20 Things I've Learned Across My 20 Years

20 Things I've Learned Across My 20 Years

I don't have my life together, but this is what I've got so far.

I’m no longer a teenager!!! Birthdays are a very big deal to me, especially mine. Since I’m officially no longer a teenager, I thought it would be beneficial to look back on my years and make a list of the things I’ve learned. No, I don’t have my life together. My laundry is never done and my idea of a meal is a tub of ice cream. All that matters is that you are trying your best!

1. It’s okay to not go out on Friday night

Some nights you just want to watch Netflix and eat ice cream. There’s nothing wrong with telling your friends you don’t want to go out that night.

2. Eat your fruits and vegetables

You can’t survive off of pizza and ice cream. Trust me, I’ve tried.

3. Be yourself

Life is too short to be someone you aren’t. Be yourself, because people love you for who you are.

4. It’s OK to treat yourself, but not too much

Go buy that chocolate milk after you took that crazy hard math test! But don’t go too crazy treating yourself, because your wallet will not be happy.

5. Always eat breakfast

Fueling your body is a great start to the day. Even if it’s just a banana, you should eat something in the morning

6. Wear what you want to wear

You don’t need to wear uncomfortable heels just because they are “trendy”. Wear what makes you feel good!

7. Smile

Smiling is contagious, and the world could use more happiness.

8. Sing... always

Singing can raise up your spirits, especially if there is dancing involved.

9. Don’t apologize

There’s a difference between apologizing when you’re wrong and apologizing to make someone happy. I’m a people pleaser and tend to go out of my way to make sure others are happy. There’s no need to apologize if the other person is in the wrong.

10. Respect other’s opinions, even if you don’t agree with it

Just because you don’t agree with someone’s opinion, it doesn’t give you the right to be rude or hateful. If you respect other’s opinions, they will respect yours.

11. Say what’s on your mind

If anyone judges you for what you have to say, that’s on them. In most cases, your opinion will be appreciated.

12. Do what you love

I’ve been told that if you love what you do for work, it doesn’t feel like a job. Money can be tempting, but doing what makes you happy in the end is a better choice.

13. Call your parents

This is something I’ve learned by going to college across the country from my family. Even though you’re an adult and can make your own choices, no one will give you better advice than your parents.

14. Alone time is important

It’s so important to have time for yourself at least once a week. Whether you work, are a student or something in between, you need to have time to relax. Having time to be by yourself and to just take a breather will help you so much in the long run. I am a firm believer in taking a bath or watching a couple Netflix shows to chill out for a bit.

15. Prioritize on the things that matter

It’s essential to prioritize, but I’ve learned you need to prioritize the things that matter. There are some nights that I have so much homework, but my roommate is having a hard night. In that moment, my priority is to be there for my roommate. Other times I will have a huge test but my friends want to hang out. I have to make my test the priority in that moment. It’s all about learning to find the balance.

16. There’s always tomorrow

I have a problem with putting too much on my plate and thinking I can do it all. Ending up overwhelmed and exhausted, I remember that there’s always tomorrow. There’s no need to put the world on your shoulders when you can finish your To Do list tomorrow.

17. Bring your charger AND SNACKS wherever you go

Too many times has my phone died and I’m left bored out of my mind. Finally, I learned my lesson and I bring my charger wherever I go. You never want to be left without a phone, especially in an unsafe situation. Another thing I always keep on me is food. I am known to get hangry, so snacking is essential.

18. Sweatpants are the best

Lemme tell you…Wal-Mart sweatpants are the BEST $5 you will ever spend. They are so comfortable and are perfect for Netflix binging. Not only are sweatpants a want, they are a need.

19. Text the boy

I have spent countless hours trying to figure out if I was going to text a boy and what I was going to say. Instead of stressing, just text the boy. It’s better to be straightforward rather than wonder every night if he likes you.

20. Love with all your heart

Most of all, love. Love yourself, love your family, and love others. There’s no need denying yourself of love, because you deserve it. Love with all your heart, and keep loving. No matter what happens, love.

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"What would I do without you guys???"

1. "Can I wear your shirt out tonight?"

2. "Does my hair look greasy?"

3. "We should probably clean tomorrow..."

4. "What should I caption this??"

5. "Is it bad if I text ____ first??"

6. "Should we order pizza?"

7. *Roommate tells an entire story* "Wait, what?"

8. "How is it already 3 AM?"

9. "I need a drink."

10. "McDonalds? McDonalds."


12. "Okay like, for real, I need to study."

13. "Why is there so much hair on our floor?"

14. "I think I'm broke."

15. "What do I respond to this?"

16. "Let's have a movie night."

17. "Why are we so weird?"

18. "Do you think people will notice if I wear this 2 days in a row?"

19. "That guy is so stupid."

20. "Do I look fat in this?"

21. "Can I borrow your phone charger?

22. "Wanna go to the lib tonight?"

23. "OK, we really need to go to the gym soon."

24. "I kinda want some taco bell."

25. "Let's go out tonight."

26. "I wonder what other people on this floor think of us."

27. "Let's go to the mall."

28. "Can I use your straightener?"

29. "I need coffee."

30. "I'm bored, come back to the room."

31. "Should we go home this weekend?"

32. "We should probably do laundry soon."

33. "Can you see through these pants?"

34. "Sometimes I feel like our room is a frat house..."

35. "Guys I swear I don't like him anymore."

36."Can I borrow a pencil?"

37. "I need to get my life together...."

38. "So who's buying the Uber tonight?"

39. "Let's walk to class together."

40. "Are we really pulling an all-nighter tonight?"

41. "Who's taking out the trash?"

42. "What happened last night?"

43. "Can you help me do my hair?"

44. "What should I wear tonight?"

45. "You're not allowed to talk to him tonight."

46. "OMG, my phone is at 1 percent."

47. "Should we skip class?"

48. "What should we be for Halloween?"

49. "I love our room."

50. "What would I do without you guys???"

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8 Things You Should Know about being a Server

"Some of my customers make me want to print this out and staple it to their foreheads."


I wrote this out of frustration of the ones who don't know what it's like to be a sever.

This has been on my heart ever since I became a server and it's these things I want everyone to understand.

1. We don’t make an hourly wage


Well, we do, but it's only $2.15 an hour. After taxes are taken out, it comes to be roughly $0.75 an hour. Being a server is not like other jobs, we do not rely on our weekly check to pay the bills or put gas in our cars. If I serve 6 tables in one night and they all leave me $3, looks like I'm leaving with only $18. My paycheck from my 40 hour pay period of 2 weeks is only going to turn out to be about $30, that is if I don't get money taken out for employee meals. Servers work late nights so there is no proper time for dinner so getting an employee meal is sometimes the only option.

2. 15% is not a good tip


Before I started serving I thought that 15% was what I left when my server did a very good job. Keywords of that sentence is “before I became a server." If your server did an excellent job, AT LEAST leave 20%. We would appreciate more, but anything is better than 15%. If you don't know how to calculate this, pull out your calculator, type in the amount of your bill, and multiply by 0.20 and there you go!

3. The attitude you have towards me reflects my attitude towards you


I'm not saying if you're super sassy with me, then I'm going to be super sassy back. I'm saying that if you seem like you don't want to be here and don't talk a lot, then I'm not going to try to spark a conversation with you. I love when my customers acknowledge me and try to spark a conversation themselves. For every customer, I want to make your experience at this restaurant the best that I can make it, but if you don't talk back, I'll try to come to your table the least that I can.

4. Acknowledge me when I come to your table

It is one of the most embarrassing things when I come to the table and you keep talking amongst yourselves when I have asked you a question. I won't be there for long so while I'm standing there, please listen to me and answer my question and then I will be on my way. Most people act like it's not my job to come up and ask what you want to eat.

5. I don’t work in the kitchen, so if your food isn’t cooked right, don’t get an attitude with me


Your fried grouper is over cooked? I'm very sorry and I will repeatedly tell you how sorry I am for that, but I want you to understand something. I am not in the kitchen cooking the food myself. The kitchen will mess up sometimes, just like I do, and that's okay. But please, don't get an attitude with me about it because it was not something I could have prevented. I promise we will work it out.

6. I am trained to have a greeting line, so please don’t interrupt me before I’m done greeting you


“Hey how are you guys do..."

“I'll have a water with lemon."

I cannot tell you how many times this has happened to me. It is my job to ask you what you want to drink so I will get to it, but before I do that, let me get through my greeting line like I am trained to do.

7. Servers have a lot that goes through their minds


“Ranch for table 6.

Refill drinks at table 7 and 8. Wow that guy drinks a lot.

Don't forget that the guy at table 7 wants his ribeye trimmed a certain way and cooked in-between medium and medium rare.

Where is the water pitcher??

Call out salads for table 8. No onions and peppers on one.

Grab the check from table 5.

Theres no more sweet tea in the urn. We need more!


I saw something similar to this on Facebook one time, and I laughed at how accurate it was. If I forget that ranch for table 6 at the end of the night, it will hit me and I will feel and about it.

8. Lastly, I am human and I will make some mistakes


I will stumble upon my words when I say filet mignon because for some reason it is a hard word for me to say. My mind will go blank sometimes when you ask me what kind of wine we have. I will mess up every now and then. Sometimes it will be your fault because just like me, you mess up too and that's perfectly OK.

Becoming a server was one of the most eye opening experiences for me and if I could, I would make it a law for everyone to be a server at some point in their life, but that would be really silly. I hope this opens the eyes of some people. I know being a server isn't the most difficult job in the whole world, but I can promise you it is not the easiest either.

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