20 Things Every 20-Something Needs To Hear

20 Things Every 20-Something Needs To Hear

20 things I learned by 20

As my 20th birthday approaches faster than ever, I am constantly reminded of the fact that I am growing up. I am starting to become a bigger part of the real world and the experience of adulting is more evident every single day. So here are 20 things I've learned by 20, and 20 things every 20-something needs to hear.

1. It's OK to have no idea what your future is going to look like

It takes me 20 minutes just to decide what I want to eat, much less know how my future is going to pan out. Don't freak out, you have time to figure it out. (And you'll probably change your mind after that anyways.)

2. You can give yourself a break every now and then.

School. Jobs. Responsibilities. They add up, so make sure you give yourself "you" time to recuperate and feel like yourself again.

3. You deserve that extra slice of cake.

No matter what no one gets out of this life alive. So just eat that extra brownie, or cookie, and enjoy it while you can.

4. Cherish your body enough to work out.

At the same time, also know how to take care of yourself in a healthy, happy way. Your body is with you for life and you should love the skin you're in.

5. Keep dreaming.

Never, ever stop dreaming. Don't let others bring you down, don't compare yourself and don't ever lose sight of what you want.

6. You don't have to know what you want.

You may have no idea what your life goals are and that's OK. Just make sure it's what you want and not what someone else does.

7. Be a good listener.

You learn a lot by listening to others, so make sure you listen twice as much as you talk.

8. Indulge in things that are unfamiliar to you.

Culture. Travel. Religion. Get out there and explore, be independent, do something you've never done before.

9. Be thankful for what you have.

Count your blessings and realize what you have, not what you want.

10. Make your own mistakes and learn from them.

You aren't perfect and you are going to mess up sometimes, thats just a way of life. Know that you come out the other side a better, more experienced person.

11. You are more than a number.

Don't look a the scale, or the test score, or the paycheck. Look at your heart and know who you are and what you are worth.

12. Love fully, love beautifully, just love.

If you love something -- love it with everything you have. Wholly. Entirely.

13. Don't set limits for yourself.

And don't let others set limits for you either.

14. Get out of your comfort zone, often.

Try to at least once a month. Do something that scares you and do it again and again.

15. Don't knock it till you've tried it.

Whatever it may be -- culinary class, pilot lessons, foreign food. Don't deny yourself the opportunity.

16. Keep your friends close.

Love your friends to the ends of the world, but know when to walk away. Know when you are being taken advantage of, and know how to get out. Your true friends will shine through in the end.

17. Keep your family closer.

Family over everything. Your family is your rock, your home, your life. Take good care of them and let them know you love them at least once a day.

18. No one is worth crying over.

People can be mean. Girls. Boys. Friends. Know that you will get hurt and might feel betrayed; and if you hurt someone, apologize and own up to it.

19. But crying is OK.

Let it all out. It's the best feeling.

20. Love yourself.

Above all, love yourself and you'll be surrounded by love all your life.

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I'm The Girl Without A 'Friend Group'

And here's why I'm OK with it


Little things remind me all the time.

For example, I'll be sitting in the lounge with the people on my floor, just talking about how everyone's days went. Someone will turn to someone else and ask something along the lines of, "When are we going to so-and-so's place tonight?" Sometimes it'll even be, "Are you ready to go to so-and-so's place now? Okay, we'll see you later, Taylor!"

It's little things like that, little things that remind me I don't have a "friend group." And it's been like that forever. I don't have the same people to keep me company 24 hours of the day, the same people to do absolutely everything with, and the same people to cling to like glue. I don't have a whole cast of characters to entertain me and care for me and support me. Sometimes, especially when it feels obvious to me, not having a "friend group" makes me feel like a waste of space. If I don't have more friends than I can count, what's the point in trying to make friends at all?

I can tell you that there is a point. As a matter of fact, just because I don't have a close-knit clique doesn't mean I don't have any friends. The friends I have come from all different walks of life, some are from my town back home and some are from across the country. I've known some of my friends for years, and others I've only known for a few months. It doesn't really matter where they come from, though. What matters is that the friends I have all entertain me, care for me, and support me. Just because I'm not in that "friend group" with all of them together doesn't mean that we can't be friends to each other.

Still, I hate avoiding sticking myself in a box, and I'm not afraid to seek out friendships. I've noticed that a lot of the people I see who consider themselves to be in a "friend group" don't really venture outside the pack very often. I've never had a pack to venture outside of, so I don't mind reaching out to new people whenever.

I'm not going to lie, when I hear people talking about all the fun they're going to have with their "friend group" over the weekend, part of me wishes I could be included in something like that. I do sometimes want to have the personality type that allows me to mesh perfectly into a clique. I couldn't tell you what it is about me, but there is some part of me that just happens to function better one-on-one with people.

I hated it all my life up until very recently, and that's because I've finally learned that not having a "friend group" is never going to be the same as not having friends.

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Summer And Jobs

Working summers doesn't have to be tedious.


Like many other college students, I was ready for summer but was kinda bummed that I had to work. Its not that I didn't like where I was working, I actually was really lucky to be working in a hospital environment but I just hated being alone all summer from 9-5. I've had this job for a few years now and a few other paid interns came and went but I never really connected with any of them. This year is different though.

I got really lucky to have another intern work with me that was very similar to me. The tasks we got were always simple but they were made to be more fun because I got to do them while talking with someone else. Now I actually enjoy and look forward to going to work.

The key to finding a good job is finding one that you enjoy doing and one that will help you gain knowledge that will help you out with future career plans. Working with friends also make tasks enjoyable! I would be careful with working with your friend however because if your job needs you to be serious and focused, being around your best friends may distract you from that.

Another thing that definitely makes summer jobs more enjoyable are taking breaks! It is your summer vacation after all! I'm not saying don't take a day off just to sit around, but if you make plans with family and friends, take a Friday off and enjoy the warm weather and good company! Employers understand that us college students and on break and have lives, they are usually very lenient with days off!

If you have to do a summer job to make money to live off of or pay for college, the best thing to do is look at the big picture. If you don't enjoy your job but can't afford to quit, remember that the money if going to help you out a lot. Also, this job is probably only for the summer right? So it's not permanent my friend! Get through these annoying few weeks and you will be back at college, taking steps for a bigger and brighter future.

Summer jobs are tough, I know, but make the most of it! And don't forget to enjoy it whenever you can!!!


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