All too often we as a society feel as though it is strange for a 20 year old woman to not be dating unless there is something wrong with her, even more strange that they have never dated before. We begin to question what is wrong with her as if her natural flaws absolutely must revoke every male she comes in contact with. We make it out to be a very big deal and an abnormality when in reality, it is perfectly okay and not a very big deal at all to her (aka the only person who matters in this situation), at least not to me as I am her.

I believe that everything in life happens for a reason; that God has a divine plan for us all. He has proven to me on far too many occasions to count that his timing is perfect and we should never feel the need to question it. I know that when God deems it is time for me to date someone special, it will be more than worth the wait. Perhaps I have already met him and God is waiting for the right time for our relationship to evolve or maybe God has a stranger in mind whose path has yet to cross mine and can't until we each get further along our own separate paths. Regardless of who, how, or when, I know that one way or another, everything will work out exactly how God intends it to.

I also believe that I don't need a man in my life to be happy. We create our own happiness and everyone surrounding us simply adds to it. I consider myself extremely blessed to be surrounded by a lot of really amazing people, both men and women. While I admit that they do often increase my happiness, I know that they could not possibly do that unless I found happiness within myself and I have. If we always depend on other people for our happiness, we will never be able to truly be happy. Therefore, with or without a man right now, I'm able to be happy and I love that!

Not to sound cliche but, I consider myself to be a strong and independent woman. As such, I currently have a lot going on in my life. I am working towards not one but two different degrees and a minor. With that, I am focusing on myself, my education, and my career. If God puts a boyfriend in my life shortly, great! If not, I have plenty of other things to focus on which so far have led me to rarely even think about not having a boyfriend, let alone be upset about it. Again, I know God's timing is perfect.

So please do not feel sorry for me because I am not dating.

No I do not feel the need to date right now.

No I do not feel sorry for myself for not having a boyfriend.

No that does not mean that I don't like guys or find them attractive.

No that does not mean that I never want to get married someday.

The only thing that can or should be taken from my not dating at 20 years old, is a woman simply does not need a man to live her life happily and successfully.

So now that we cleared all of that up, let's now go in peace and share love to everyone, significant other or not.