20 Things Every 20-Something Needs To Hear

20 Things Every 20-Something Needs To Hear

20 things I learned by 20

As my 20th birthday approaches faster than ever, I am constantly reminded of the fact that I am growing up. I am starting to become a bigger part of the real world and the experience of adulting is more evident every single day. So here are 20 things I've learned by 20, and 20 things every 20-something needs to hear.

1. It's OK to have no idea what your future is going to look like

It takes me 20 minutes just to decide what I want to eat, much less know how my future is going to pan out. Don't freak out, you have time to figure it out. (And you'll probably change your mind after that anyways.)

2. You can give yourself a break every now and then.

School. Jobs. Responsibilities. They add up, so make sure you give yourself "you" time to recuperate and feel like yourself again.

3. You deserve that extra slice of cake.

No matter what no one gets out of this life alive. So just eat that extra brownie, or cookie, and enjoy it while you can.

4. Cherish your body enough to work out.

At the same time, also know how to take care of yourself in a healthy, happy way. Your body is with you for life and you should love the skin you're in.

5. Keep dreaming.

Never, ever stop dreaming. Don't let others bring you down, don't compare yourself and don't ever lose sight of what you want.

6. You don't have to know what you want.

You may have no idea what your life goals are and that's OK. Just make sure it's what you want and not what someone else does.

7. Be a good listener.

You learn a lot by listening to others, so make sure you listen twice as much as you talk.

8. Indulge in things that are unfamiliar to you.

Culture. Travel. Religion. Get out there and explore, be independent, do something you've never done before.

9. Be thankful for what you have.

Count your blessings and realize what you have, not what you want.

10. Make your own mistakes and learn from them.

You aren't perfect and you are going to mess up sometimes, thats just a way of life. Know that you come out the other side a better, more experienced person.

11. You are more than a number.

Don't look a the scale, or the test score, or the paycheck. Look at your heart and know who you are and what you are worth.

12. Love fully, love beautifully, just love.

If you love something -- love it with everything you have. Wholly. Entirely.

13. Don't set limits for yourself.

And don't let others set limits for you either.

14. Get out of your comfort zone, often.

Try to at least once a month. Do something that scares you and do it again and again.

15. Don't knock it till you've tried it.

Whatever it may be -- culinary class, pilot lessons, foreign food. Don't deny yourself the opportunity.

16. Keep your friends close.

Love your friends to the ends of the world, but know when to walk away. Know when you are being taken advantage of, and know how to get out. Your true friends will shine through in the end.

17. Keep your family closer.

Family over everything. Your family is your rock, your home, your life. Take good care of them and let them know you love them at least once a day.

18. No one is worth crying over.

People can be mean. Girls. Boys. Friends. Know that you will get hurt and might feel betrayed; and if you hurt someone, apologize and own up to it.

19. But crying is OK.

Let it all out. It's the best feeling.

20. Love yourself.

Above all, love yourself and you'll be surrounded by love all your life.

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To The Nursing Major During The Hardest Week Of The Year

I know that no grade can possibly prove what kind of nurse you will be. I know that no assignment will showcase your compassion. I know that no amount of bad days will ever take away the empathy inside of you that makes you an exceptional nurse.


To the Nursing Major During Finals Week,

I know you're tired, I know you're stressed, and I know you feel like you can't go on. I know that no part of this seems fair, and I know you are by far the biggest critic of yourself. I know that you've thought about giving up. I know that you feel alone. I know that you wonder why in the world you chose one of the hardest college majors, especially on the days it leaves you feeling empty and broken.

But, I also know that you love nursing school. I know your eyes light up when you're with patients, and I know your heart races when you think of graduation. I know that you love the people that you're in school with, like truly, we're-all-in-this-together, family type of love. I know that you look at the older nurses with admiration, just hoping and praying that you will remain that calm and composed one day. I know that every time someone asks what your college major is that you beam with pride as you tell them it's nursing, and I know that your heart skips a beat knowing that you are making a difference.

I know that no grade can possibly prove what kind of nurse you will be. I know that no assignment will showcase your compassion. I know that a failed class doesn't mean you aren't meant to do this. I know that a 'C' on a test that you studied so. dang. hard. for does not mean that you are not intelligent. I know that no amount of bad days will ever take away the empathy inside of you that makes you an exceptional nurse.

I know that nursing school isn't fair. I know you wish it was easier. I know that some days you can't remember why it's worth it. I know you want to go out and have fun. I know that staying up until 1:00 A.M. doing paperwork, only to have to be up and at clinicals before the sun rises is not fair. I know that studying this much only to be failing the class is hard. I know you wish your friends and family understood. I know that this is difficult.

Nursing school isn't glamorous, with the white lab coat and stethoscope. Nursing school is crying, randomly and a lot. Nursing school is exhaustion. Nursing school is drinking so much coffee that you lose track. Nursing school is being so stressed that you can't eat. Nursing school is four cumulative finals jam-packed into one week that is enough to make you go insane.

But, nursing school is worth it. I know that when these assignments are turned in and finals are over, that you will find the motivation to keep going. I know that one good day of making a difference in a patient's life is worth a hundred bad days of nursing school.

Keep hanging in there, nursing majors. It'll all be worth it— this I know, for sure.

So, if you have a nursing major in your life, hug them and tell them that you're proud of them. Nursing school is tough, nursing school is scary, and nursing school is overwhelming; but a simple 'thank-you' from someone we love is all we need to keep going.


A third-year nursing student who knows

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To The High School Graduating Seniors

I know you're ready, but be ready.



I am not going to say anything about senioritis because I was ready to get out of there and I'm sure you are too; however, in your last months living at home you should take advantage of the luxuries you will not have in a college dorm. The part of college seen in movies is great, the rest of it is incredibly inconvenient. It is better to come to terms with this While you still have plenty of time to prepare and enjoy yourself.

Perhaps one of the most annoying examples is the shower. Enjoy your hot, barefoot showers now because soon enough you will have no water pressure and a drain clogged with other people's hair. Enjoy touching your feet to the floor in the shower and the bathroom because though it seems weird, it's a small thing taken away from you in college when you have to wear shoes everywhere.

Enjoy your last summer with your friends. After this summer, any free time you take is a sacrifice. For example, if you want to go home for the summer after your freshman year and be with your friends, you have to sacrifice an internship. If you sacrifice an internship, you risk falling behind on your resume, and so on. I'm not saying you can't do that, but it is not an easy choice anymore.

Get organized. If you're like me you probably got good grades in high school by relying on your own mind. You think I can remember what I have to do for tomorrow. In college, it is much more difficult to live by memory. There are classes that only meet once or twice a week and meeting and appointments in between that are impossible to mentally keep straight. If you do not yet have an organizational system that works for you, get one.

I do not mean to sound pessimistic about school. College is great and you will meet a lot of people and make a lot of memories that will stick with you for most of your life. I'm just saying be ready.

-A freshman drowning in work

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