser and tend to go out of my way to make sure others are happy. There’s no need to apologize if the other person is in the wrong.

10. Respect other’s opinions, even if you don’t agree with it

Just because you don’t agree with someone’s opinion, it doesn’t give you the right to be rude or hateful. If you respect other’s opinions, they will respect yours.

11. Say what’s on your mind

If anyone judges you for what you have to say, that’s on them. In most cases, your opinion will be appreciated.

12. Do what you love

I’ve been told that if you love what you do for work, it doesn’t feel like a job. Money can be tempting, but doing what makes you happy in the end is a better choice.

13. Call your parents

This is something I’ve learned by going to college across the country from my family. Even though you’re an adult and can make your own choices, no one will give you better advice than your parents.

14. Alone time is important

It’s so important to have time for yourself at least once a week. Whether you work, are a student or something in between, you need to have time to relax. Having time to be by yourself and to just take a breather will help you so much in the long run. I am a firm believer in taking a bath or watching a couple Netflix shows to chill out for a bit.

15. Prioritize on the things that matter

It’s essential to prioritize, but I’ve learned you need to prioritize the things that matter. There are some nights that I have so much homework, but my roommate is having a hard night. In that moment, my priority is to be there for my roommate. Other times I will have a huge test but my friends want to hang out. I have to make my test the priority in that moment. It’s all about learning to find the balance.

16. There’s always tomorrow

I have a problem with putting too much on my plate and thinking I can do it all. Ending up overwhelmed and exhausted, I remember that there’s always tomorrow. There’s no need to put the world on your shoulders when you can finish your To Do list tomorrow.

17. Bring your charger AND SNACKS wherever you go

Too many times has my phone died and I’m left bored out of my mind. Finally, I learned my lesson and I bring my charger wherever I go. You never want to be left without a phone, especially in an unsafe situation. Another thing I always keep on me is food. I am known to get hangry, so snacking is essential.

18. Sweatpants are the best

Lemme tell you…Wal-Mart sweatpants are the BEST $5 you will ever spend. They are so comfortable and are perfect for Netflix binging. Not only are sweatpants a want, they are a need.

19. Text the boy

I have spent countless hours trying to figure out if I was going to text a boy and what I was going to say. Instead of stressing, just text the boy. It’s better to be straightforward rather than wonder every night if he likes you.

20. Love with all your heart

Most of all, love. Love yourself, love your family, and love others. There’s no need denying yourself of love, because you deserve it. Love with all your heart, and keep loving. No matter what happens, love.

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It's Time To Thank Your First Roommate

Not the horror story kind of roommate, but the one that was truly awesome.

Nostalgic feelings have recently caused me to reflect back on my freshman year of college. No other year of my life has been filled with more ups and downs, and highs and lows, than freshman year. Throughout all of the madness, one factor remained constant: my roommate. It is time to thank her for everything. These are only a few of the many reasons to do so, and this goes for roommates everywhere.

You have been through all the college "firsts" together.

If you think about it, your roommate was there through all of your first college experiences. The first day of orientation, wishing you luck on the first days of classes, the first night out, etc. That is something that can never be changed. You will always look back and think, "I remember my first day of college with ____."

You were even each other's first real college friend.

Months before move in day, you were already planning out what freshman year would be like. Whether you previously knew each other, met on Facebook, or arranged to meet in person before making any decisions, you made your first real college friend during that process.

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The transition from high school to college is not easy, but somehow you made it out on the other side.

It is no secret that transitioning from high school to college is difficult. No matter how excited you were to get away from home, reality hit at some point. Although some people are better at adjusting than others, at the times when you were not, your roommate was there to listen. You helped each other out, and made it through together.

Late night talks were never more real.

Remember the first week when we stayed up talking until 2:00 A.M. every night? Late night talks will never be more real than they were freshman year. There was so much to plan for, figure out, and hope for. Your roommate talked, listened, laughed, and cried right there with you until one of you stopped responding because sleep took over.

You saw each other at your absolute lowest,

It was difficult being away from home. It hurt watching relationships end and losing touch with your hometown friends. It was stressful trying to get in the swing of college level classes. Despite all of the above, your roommate saw, listened, and strengthened you.

...but you also saw each other during your highest highs.

After seeing each other during the lows, seeing each other during the highs was such a great feeling. Getting involved on campus, making new friends, and succeeding in classes are only a few of the many ways you have watched each other grow.

There was so much time to bond before the stresses of college would later take over.

Freshman year was not "easy," but looking back on it, it was more manageable than you thought at the time. College only gets busier the more the years go on, which means less free time. Freshman year you went to lunch, dinner, the gym, class, events, and everything else possible together. You had the chance to be each other's go-to before it got tough.

No matter what, you always bounced back to being inseparable.

Phases of not talking or seeing each other because of business and stress would come and go. Even though you physically grew apart, you did not grow apart as friends. When one of you was in a funk, as soon as it was over, you bounced right back. You and your freshman roommate were inseparable.

The "remember that one time, freshman year..." stories never end.

Looking back on freshman year together is one of my favorite times. There are so many stories you have made, which at the time seemed so small, that bring the biggest laughs today. You will always have those stories to share together.

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The unspoken rule that no matter how far apart you grow, you are always there for each other.

It is sad to look back and realize everything that has changed since your freshman year days. You started college with a clean slate, and all you really had was each other. Even though you went separate ways, there is an unspoken rule that you are still always there for each other.

Your old doom room is now filled with two freshman trying to make it through their first year. They will never know all the memories that you made in that room, and how it used to be your home. You can only hope that they will have the relationship you had together to reflect on in the years to come.

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8 Things I Have Learned During My Freshman Year Of College

♫ Everything is not what it seems... ♫

As the end of my freshman year quickly approaches, I can't imagine all that's happened this past year. I've semi-lived on my own for eight months, joined a sorority, and somehow became a partial adult all in the matter in that short time.

Here are eight important things I've learned during this past school year!

1. College students do not care, like at all.

You could be doing the macarena while on rollerblades screaming, and most people would treat it like a normal activity.

2. Skipping class is a lot easier than it seems.

*Me every time I walk into my 8 A.M. at 7:59 A.M.

3. A 4.0 GPA is attainable, but you'll have a limited social life.

Classes get harder as you get older, and sometimes a B is all you can manage without going insane.

4. Sometimes knowing absolutely no one is the most comforting thing in the world.

You can be whoever you want and do whatever you want, and it's the nicest feeling sometimes.

5. If you don't know what you value, your life will be 10 times easier.

Don't be friends with people who make you question their beliefs or make you go back on what you believe in.

6. Do things for yourself every once in a while, even if it's only to keep your sanity.

Blow off that one homework assignment so you can go to bed before 2 A.M. Watch another episode, even though you have class in 45 minutes. Just be careful about how often you do it!

7. Friends are important in a way that family will never be.

When you're sick, rundown, over classes, and your family lives 2 hours away, your friends are the ones who got you.

8. Dogs make everything better.

Literally everything!

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